Recent content by PTSDWIFE

Just so you are aware, many people would want you around. Many people want to deal with it because you are a package deal. It might not feel that way, but it is true.

I understand that isolation is more than being "alone." Unfortunately, my husband has a very hard time communicating in general, and especially communicating his feelings. Based on what he says and his actions, I have inferred it is isolation. Having a degree in psychology and my own...

Wow. You really hit the nail on the head. I think it is to the point where I just can't anymore. I took my vows seriously. I meant, "untill death do we part." But I fear I am putting us both in an early grave by staying with a person who never trully could say and mean the same vow.

Oops...I posted on accident. Anyway, to finish, I don't talk to anyone about this. I am so glad I can share my thoughts here. It is helping me sort out my thoughts and emotions.

This is our loop: He wants to break up and gets very cold. Then he avoids me for weeks/months, except for a text here or there. Finally, he comes back saying he misses me and we honeymoon. As far as how I say it, I have told him I am concerned that the reason he wants to break up is because...

This. So much this. I am the first person he admitted he had problems to. He didn't want to even mail in the paperwork to the VA. He asked me to mail it because he just couldn't ask for help. He didn't realize his isolation was related to PTSD until I had a very courageous conversation with...

Unfortunately, no. He has such a hard time opening up to ANYONE. He has done group therapy at the VA for a few months. (I required that before we got married.) He went to a counselor who specializes in PTSD and marriage counseling (jackpot!) one time before I stupidly agreed to reconcile the...

Yes, my husband has come out of isolation. Then he went back. And forth. And so on. It really depends on the person. However, it is rarely happily ever after (darn those fairy tales!), because it will probably happen again. Take care of yourself and give him the distance he needs. Be...

Oh, honey. That just sucks. I can imagine you feel a lot of emotions right now. It sounds as though he got scared of the comittment and handled it in the most childish, meanest way possible. You really deserve better than that. Be prepared for him to pop up again, as they tend to do...

This is my first time posting. I am the wife of a combat veteran who means the world to me. We had dated off and on for 6 years (I now know he was isolating, which is why he broke up with me all of those times.) Things were going really well for a few years, and we got married about 2 years...

Thank you for the tough love. You are probably right.

I have been in a relationship with a man who has combat PTSD off and on for over 2 years. I am the only one who knows of his illness, and he reluctantly saught help with my support. He has a history of isolating, and after a few weeks we are back together. Through research, I realize this is...

I know I should be feeling really positive and happy for the breakthrough. However, I am experiencing depression and doubt. My ex boyfriend who I never stopped loving is finally seeking help for his combat PTSD. His appointment is on Thursday, and we are both feeling nervous.We had been...