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People keep suggesting I get a T here lmao its always the first thing people assume, that I dont have a T lol but Ive been seeing a T for 3 years now 😅

I keep running into this problem with relationships where I feel like the only thing that they are after is my body or my appearance. Even when they are interested in my other qualities, it always seems as if it's because these qualities are useful to them. Nobody seems to figure out that my...

I find myself struggling to fix my relationship with my parents and brother even though it's difficult and I may be better off following the advice of many on here and focusing on a "found family." I don't think the found family advice is very helpful to me as I have trouble forming...

I'm not angry at you at all!!! You didn't make me angry and I'm not just putting up with you. It's not your fault.

I talked to her about it. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would go. I do a lot of catastrophizing tbh

Thank you. It really did help. My mom did it again, this morning, because my window was open and I was wearing shorts so what if someone came in and why wasn't I being careful. At least it wasn't about my dad. I asked her to just let me LIVE. She said I should be watching out for these things...

It's only frustrating because your abuser has taken away something that might help you. I'm so angry that he did that to you and that it has left you without many options for feeling safe calming down. It shouldn't have happened. I hope Ronin's advice about positions help! In terms of trauma...

Yeah, no, thats completely fair. It was bad advice at the start. If you mean that the sensations would get connected and mean you can't watch them again, one of the main reasons I suggested a romance novel is because they're all similar enough to be expendable but often have enough differences...

I'm here. Not sure for how much longer, but if you need to rant, I'm listening. This is a very personal and possibly not-good-for-you way that I deal with these feelings, but I often feel like I'm in more control of my body when I spend some alone time giving it happy sexual memories, if you...

I've been doing phone therapy, and have similar issues as a lot of people in terms of "not having things to talk about" currently because there's nothing I've been doing. But my T told me that it's often those sessions where there's nothing to talk about where a real breakthrough happens b/c...

I think it's also difficult not to minimize what happened to me because that's what I've had to do my entire life. I know it was objectively horrible and bad and every kind of f*cked up, but on a subconscious level I still think it's my fault or that I'm making myself feel bad. It's been implied...

He was trained as a psychoanalyst (plus other things that I have forgotten and am unsure about asking him about because he definitely told me about himself hence me knowing about his being trained to do psychoanalysis lmao) but he also went through medical school. Our relationship is kind of...

I also am unsure how to edit the title of the so that it's clearer. Maybe I should just delete the thread.

Yeah, I think part of my confusion is that I spent a bit of time in the UK where definitions are more distinct. So it was easier to call him a therapist because that's mainly what we do. Hope I can get some more concrete insight. He has an MD, prescribes medication for me and also does talk...

I disagree with framing it as "playing the victim". You are not playing anything. This is just a response that was developed by being abused. You have taken the responsibility of reaching out to an extreme such that you have come to believe that everything that fails is your fault. This is not...

I'm aware, thank you. Trying to get that addressed currently, please see above.

So should I be calling him my psychiatrist then? I was under the impression that psychiatrists don't do talk therapy, they focus on medication

I know I keep calling him a therapist, but he's an MD and has prescribed medication for me, so I guess he's more of a psychoanalyst? psychiatrist? idk. I definitely have an issue with remembering terminology and defining relationships hahaha oh dear Yeah, I had a GP diagnose me in the UK with...

I don't think I'm at risk of being sexually assaulted again, mainly because by now I have so much repressed capital on my brother that if something did happen I would seriously f*ck up his life and not feel bad about it. I think what's the most confusing part is that I depend on my family...

Hi!! Similar case to you, here. I was molested by my brother on a few occasions growing up and it definitely did a number on me. I was v. curious about sex at a young age and by the time I got into uni, ended up having sex with anyone who liked me and it didn't end well. Since then, I've been...

I have definitely opened up about trauma with my T ahahaha I think that happened in my first appointment tbh but I do think b/c like I don't get flashbacks or blackouts, he's trying to shy away from a PTSD diagnosis. I mean, I guess I don't know for sure, but I definitely don't have the standout...

I ended up having to get a note for class, so my question was answered without me actually asking about it yay for best case scenarios! But PTSD wasn't listed, which I guess is a good thing? I don't think I have the right symptoms for it, but reading through this forum has helped me so much...

So my T was telling me that the reason I kept feeling this need to tell people about my trauma is because on some level I wanted to be forgiven/told it's ok/not my fault because I subconsciously feel guilty about it. So I was thinking like.... the only people I don't feel the need to talk to...

After reading everyone's responses, I'm no longer sure that my therapist is pure psychoanalysis but I'm sure he mentioned he had been trained in such at some point. Silences are brutal, but I think it really depends on the relationship you have with the therapist and with yourself - I sometimes...

Thank you. Being kind to myself is difficult because one of my coping mechanisms was shaming myself into being functional ("get to f*cking work you bitch stop using your feelings as an excuse to be lazy") or shaming myself into not acting on bad thoughts("you're chicken, you wont kill...