Thank you @void.. So there has been developments.. I had reached out to him, and he seemed very excited and happy to hear from me. E. He had a friend stay, so we spoke a lot via txts.. He was still speaking to me like nothing had changed between us.. So it was a few mixed signals.. Anyway he...
Hello... I'm sorry for the long post, but I'm so upset and unsure what is happening...
..I don't know if my partner is isolating, split me, or has finished with me, and I don't know whether to try and reach out, leave him alone for longer, or accept this is over.
In the summer, he had...
His therapist has told him to stop people pleasing and to concentrate on just himself. (that I do know) he has to be totally selfish and its not about me. (verbatim) so altho I'd say to him that I'm sad, I think it would make the situation worse. I think if we lived together that would be...
Thank you.. I'm trying, really I am. Its a double edged sword with him as he also is a veteran too.. He has a massive trigger date in the next couple of days so I'm buckling up and preparing for a few more shitty days. I feel much better than I did earlier., so thankyou x
Omg. Your 5th...
Thats brought a big lump to my throat.. It's validation for me that it's OK to feel shit about it. I've now read so much, I understand why it's happening, it just is taking my emotions and heart to catch up with my brain.. And yes painful is a good word to use... Thanks so much x
Thankyou for responding. I've just read your suggested post.... My partner hasn't (yet) abandoned me, he's just quiet.. I'm giving him the space he needs tho we have touched in with each other today. I think if or when it does fall apart properly I will try and do your suggestions.... , I just...
@Survivor3 .. Thanks.. I'm trying to keep busy and do nice things but it's really not doing any good. I wake up with a hurt heart and carry this ball of god knows what in my guts. I'm trying to let the emotions ride thro as normally I'm the type to shut all that out. I know it's an emotion...
My heart physically hurts, just needed to reach out to people that understands....
Partner is cptsd sufferer. Always hidden it, best kept secret in the world.
8 months into relationship he told me, and now is getting treatment.
Ive tried to educate myself and support in any way I can...
Thanks. That's what I think too.. I really appreciate that confirmation tho..i was worried I was reading things wrong, but you and this site has been so helpful. Thanks again x
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply.. Genuinely dont know. I know his therapist said he needs space from triggers. As far as I can see he does go out and does put on a front but hasn't seen me.. He said he needs time, he needs to be selfish and I need to take his healing...
Hello. I'm not sure if I'm posting in the correct area- apologies if I'm not. I came across this site as Ive been searching for information to help me understand and support my partner who has cptsd, in the best way for him and to try to see things from a perspective I don't understand.
So...