I Don't Think My Boyfriend Can Take My Ptsd Anymore.

[shannon james]

I've had PTSD for 4 weeks now, and my boyfriend really seemed like hes had anough of the mood swings, he has really tried his hardest to make me smile.

but with PTSD comes, mood swings, anxiety (of corse), loss of exitment for many things (sexual for me) and it causes his to get upset and I don't know what to do.

Anyone have any ideas.
Thanks

 

[joeylittle]

Are you in therapy (is a good question to start with)?

 

[shannon james]

I rung our youth therapy and councilng area called Outlook but after they diagnosed me and told me I needed Cognitive Development Therapy they never rung me back for a apointment I have tried medication but made everything worse so im doing things myself because im fed ul of depending of people.

 

[Javagoat]

It's a rough road to be the partner of someone with ptsd. My wife has suffered years of mood swings, chronic depressiion, anxiety, among many other unfortunate symptoms. Not everyone can deal with it. There is a book that someone mentioned here for partners of sufferers. I can relate to how you feel. I have often wondered if it will be too much for her. It is better since I've improved with therapy and medication but it is still hard. My heart goes out to you. I know it is scary and it hurts.

 

[shannon james]

It does, I always say to him " if this is to much leave" but he refuses every time I wish their was a site or place that partners of PTSD sufferers can meet and chat but not where I live.

 

[joeylittle]

I'm sorry you got abandoned by health services - I don't know enough about how it works in the UK, @shannon james, but I think it's worth it to push back a little. They are telling you to get cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) which is one of the most reliable approaches for treating PTSD. it's really, really worth it to get some proper help. You can get books on it also, and try yourself, it's just more helpful with someone leading you through it.

We have supporters on this site too, in the supporter section. I don't know that you'd want him to be here also, but it's an option.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

When I first started therapy, my husband did not believe me. But he stuck it out for thirty six years and even changed for me as I changed for him.

Please do not panic when you are so freshly diagnosed. It is a hard journey especially at the beginning but you are worth the help and support you can get.

Just keep on taking good care of yourself and do not give up but keep on fighting the good fight to get your own healing and recovery. You cannot change him, you can only change yourself. He sounds like he is willing to stick around so be careful that you do not drive him away but reassure him that you are wanting to get better and that you do love him.

It will be a rocky road for awhile until you get the proper help you need and deserve. Wishing you the best in all things. Hugs.

 

[illusionist]

Give outlook a phone and explain they never got back to you, and set up an appointment. May be a lack of communication at their end. Mistakes do happen.

 

[emz315]

@Javagoat There is a very helpful book and its good for both the partner and sufferer its called the post traumatic stress disorder relationship by Diane England. That has helped me as a supporter.... :)

 

[digger]

I've had Link Removed for 4 weeks now

rung our youth therapy and councilng area called Outlook but after they diagnosed me and told me I needed Cognitive Development Therapy they never rung me back for a apointment

Four weeks is really not a long time, especially if Outlook is an NHS service? Ring them back and ask them what is happening with your referral as you were told you'd be getting an appointment but haven't heard anything yet and were wondering what the wait time was.

When you say that you've had PTSD for four weeks, do you mean that you've only had the diagnosis for four weeks? Or do you mean your symptoms flared up four weeks ago and this is your boyfriend's first experience of them in the last four weeks?

 

[shannon james]

They said a week but I will try them again this week.

 

[somerandomguy]

So wait. Based on the other thread, you have had PTSD "for four weeks" caused by an anxiety attack brought on by smoking marijuana?

If that's actually the case, I am afraid you have clearly been misdiagnosed.