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Same for me... There are days (like today...) where I am scared of going to sleep because I fear I'll have to live another vivid nightmare. I wake up upset with cold sweat, a feeling of dread, terror. Sometimes, I wake up with bruises because I fought and moved too much. Sometimes, I wake up...

@Chris-duck Thank you very much for answering... No, I am alone... I've tried all the long term solutions already (months of EMDR, CBT, topped up with additional months of experimental treatments like the Lifespan Integration... I take medicines against anxiety for nearly 5 years...) but my...

Hi everyone... I am facing a problem that I have a hard time to resolve... There are things I must clear and tidy in my flat, but they are related to the past and trauma (i.e. papers, objects who belonged to me at a traumatic time of my life...) and they do trigger flashbacks. That is so...

I've tried EMDR (8 months) . Although it helped, it was far from being enough... I am now trying the Lifespan Integration Therapy (LIT), which seems to work better to clear past trauma related to long-term abuses of my younger years. It does have its limits, though, and unlike what I could...

@stp2012 That is exactly what I meant and how I view the onion analogy. I would also add that once cooked correctly (once the trauma are properly processed and cleared), the onion in the food adds a tasty flavour and gives us the strength our body needs to live another day without hunger. It is...

@TexCat Yes, she is specialized in trauma therapy. You are very right when you highlight the need to feel in control... The work we do is upsetting and painful, I often feel bad after each sessions and almost gave up because of that. Feeling too passive and bearing the pain without even...

@blackemerald1 Same session, yes, today... She later send me an email to suggest we have a talking session next week instead of keeping going on with what she wants. I've seen her once a week for 7 months... Do I trust her?... I guess... I just don't see why she has stopped a work that started...

Traumas sometimes seem like Russian dolls or like an onion: multiple layers... You see the one on the outside, you think that's the only issue and then, you discover there is another trauma behind, another doll inside the doll, another layer under, and so on, and so on....

We talked and I tried to explain myself... She kept repeating the same stuff, and then said that I was "sabotaging the work". She tried to make me feel guilty because I was not following the instructions blindly, I was asking questions and I was highlighting that I didn't understand the reason...

Today, I had another session with my therapist and I feel deeply misunderstood... What do you do when that happens? What can you do when you can't find the right words?...

@Deadman Have you ever watched the film 'The Hurt Locker'?... The story relates to some issues you raise. It is very difficult to go back to the civvy life... There is no 'Esprit de Corps', too many people lack of any sense of loyalty, courage, discipline and brotherhood. It is normal to feel...

You are not a failure. I felt exactly like you before, because I was also told that in a couple of weeks, I would be healed, but... Hell no ! EMDR seems to work well to treat 1 trauma (i.e. an adult person - call them patient X - with no previous trauma has a sudden car accident. A few weeks...

Hello everyone... I am wondering if anyone else has tried the lifespan integration therapy. If you have, was it worth it? Would you share your experience and any feedback about it? I am under treatment for months... It is hard... I will tell more about how it goes and how I feel if someone...

Yes, I feel exhausted most of the time, and that is deeply debilitating. I am not depressed now, but the fatigue is immense... I think stress is like a vampire draining one's energy.

I'm back... A lot of stress again... Finally, I got an A for the report I struggled to finish on time. However, this success is now overshadowed by the new things in my life (new assignments, new obligations, etc...) and it is hard to keep up... I feel ashamed of my poor time management... I...

Like most of the people here, I wear jeans / t-shirt or simple top. I also wear sport clothes a lot these days. Quite neutral colours (dark blue, black, grey, dark green...) I don't want to be noticed either, and always have shoes I can run and fight with in case I get assaulted. A few years...

@Ronin is right: it is not you, it is the disorder. Sometimes, I start have series of horrible nightmares for no apparent reasons. That's just the brain that is broken, and sometimes, it just relapses. You can go through this bad time. You can. It's probably just a phase, and once things...

Hi @Adam F. , how are you today? Have you ever considered having a dog?... or a cat, if you're a cat person or can't have a pet. Dogs are extremely helpful because they can sense when your anxiety gets out, and if you train him, he can calm you down (for instance, by gently pulling the leash...

@Gamera3000 I agree with @Missycat, you did all you could to protect your niece. Well done for that; many people would have done nothing, but you stepped up and I think your niece may always feel grateful for that. I believe it is important you let your niece know that you will always be here...

Yesterday, I had to go out and I found myself lost and in pain. That could have been prevented if I had in my bag key items. I've decided to always have in my bag: - Painkillers - Something to eat (e.g. a fruit) + 1 bottle of water - Maps (to avoid being disorientated) - A watch

My closest relatives are either dead, or too toxic. I've severed all family ties with the living ones. The situation you are currently living is very difficult and I imagine, very stressful for you. Have you ever tried to speak directly to your niece to warn her? If she's a teenager, she is old...

Hi everyone, I'm just wondering... What are the adjustments you make to make daily life easier to cope with? For example: • I always have water, some food and my computer/mobile phone, in case I can't get up one day. I can then eat and hydrate myself, and warn someone if I had an appointment...

Hi Weedflower, How are you today?... I am so sorry to head what you had to go though. That sounds very stressful, indeed. Have you ever tried EMDR? It is a technique to help desensitize the flashbacks, and reprocess the brain. Basically, after some time, either you will be able to not feel...

I think there are solutions for that. There are many people who love dogs, and would love to have one but can't own one because their landlords refuse it - I'm in that situation... Being a student with only day of lecture, I've got plenty of time. I am sure there are many people like me. Such...

Take all the time you need, @Bristol1485. Please, don't feel bad if you can't do what you feel should be done. Like I said, such situations are very complicated and difficult. One problem with incestuous abuses is that there is an emotional bond with the abuser that pre-exists, which is very...