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Thank you both. I'm at an absolute loss how you can tell someone you love them and I do believe he did to the point where you would treat someone with such contempt. I feel like I'm the enemy to him. I made it easy for him and said email or text if he'd met someone, as I suspected he had, but...

No, thank you - I'd have been there totally for him but wow this hurts! I'm sure he'll be onto the next one soon

This will be my last post here - I am no longer a supporter sadly. I finally found out what it means to excuse bad behaviour as PTSD when it really is just that - my bad, I'm too soft for my own good....and boy does it smart!!!! He had a flare up not long after we met so I gave him space, I...

Hey all :-) It's been a little while since I posted here but I've been dipping in and out of the forums. So a few weeks back I posted I was walking away and @Casey_03 rightly pointed out I really didn't seem at that point when I was still putting 'my' vet's needs ahead of mine....@casey_03 how...

Hey @Sweetpea76 :) Totally get where you're coming from. No matter how bad he's been to me and much as I need closure I really can't or rather won't do anything that would set him back. My bad I know

Hey all :-) Just a quick one. Very sadly I made the decision to final walk away last week and I have to say he doesn't seem at all bothered. The good news thought is he seems to be a little stronger - I only wish him the very best. I've tried asking him when he wants to get his stuff as he...

Thanks EveHarrington - your post means a lot. I did make it clear that I love him and that he has PTSD was not and never has been a deal breaker for me (my brother has had severe mental health issues for a long time) and while not the same at all I have perhaps more empathy than others. Maybe...

EveHarrington - believe me it isn't how I wanted to do it at all and especially like that. He wouldn't talk to me at all not even by phone for weeks and there was no other way it seemed. I guess I'm damaged after years of nasty and abusive relationships, to find someone like him was the best...

Thank you both so much - @ladee what you says makes total sense. I know he will never be well in the conventional sense of the word - he's a great guy and I just feel very sad. I can see what you mean about the hot coals too - when we met it was very much mutual and he then had a flare up. It...

Thanks all so much for your kind words and thoughts. Problem is I don't want a new life - I want him well and I want to be with him. I hate this so much for he's left me with no option. I'd walk over hot coals for him

had to make such a hard decision today and feel heartbroken but I had to do it for my own sake. His PTSD is not directly the reason why I've made the decision - in fact his diagnosis made me think more of him because it takes courage and bravery to seek help for it. If I thought even for a...

So sorry to hear how things are @Peach. Hope you can spend some time on you and pampering yourself. Huge congratulations too on your Associates program. I think you raised a really valid question as to why your sufferer appears so scared of seeing/being with you. I'd be really interested in any...

Hey Sweatpea76 :-) Wow thanks so much for the sound advice. You've really hit the nail on the head about what we think our sufferers need versus our need to contact. Thanks so much - that made a lot of sense and I can see that space is the best and only option. Awww it really does suck huh...

And all advice greatly received....as ever. After the worst birthday last week we had a tiny moment where we both said we both hate what is happening but right now this is for the best. I've quietly squirrelled myself away and have been reading and learning more about PTSD and I know now I was...

Thanks again all of you for your lovely birthday wishes and advice. He ended up telling me he didn't want me. Worst birthday for a verrrry long time

Thank you so much Excon - gladly off to sleep soon and then it's a new day.

Thanks so much Junebug :)

Gizmo - thank you so much :). Wow this all sucks.

Thank you so much for your birthday wishes and the photo of your gorgeous cat, I have a black cat too - awesome animals. I'm trying to realise that - this has just really hurt.

Sorry all I'm a sad old mess tonight. I finally spoke to him last night after 3 weeks no phone contact - he has no answers, he's sorry, he can't cope, he can't see a way forward, he can't be friends as it reminds him of what he's 'ruined', he can't say he doesn't have feelings for me, I'm...

So glad this thread has been created. It's made me feel so much better and chill a bit. I'm at a point where despite trying so hard not to take it personally right now I can't see any other way but to do so. To see someone you care about on FB time and time again while you're shut out, not...

I just wanted to say thank you to all sufferers and supporters on here who offer such great insight, support and a great sounding board to people they don't know from all walks of life who have been brought together by PTSD. There is so much sound advice, opinions, guidance given - on a personal...

Oh no, how come Saelben?

It surely is ;);)

You guys and girls are awesome!!! Thank you for the very sound advice and for the laughs (warm underwear firmly on the shopping list!!). I can't thank you all enough - I guess today things felt hopeless and lonely - people tell me to kick him to the kerb but this isn't him right now ... Well...