Recent content by Muttly

This is a good first step. My husband wishes I would watch movies more and we definitely have a different taste in movies. That's ok, there's lots of other areas where our tastes overlap more. I do, at times, watch movies to make him happy. I usually end up enjoying it when I do. I guess my...

I agree the respect is a minimum for a relationship. I am curious what you mean by effort?

Hi, welcome to the forums. I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. Describing it as a collage, really describes it well. My memory/sense of time is still not great, so I can't say how long ago I was diagnosed with DID and started unraveling all that stuff. Over all things have gotten a lot...

It's hard, because stress can trigger PTSD symptoms. The cycle is exhausting, but it can change over time. I know that thought can be hard to hold on to during the difficult times.

I've been hesitant to post in this thread because I'm feeling weirdly defensive. Please understand, this thread is great and I hope it is helping people. I will own the defensiveness as a product of my experience, not from anything in this thread. My defensiveness, I think, mostly comes from...

I also haven't cut for years but this morning was wishing I could. Is it peace you are wanting to find through cutting? Anything else? I am sorry things are so hard for you. For me, it helps to remember I quit for a reason.

I like it, especially the filtering. I'm not around enough for my thoughts to matter much, but would there be a way to add a filter of comment count? Sometimes I try to find the posts with the fewest comments and reply there, so they get some feedback/support

I've been in and around a lot of different kind of relationships, including kink, queer and polyamorous. One of the best things I've learned is what you just said. The important thing is that consent is freely given. The hard thing, with PTSD is that sometimes we give consent because of...

You've gotten a lot of good answers, I'm curious what you think about those answers. And what lead you to have the questions.

Physical and other types of abuse are often combined. Sadly, I think you will find many people here that share that experience. You will also find plenty of older folks here. This is a good group and you can often learn a lot. It's important to remember that mixed in with stories and advice that...

I know this manipulation well. The manipulator thinks if they aren't having fun, no one else should. And they will do whatever they can to make you fell bad about it. Are you saying it's hard to forgive? If so, that's ok. I know this well. It takes a lot of time and effort to change this...

Unless there's some reason asking would cause additional problems, there's nothing wrong with asking. It does sound a bit like your brain is creating barriers for yourself to prevent the move from happening. Obviously, I don't know if this is true and it sounds like you are having a hard time...

I think fantasizing is fairly common. Even "normal" people can engage in fantasizing. The key question is does it cause you any harm. If it's inhibiting your functioning or healing in some way, then it's a problem. If it's bothering you, you can also try to find ways to turn it into a...

Ok, it sounds like you understand the cycle. What can help you shift out of it?

Ok, sorry, hit the post button by mistake... That's pretty common around here. If the abuse happened when you were very young, were dissociated, under the influence of drugs/alcohol, etc you may not remember the abuse. For me, there are things I *know* happened and things I think happened...