New to this site. Grateful for it. Glad USA War Vets might find a bit of help here. Pray you all find whole-ness.
Wondering as a sub-category, how many here have C-PTSD from chronic abuse from partner? from care-giving elderly parent {Alzheiemers}?
"No matter where you go, there you are" is quote that comes to mind. And "No matter where you go, there will be good & bad people".
Yes, even church. Jesus said "..beware wolves in sheep clothing.." & He called believers "sheep", so it's not meant to be an insulting term.
Yep, trust IS an...
just saying: We're born alone, die alone & walk with God alone - not totally or literally, but mostly. Being a member of a church can help OR hinder your connection to God & depends on many variables. Just like anywhere else in the world, there are good & bad people in churches. just "beware...
You have a story to tell {Freedom Dance}, for sure. THX for sharing some of your experiences here & replying to me!.
So, we can see that we're not alone in our Hurt-by-Christians histories. Yep, hypocrisy, shaming ignorance, misogyny...
To be abused, injured, re-injured inside of a church by...
Such severe Neglect PLUS in your early life! I'm feeling SAD for You & MAD at your Abuser{s]/Neglectors.
Just sent up a quick prayer for you. I wish you peace.
Yep, the mind-body connection is an important Key. Will you say which type of treatment you're receiving: EMDR? CBT? DBT? Other?
THX!
Yep, good advice. I did so, but without satisfaction. THX.
Me neither: Right therapist with the right training, experience & method. Yep, insurance challenge too.
You'd think with all USA Veterns afflicted with PTSD that there'd be more services in more areas. Go figure.
...keep searching, until... I am. Not settling for mediocre therapist again!
Writing this "Neglect IS Abuse" was mostly enjoyable Therapy for me today. Challenging self-expression + Social sharing.
Most of it I wrote in a new, spiral notebook that I'll fine tune in coming days just as a sort of project for my rusty, dusty self.
Some people don't agree that Neglect IS...
Just listened to this twice. Want to share this with everyone as it's so Inspiring.
Got 15 minutes & Kleenex? Story of sweet healing & success from "freeze".
For me, it's a hope-filled way to start 2018.
YouTube, TedX Talk by Dolph Lundren "On Healing & Forgiveness"
Tomorrow {when I wake up} I'm going to take a 1st step in 1 corner of 1 room & try to last 1 hour.
I encourage you to {at least try to} do the same.
High anxiety = No concentration for me. You?
Do "normal" people burn-off anxiety by doing a chore/project? Is that a "healthy" thing to do...
So glad to hear of a church [real Christians] that actually helped you. It somewhat restores my hope. My personal experience is not good.
I was actually flat-out Rejected/abandoned & Shamed/shunned WHILE having trauma/PTSD symptoms by the "pastor" himself which in
itself was yet another...
Your post is like a word mirror to me - meaning that the words of your post are like thoughts in my mind - expect it's needed house work
that I avoid. It's been many, many, too, too many months. I don't know why either. No good or known reason. A quote comes to mind:
"A journey of a thousand...
I might be like you, in this one way: I can advocate for somebody else {as in memory of your brother} or address an audience for a cause
{as in your suicide prevention speech}, without any sense of shame, no matter the issue/subject.
Are you like me, in this one way: I CAN'T "expose" myself...
Before Brene Brown {who is goodl}, there was John Bradshaw {the brilliant original}.
His "Healing The Shame that Binds" book is excellent in my opinion
I just did "shame" search because that's one of my issues too. In my last relationship, the guy couldn't OR wouldn't [does it matter which?]
invest in me/us, get informed about my symptoms/diagnosis, be supportive... It went like this: He'd diminish, deflect, minimize, ignore, criticize, get...
Don't understand if you are getting abused now OR if you are suffering now from past abuses. No matter, you are in distress/upset today,
so I wanted you to receive a response. For whatever it's worth, I empathize: I've had abusive boyfriends {+ 1 sick husband} too.
I have done Lots of study &...
Congrats that you reported an abuser. Sorry you are in such despair. Four years ago, I was in similar situation. Personality Disorder of some kind?
Typical Narcissist will live-out relationship in 3 phases: Elevate [luv-bomb]; Devalue [verbal abuse & smear campaign] & Discard. You got rid...
In my opinion, a betrayal trauma IS trauma. threat of death? only physical death counts? How much of an attachment was/is there? all eggs in 1 basket?
How shocked? How broken hearted?