Therapist double booked so i don't get to see her

[Gs172003]

If you all remember the last session we talked about the zoo and my granddaughter. The time before that she told me she was going to write an email for my supervisor about what I need for work to help me deal with things. She didn't. I don't know how much longer I should hold on. I'm trying to find someone else but it's hard to find here that's not booked up or clear across town now what?

 

[Marinna]

Hi zoogal. My memory is a little fuzzy but didn't you have issues with this therapist before in relation to not feeling comfortable about her behaviour?

 

[FauxLiz]

@Zoogal was it a double booking for your normal appointment time? The reason I ask is how was it decided which patient got to see her? I haven't had an issue with my t double booking but I have with my Pdoc. I always book my next appointment before I leave the first so a few months ago when his office called and said he was double booked and they needed to reschedule me I pushed back. When they kept trying to just say he was double booked and I needed to reschedule I asked for the practice manager. I calmly explained that I had seen the Pdoc at this time every month on the 4th Wed. for over two years and that I wanted to know how they decided I was the patient to be rebooked? In the end I got to keep my appointment and they rebooked the other client. I spent the session hashing it out with my Pdoc cause I was so upset nothing else mattered. It hasn't happened again.

So my advice would be if it is your normal appointment time call back, find out why you had to reschedule and have them find a way to make a session happen.

 

[Gs172003]

@Zoogal was it a double booking for your normal appointment time? The reason I ask...

I guess it was the other person got there first. My therapist actually texted me last week to ask me if I wanted this appointment. So...I don't get it.

She works alone. There's no way to make it happen.

 

[FauxLiz]

@Zoogal if she works alone why can't she find a way to work you in? I say this because my t was a sole practitioner when we started. If we had to reschedule because of something on his end he always found a way to see me if that meant coming in early or staying late sometime.

 

[Gs172003]

@Zoogal if she works alone why can't she find a way to work you in? I say this beca...

I don't know. She told me she'd see me the same time next week ( 4:00 Thursday) for free but that is not helping me.

 

[Suzetig]

My therapist actually texted me last week to ask me if I wanted this appointment. So...I don't get it.

Had you got back to her to say you did want the session? It happened to me once where my T offered me an appointment time and in the time between her offering and me accepting, someone else had booked the session so it wasn’t available any more. For one reason and another I couldn’t accept the session until 2 days later so it was reasonable that she wouid book someone else.

The fact that she’s giving you your next session free though suggests she’s made a mistake with her diary, which is annoying but very human.

 

[Gs172003]

Had you got back to her to say you did want the session? It happened to me once where my T offered me a...

Yes I did. A few minutes after. I'm not sure what happened.

 

[TruthSeeker]

Had you got back to her to say you did want the session? It happened to me once where my T offered me a...

Good trauma therapists are hard to find....ones that can connect. I'm trying real hard not to be needy....so a break once in a while is a good thing (although I feel it has happened too often). I try to believe that it toughens me up.....makes me realize life isn't always going to be fair (I have a strong need for fairness) nor will it be predictable (I need predictable) and keeps the relationship healthy I think. It still pisses me off when it happens, I try to envision her with other clients who might be in a worse place than I am in the moment. I also know that she needs a life to help me....and that she is human, so that's howI rationalize her taking a vacation , surgery, a snow day, or taking herself or her kid to the doc...... on my apt time! She has screwed up with appointments, and apologized.

 

[FauxLiz]

She told me she'd see me the same time next week ( 4:00 Thursday) for free but that is not helping me.

It's good that she is trying to make up for it with the offer of a free session but how does that really help the situation.

@Bkinder this isn't a case of needing to take a break, breaks I get, my t just returned this week from a 10 day spring break vacay that I completely understood. When he does continuing ed training and isn't available for my appt great. Yes she is human and yes good trauma therapists are difficult to find. @Zoogal never said she apologized just that she would be seen at that time next week. That is not admitting a mistake just trying to smooth over an obvious situation. I am really sorry that you are going through this, we are here for you and can support you through this time

 

[Gs172003]

She did apologize I should have said that. It just feels like this has been an on going thing. I'll be alright.

 

[TruthSeeker]

It's good that she is trying to make up for it with the offer of a free session but how does that reall...

I guess I look at it differently. Right now, a terribly bad hurtful day for me....so if I upset the applecart...so sorry. .I more recently learned life isn't fair, and it doesn't usually work out that way either...whether with family relationships, therapy appointments, or even the Good Humor man being on time... ........we don't always get what we want or get help when we want it or the right weather on the day we hope for it....some shit just happens...we can ruminate over it, bitch a while, then let it go....or hang on to it and continue to feel miserable...I try to find a way to let go....I'm trying the solution that keeps me out of my head and not feeling so crazy.......No, you are right...it always isn't fair....and she could have apologized...but that wasn't what happened...dealing with what is in the moment and crafting it as human is easier than holding on to the should-haves.....but that's just life...so I'll sign off now. Hope you get it worked out. Sorry for the intrusion.