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Agree with Mytime - just go along and have some fun.

(((Hugs))). I've been through that too, twice, over the past 9 years. But we never really forgot one another. Granted, I didn't understand it was ptsd in the past, he wouldn't ever let me see it. He would just cut me off and I'd be exactly like you wondering wtf just happened. I would get...

Oh I forgot this - this will always be a part of him. So if you're planning on a long term relationship, then find your stride now because it is likely to happen again. I've done a lot of crying and had time off work. I've cried on my mother's couch, at work, in the car, in the coffee shop...

I think you have to give it time. I don't get responses to I miss you, either. Aside from my initial panic phase which lasted about 4 weeks from him withdrawing and shutting down, I've gotten myself into a good, strong place now. It's sort of like acceptance. We have always been close and...

Welcome to your special new light in the world. Wishing him love, happiness and peace. xo

You haven't failed him. I've learned to say things in a way that doesn't ask questions. Questions seem to be too hard. I'll email/text things like 'just touching base to check you're ok or if you need anything. I'm here for you'.

I emailed him, but did it from a calm energy, not an anxious one. He replied fairly quickly. Said he just wants to curl up in a corner and be invisible, and there's a sadness that has hold of his soul. Finding it hard to get out of bed. He actually greeted me with a term of affection and ended...

I don't have any answers. It's really tough and hard and sucks big hairy balls. The hardest part for me has been to let go of trying to do anything. Sometimes I panic and think if I don't stay in touch with him, he'll forget I'm there, or worse think I've walked away. He's an adult and has...

My guy has combat ptsd, but while dealing with that went through about 5 years of emotional, financial, and mental abuse by his wife. He has complex ptsd as a result. After a bit of digging around, I came across articles about post traumatic relationship syndrome/disorder - maybe look into...

Haven't contacted him in 3 days. I know he'd reply if I asked if he was ok. But I want him to contact me first. I nearly caved yesterday and had an hour or so where I talked myself down. Figured it was just a feeling and I didn't have to act on it. I'm learning stuff about myself too, it seems.

I can't really add more to what's already been said. Stock up food for yourself, even if it's tinned. Get out of the house and walk your baby if it's safe to do so. Rocking around in the stroller will probably put your baby to sleep. My first two were easy-as, they both slept thru the night at 6...

My middle daughter left home at 14 and shacked up with a 19 year old guy for at least 6 months. I would be on the phone a LOT to the police (statutory rape yeah?), to the point that she phoned me at work one day asking me to tell the police to leave them alone. Ummm, no. The advice from the...

He replied tonight that he's really struggling, trying to get his head around what's going on. He said that PTSD is so hard and painful at times that interacting just completely drains him. That he tried to explain to me what is going on is exactly why I love him. For the record, I did not...

Oh wow. I had a dummy spit at him on Friday night by email, which then turned into arguing back and forth all afternoon on Saturday. It sort of ended up ok, not great, but ok. So I then sent an email saying I was at saturation point with talking about ptsd and could we talk about something...

I've had a perforated ulcer which is no fun at all. Peritonitis sucks. Wishing you good results and intervention before that happens.

He actually just emailed me to say he knows I've been there for him, he's not used to that. :tup:

This is sort of like a diary for me at the moment. We emailed back and forth a few times yesterday. He is still pissed off with his sister. He keeps saying, she doesn't need me so I'm nothing to her, she only cares when I can do something for her, she's always been like that, when her life is...

Thank you. I can understand that platitudes are unhelpful. I'm trying to think back over conversations with my guy, and I think I've refrained from giving any, apart from something like 'that's awful' or 'that sucks'. I work a lot in meetings on a legal basis, so I'm used to not having to...

Ragdoll Circus - why is it difficult if they do cope after you've shared something? I hope the question is not too direct. If it is, please don't answer.

The way I look at this is that we are all, whether privileged, supported or not, shit end of the deal - only there by circumstance of birth. By a couple of people who created life. If one of them was damaged, we had a 50/50 chance depending on which one was stronger. It's the sheer luck of...

Can I just throw another idea into the mix? I've been married and divorced twice, done a lot of dating, done a lot of happily-solo time. As the years go by, people in general go through a lot of ups and downs in life, and as a result have baggage and issues to deal with - for a lot of you that...

Thank you, Ragdoll Circus. It's been a tough day for me today. Feel like everything is so hard. In the past, he's been loving but just cut me off. This time he communicates but there's no love. Wishing you a speedy recovery and return to health with whatever is ailing you at the moment xo.

I just asked him outright if he was thinking of hurting himself. He replied no, he thinks he needs intervention at a hospital. There is no affection, but at least he replies with what is actually going on. I sure do miss him, though. If he didn't want anything to do with me I guess he'd just...

Yeah I was thinking that too. Probably not a good time if he's deployed.

Junebug, I think that's a great way to accept it. It is, and always will be part of you just like the colour of your eyes. Like a physical ailment that anybody has from time to time you manage it when needed.