Recent content by Gamera3000

My son is too young for this to be tested yet, but my husband and I use a poisoning the well approach about our sons bio dad. Whenever we see homeless people, drug addicts, woman beaters, shiftless lazy people and so on, we point out how bad and dangerous that kind of person is and how it’s...

My kindergartener son is very, very large and strong and my husband is more toward the short side and pretty overweight. Our son doesn’t understand that fat and muscle are not the same. He tries to basically beat my husband to death every night “wrestling” as soon as he gets home from work. Our...

This guy beat you, beat the dog, has recently borrowed money from you (as one grown person from another), and isn’t man enough to own up to simple past actions? Talking to him is useless, even to get back your remaining money. I don’t care if you’re talking about a few thousand here. Let it go...

Agree. So sorry this happened. So sorry to have to say plainly that this was rape. Once, years ago, I was sitting around a table having good time drinks with my best girl friends and gay guy friends. Somehow the conversation turned and we realized that every single one of us had been raped...

I don’t remember what I was wearing during any traumatic incidents, but I clearly remember being 10 years old, very poor, and having squeezed into my last pair of jeans. I didn’t have any other pairs of pants. I think my other clothes were yard sale shorts. We went to the store to buy some food...

@EveHarrington I happen to know a little about sensory processing because of something I study professionally (or did). My kid has sensory processing disorder too, coincidentally. I have seen cases in my profession (when I was doing it) where a person became traumatized because someone else...

https://www.theguardian.com/film/2018/sep/13/island-documentary-steven- Don’t worry, the above is an article. I don’t think there are any triggering surprises in it. Oh man this bothered me this morning. I had to watch my grandmother die in her care home. It was horrible and scarring. I had...

Thank you, @Innordinate, but we have a happy home. I guess my post wasn’t too clear. My father in law grew up with 12 siblings in what used to be a slave shanty (seriously). He has a loud voice and deals with things with humor, but is sometimes off color. I think that came from growing up so...

I don’t know the whole story here, like it seems like you live with this highly irrational person. I don’t think it’s a good idea to be around a person who is acting like they’re going to use a weapon against you. If it was me I’d do whatever it took to live elsewhere. You may not feel like...

I have an anger problem, but I learned long ago to keep it to myself. As a consequence of this, I will stay quiet if I’m starting to get mad, or if I don’t know what to do or say. Sometimes that’s a problem because I don’t know when or how to speak up anymore. My son is four and also has...

Agree strongly with the short limited contact. And don’t expect behavior from anyone that they are not capable of. If someone does or says something unacceptable, stick to your boundaries. You can’t control their behavior, but you can control your own.

Several years ago I dated a guy who was doing that to me. His usual excuse was working on his Dissertation. I use a capital D there because that was always his first priority. All the time we spent together went perfectly. We agreed about everything and always had pleasant days together...

I have known a LOT of people who struggle with hygiene as a result of abuse. Dry shampoo is a wonderful item. I would just say that if a persons teeth have gotten to the point where they hurt, it may be worth looking into dentures. Dental pain starts slow, but will drastically impact your life...

I still get triggered sometimes, but I have come to a place where I feel that I am in control, not the past. The biggest things for me seemed to be accepting that I have changed after each trauma, and being okay with the person I’ve changed into. I have a degenerate disease, and my emotional...

I read a lot of these “alt right” sites. On one of them a news article was linked and it described what I assume is a classified program, where contractors for our country have powers greater than what was dropped by Edward Snowden. Scary, Big Brother type powers. I was warned about these...