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Yes, it is hard. Hard doesn't even fell like a word worthy of describing how one feels. And it being so difficult to discuss with people not really aware of what PTSD is and how it can affect relationships adds even more to how hard it is. I can't really tell you what to do in your situation, I...

Yes, I feel the same way. Especially because "outside" people can't understand how it really feels, and that it's not like a "normal" breakup. That your ex was not just "cold". While I think it's never as easy as some people may want to make it look, saying "oh screw him/her" and then move on...

No worries :) this thread doesn't have to be all about me.

thank you @lostforgottensoul :) I don't know if I mentioned it in a previous post, but her PTSD was untreated. I think she did not really reflect or think about why she feels the way she feels... right after the breakup I would've said that I'm 99% sure she didn't think about breaking up before...

Just read through some of the posts in here after I thought about this thread, and especially how much sharing it with you on here, and your heartfelt responses, helped me during this time. It's been about 4.5 months now. I took your advice and concentrated on myself. Taking care of myself. My...

Thank you @Mytime :) yes, I am trying to take care of myself now, neglected that for too long.

Thank you @OrangeJulius. I'll have a look into your diary. I'm happy that that hard time in your life turned out positive and that your boyfriend was able to realize that breaking up with you won't heal him (but probably have quiet the opposite effect). I also have a huge respect for you that...

Thank you so much @OrangeJulius :) it really means a lot reading your kind words! How are you doing now, since you mentioned a similar situation from last year?

Just when you thought it couldn't get worse... So, Saturday came and with it came my Ex-Fiancée to get her stuff from our my flat. With her also came the guy she left me for. He didn't go into the house since I told her beforehand that he will not be let in. So he just sat on the back of his...

Just like others already said, do not excuse his behaviour with his PTSD. The only thing in that story that really can be "excused" by PTSD, in my opinion, is the one where you woke him up and he had a flashback. Everything else is abusive behaviour that he and not his PTSD chose to do. I hope...

A little update on this whole situation. I'm a bit lost for words after reading her latest WhatsApp Status photo (yes, I know, I know.. I now blocked her statuses). What it was? "If it makes you happy, do it". Another one on Sunday was "it requires courage to change something" (or something...

@Hojay yes, your post definitely helped me understand that it's not me. Or at least, that whatever may have been my fault was not enough reason to just up and leave, but to talk about it instead. "the feelings I'd been desperately trying to avoid throughout our relationship", seriously that...

Thank you @Hojay :) also thank you for your post in here, that one gave me some strength, too. I'm sorry to hear that you also had/have to go through a breakup, may I ask how it feels now, 4 months after it happened? Like you said, I also don't think my ex-fiancée (damn that word feels...

@Sweetpea76 somewhere inside of me I know this.. I still feel sorry for her somehow, fearing how she will feel when (if) she may realize what she did, or if the next guy realizes that she's not like this (in the honeymoon phase) in the long run. It shouldn't matter to me anymore, considering how...

While I don't think she is a jumper (she only had 3 relationships before we met), I can see the codependency thing somehow. I mean she is a strong person, but at least the last 3 relationships (if we count the new guy in as a relationship already) have been almost without a day of being single...

Thank you @EveHarrington :) I know what you mean with intensity. It's what made me fall so crazy in love in the beginning. I thought it was a crazy strong emotional bondness between us, after sharing some long nights filled with intense conversations and having so much fun together. Back then...

I am so sorry. Experiencing something similar since last Thursday I can't really tell you much that you didn't hear too many times already probably. We can get help and the companionship of others and it really helps a lot. But nobody can take our pain away. We have to live through it to...

Just reading those posts here now almost made me cry... especially considering my original post was from June 2018 and we had 3 weeks of vacation shortly after that. On Thursday (yep, on Valentine's day), my fiancée broke our engagement via WhatsApp and left to live with another guy she met 2...

It's more like, I know that I do not take enough care of my own needs. But not, because I deny having them, rather because I don't know how to fulfill them on a lot of days. It's not that I could pinpoint what I need or want, other than... Idk... feeling good in my own skin? The thing is, when...

Thanks @Hojay it definitely helps! You put a lot of things into great words, that I myself couldn't. :) @EveHarrington thanks for your message. I understand what you mean. Of course, looking at all that, things are not great in and of itself in the sense of everything's great. What I meant...

Hey everyone, been a while since I logged into here. Quick background: engaged to a wonderful young woman, who had to go through hell in her childhood (CSA by her step-father). Now, I don't know what I want to get from writing this, maybe just something off my chest? I don't know. Things are...

Hey @Songbird I'm sorry you and your husband are going through a tough time at the moment. I can give you some advice based on my experiences as a supporter, telling you what helped me to better understand my girlfriend. or better said, what she did to help me understand her. I always loved...

hey everyone, hope you all have a great day :) First of all, I'd like to say that I DO NOT blame anyone with PTSD for the following problem. In fact, it's something that can be the case in relationships without PTSD. And in some type of way PTSD can also reassure us supporters that there's...

She has to work a lot during the week, like 9-10 hour days at a doctors office, so we usually see each other 1 or 2 times during the week for about an hour or two. If our work schedule allows it, I pick her up after work and drive her home (she lives with her mom, I live in a flat on my own). On...

Hey everybody. Hope you have a great day :) I just don't know where else to talk about it. Tried to talk with my gf about it, but everything I try to say is just seen as an attack or I don't know.. It's just that.. damn. I feel so freaking alone at the moment. My girlfriend survived...