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Due to the military my husband and I have been living in separate states for a few years. He was isolating a year ago and he ended up having an affair. It was very short lived. At that time we had been married for almost 14 years. The months that followed were awful. In all the years we’ve been...

@Changing4Best do you ever have episodes with a flat affect? If you do, typically how long do they last? Days, weeks? Also, if you do, is ther anything to do to help you? I’m not sure if I should give him space, have some contact. I’m not going to smother him. I’m just not sure what to do.

Yesterday he should have gotten a package I sent him. It had all the letters and cards we’ve written each other over the years. There was one I had framed. He had written it a few years ago. In it, he was saying what are daughter means to him and then what I mean to him. I’m wondering if reading...

His mother is, our daughters developmental pediatrician was strongly hinting she may end up with a diagnosis of it. He was actually diagnosed with it as a teenager but he refuses now to believe or accept it. Up until his flare up he’d been in control and never said a word which is why everything...

@Changing4Best, that makes sense. When he was trying to force me to leave him he said and did some things that he deeply regrets. He told me that he was holding onto anger because it was what he knew best and it was familiar. I remember thinking that when he dropped his anger, guilt was going to...

Thank you for the responses. Our situation is rough. Currently living in separate states for the last two years due to circumstances and the military. He had a major flare in March and was self destructive and trying to force me to leave him. I think emotionally shutting down is what is allowing...

My husband admitted today (I’ve suspected but he wouldn’t say) that he’s emotionally shut down. He’s dead inside and feels nothing. He said it’s comfortable. He stopped therapy a few months ago. I know he needs to be in therapy. My question is; does anyone know or believe if it’s possible to...

I’m not sure what to say as I’m kinda in the same boat as you. 15 years together, I knew he had issues with his PTSD but I never pushed him. Out of the blue he just became a completely different person. Has stated he doesn’t love me anymore, doesn’t want to be tied to anyone, he’s better off...

My therapist recommended The Body Keeps The Score, I started reading it last night. I’m not too far into it but it’s very good and interesting. The chapter I’m on currently is about fight/flight/freeze responses.

Right now I’m not good stress. I think I’m a reminder of him failing. I don’t think the yo-yoing will stop until he works through everything and that won’t happen for a while. He’s ignoring me now so I’ll let him be. I see my therapist Thursday. It’s taking its time getting here.

Perfectly ok and completely appreciated. I think my husbands psychiatrist is right and I’m a stressor for him. I think he is symptomatic but it’s hard to tell as I live in a different state and he’s stopped his medication a few weeks ago. He contradicts himself, he’s he doesn’t care about anything.

I’m sure its different for everyone, but what does it look like? Apathy, indecision, complete contradiction between words and actions?

Right now it seems he’s ignoring me. I’ll leave him alone for a bit. He usually always does the right thing in the end. He just usually needs to time to think things over. He does not see how demanding blind trust without working for it or keeping promises is an unreasonable expectation.

I do trust him. There is just fear with that trust now. What happened three months ago wasn’t him. He felt so bad he was contemplating suicide. I wanted him to acknowledge it so I would feel like I was being heard. He would have done that before. It’s gut wrenching to sit back half way across...

Yep. It’s hard to walk away from 15 years without knowing you tried everything. We’ve built a life together, we have daughter. He wasn’t always this way. I’m know the man he was, I know the man he is and I know how he got here. He basically just told me to say it all or we are done. I laid it...

I was talking to a friend and I think I may just send him an email. I can lay all my concerns out point by point without being rushed or getting sidetracked. I can take a few days to word it carefully. I really just want him to acknowledge and be aware that she may have ulterior motives and to...

Over weather it not his new female friend wants to be more than friends and all the broken boundaries. I know it’s a big issue. He refuses to see all the red flags or even acknowledge that she might be lying to him or even herself about her feelings for him. I think he’s just so desperate for a...

My husband and I live in different states, primarily due to the military. He had a major PTSD flare a few months ago and was very self destructive. Today has been a good day. We’ve been texting most of the day. I feel I have gotten several questions that have been eating away at me answered and...

The reason I ask is that my husband, the most honorable person I’ve ever known, had horrible flare a few months ago. He was very self destructive and did what he considered an unforgivable act because he thought it would force me to leave. I know guilt is eating away at him. Some days he tells...

@lostforgottensoul, when you feel nothing is it at everything or has it ever been directed at one person?

That makes me feel better. Most days I have a hard time dealing with him. I question if he really means it or am I just a glutton for punishment. I’ve lost close to 40 pounds since March from the stress from everything he had said and done. The last couple weeks have been better. My birthday...

Thank you for posting this and thank you to everyone for the replies. This is exactly what I’ve been wanting to know. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We’ve known he’s had PTSD from combat for awhile. He seemed to be doing better but he had been hiding a lot of things. Due to...

My birthday is this weekend and I’m flying to VA to spend it with my husband. Things have been rocky the last few months since he had a major flare and was self destructive. It doesn’t help that we live in seperate states. I’m going to try and just have a fun weekend and enjoy his company. Does...

He dying from the man flu so it was a brief conversation. Only got to like the two top items on my list but they went well. I feel better now then I have in quite a while.

My husband has PTSD with a nasty flare up a few months ago that had some serious self destructive behavior. To make things worse due to a lot of circumstances, mainly military we live in separate states. He was here for a visit last week. Overall it went all. I still feel like I’m in limbo...