Recent content by Flower Power

I am so sorry you are going through this. I am an RN and what I found when I was in nursing school with other women who were already married, with kids etc. is that almost all the relationships failed while we were in school mainly because we had all chosen men who were narcisstic and had to...

I think this article is way to broad to even begin to touch on the issues of the Eastern practices of meditation and mindfulness (which are two different things actually.) My first attempt with Yoga I was told that many people will drop out because of what is brought up by these practices...yep...

Really good discussion. I have had body work, massages, reiki that caused flashbacks that totally surprised me. What I have come to realize is that because I wasn't allowed to have my own pain in response to being abused and other traumatic events, I kept burying the pain, denying the pain...

I know for me it is important to realize that "dissociation" means to disconnect from whatever I am associating with at the moment that I am unable to handle. The degree or depth of distancing of my awareness from myself and surroundings is directly related to my conscious or unconscious...

TY so much for putting everything into such clear words. It really helped me to hear you. I totally agree with all you have said and saddly have experienced. Many of us have suffered these repercussions and then blame ourselves when we have been trained to retreat, accept the blame, remain...

I would highly recommend all of Pete Walker's books. They really helped me so much. You can get them from his web site.

Wow. That was definitely right between the eyes for me. I now understand so much better why I have existed this way in my family relationships and all other relationships in my life. The struggle between wanting and desiring relationships desparately, yet only having one crayon in the box to go...

When we face rejection and abandonment from a Church, Bible Study etc. because they do not understand what PTSD is and how to respond to our sensitivity and it can be extremely difficult for us to find our sea legs. I know I had a similar experience and the more I tried to explain myself the...

I just want to say that the hardest thing I have had to do with my crazy family was resign as the "scapegoat". My therapist told me that when we speak the truth and own our issues related to family abuse and then leave to go else where beyond their abusive reach, then they are left with their...

I would like to say something about all this exposure therapy everyone is talking about. I know for me that was just way to triggering for me and I felt so out of control and overwhelmed by the "Fear of Abandonment" that would get triggered in just about every trigger. It was like the chocolate...

It absolutely makes sense.. Often we have to find what exactly is the point of resistance. That is what we have to see more clearly. Why did you react so strongly to the words "denial" and "impasse" and immediately make yourself wrong and having to defend what has obviously been a belief that...

Men and women can deal with grief and emotions differently. My husband does not have PTSD but he is not someone that shares all his emotions with me or anyone for that matter. He doesn't like me taking care of him per se, because he would rather do for me or do it for himself. Yet he loves me to...

I think many of us have taken to harming ourselves in some way as an attempt to take back or exhibit some kind of control. The fact that many of us were so young during the abuse means that our defense mechanisms for coping or not coming from an older part of ourselves but from the child within...

I claim to be a Christian but I believe in modern medicine and modern psychotherapy. The fact that most Christian's I have found think that psychotherapy is not Christian and then try to brow beat you into believing that you just need to have "more faith" or you would be healed, therefore the...

The diagnosis of "Complex PTSD" is not an official diagnosis in the books, so legally PTSD is PTSD. Where I have come to the understanding of "Complex" to be is that is more in relation to how your PTSD is constructed. For instance, complex PTSD may not have visual re-experiencing of trauma in...