Inside Out, The Movie; Wow, What Did You Think?

[Missycat]

We all need a 'joy' in our lives x
Joy - "Sadness, this is the circle of sadness, your job is to make sure all the sadness stays inside of it" - if it was only that easy at times.

Why does sadness wear glasses and a roll neck sweater ?

I thought it sad when the lights went out on the islands / core memories - then i got angry at sadness - or is that the ptsd lol

 

[Tinyflame]

It actually is probably way too abstract a way to conceptualize it, but each one (emotion) in the movie reminds me of people/ things, that I would have thought 'battle it out', more than work together. Or are fighting a losing battle.

If we can integrate who we are (I don't mean that in a DID sense, more rather as becoming self-aware & self-accepting), & cognitively recognize what's happening to us- where it's inappropriate as you said @scout86 (understandable, but self-limiting) maybe we can each figure out when we feel an emotional response, what is that responce trying to serve for us? And find a better way without negating or stuffing it?

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes @Missycat & that's the thing, sadness seems to equal only pain & problems. But there's a need for it, sometimes. Staying in the circle more likely if it's not driving the bus, maybe?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

"Sadness, this is the circle of sadness, your job is to make sure all the sadness stays inside of it" - if it was only that easy at times.

Right!

maybe we can each figure out when we feel an emotional response, what is that responce trying to serve for us? And find a better way without negating or stuffing it?

Right! We do need to find a way to allow each emotion and alliw them the space to feel it. Im so used to numbing it all. Like when all the island fell and the board went black, thats how i feel i am a ton of the time...numb. Cant feel anything.

Anger seems to make a common appearence and covers everything. Its an easy go to as its intense and aimed wrong.

 

[Tinyflame]

Why stuff any emotions? (Well, we know why.) But isn't it more fuffilling to live fully engaged? Do you think they mean that you can't without engaging all of them? I don't know where my nger went? And I don't think I'm passive-aggressive or resentful (hopefully not), but mostly it's no where. Hanging out with Joy, I guess? Lol. :O_o::roflmao:

 

[Missycat]

Yea, i agree @Junebug . It did make me smile when joy was dragging sadness around by her foot and sadness was enjoying the ride - that so explains sadness lol
If i could have one thing from the movie it would be the vacuum that removes unwanted or not needed memories - gosh save a fortune on therapy :)
Its a great thread.

 

[Tinyflame]

I had rage decades ago @lostforgottensoul , so I get it.

But you know what I was told about 10 years ago for anger? When something happens- big or small- say how you feel out loud. Wow. Next thing you know- nothing happens, no anger.

For me, anger means expectations derailed, or rights violated. I have a hard time feeling entitled to either.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh @Missycat you're so cute. :)

Yea, i agree @Junebug . It did make me smile when joy was dragging sadness around by her foot and sadness was enjoying the ride - that so explains sadness lol

I could have killed her- dead weight lol. It mde me feel ashamed for feeling sad/ SI. But like Scout just said, it isn't 'who' we are. (But maybe in my case does explain some of the SI. Because I do also feel very much like a burden. Disgusted at myself. Though disgust isn't the right emotion exactly- not sure what other one lol.)

 

[scout86]

I'm trying to remember everything I've heard and read about this.... (and failing!)

One of the points was supposed to be that all the emotions have "jobs". The job of "anger" is to protect us from the people who want to run over the top of us. "Sadness".....? It looked to me like they were trying to say that if you express "sadness" people will come around and comfort you, which is supposed to make you feel better. At least that's the theory. (Probably not something this crew has a lot of personal experience with.)

One of the things I noticed was that, in Riley, there was total chaos among the emotions. With her parent's, it seemed like things were more coordinated. Like they worked as a team? I asked my T about that. (made him laugh. again.) He said that's the way we'd like to think it works, yes. "Emotional regulation"?

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh haha @scout86 is THAT what emotional regulation is? Hee. :hug:

Yes expressing sadness is more likely to get you shipped to an island. :roflmao: All I could think of was, "Get off your lazy as* Sadness". Inner Critic anyone? ;) :whistling: And, with the parents/ Riley, "you call these problems?!" :rolleyes: And The Foot was "Go to Your Room". Not exactly what I expected. :eek: :confused:

I suppose, one way or another, without joy everything was disregulated. That was the glue.

I do think any emotion that left unchecked kills you, is hard to see the upside of.

Hey.. these are all 'emoticons'.. -> :p

:hug:

 

[scout86]

(Don't tell anyone, but I've been using the emoticons to study up on "feelings" LOL)

 

[Tinyflame]

Good idea @scout86 ! :woot: :tup: :p

Hey, I do wonder, do you think exposing the layers of our traumas- the onion analogy- actually corresponds with getting to, identifying naming & dealing with different emotions at each layer? That that is what resolves trauma? (Because we are feeling beings- were it just facts, it probably wouldn't bother us. I actually miss numbness. :( Well, yes & no. Now 'no' because I've lived without it.)