Recent content by Soli

Dear Alfred and Laura, Thank you both for taking time to write me back. Alfred, I volunteered at a group home for over a decade and I saw first-hand what you are talking about. That you are rising above it is somewhat of a miracle, and it says a lot about who you are -- the sacred part, the...

Before anyone's tempted to tell me "that can't be true..." just please keep reading. 1) I've been a crime victim twice in the past year. One of them was a criminal traffic where I was hit from behind and seriously injured by someone with a suspended license. The police officer at the scene...

I think you did the right thing to post here so you can know that others care about you and hope that tomorrow is a better day. I don't think "normal" friends are equipped to cope with some of the things we suffer. I don't think a lot of therapists are equipped to cope with some of the things we...

I think you are right to call her boss about this. And I think it's unfair that in addition to suffering abandonment when people don't follow through with us, we have the additional burden of educating others about why it's so painful. I just went through the same thing with my counselor of...

One of my best friends had to make the same very painful, difficult decision that you did. I just want to tell you that later in life, she found a great guy and had four beautiful children. She grieved as you did. I think you were in one of the most difficult situations imaginable. And it's...

Okay, just know we are thinking about you and hoping you won't give up.

Wondering what those concrete things are?

Having just lived through something very similar with my counselor, my heart goes out to you. For me, the answer I think is "not to put all my eggs in one basket". I need to have more than one person who can listen and offer support. If you're like me you are worried about being a burden to...

Thank you all so much. It makes me feel better to know others would have done the same thing.

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts!

I think the therapist I just fired would have called himself an existentialist (he wasn't fired because he was an existentialist). In retrospect, for myself, it would have made more sense to do some CBT to make some relatively quick improvements in my circumstances and increase my ability to...

I have a friend here locally who found a PTSD support group at the local VA clinic. He finds it very helpful. It's "not quite counseling" so the stigma factor isn't there. Maybe you have a VA clinic or hospital close by that has something similar? God bless you and your husband as he heals.

I'm new here too so I can appreciate how it feels to hit "send" on that first post. Your post reminds me of something one of my good friends says to me: "Stop 'shoulding' on yourself!" In my own journey, I'm trying to drown out the "should-y" messages in my head with much more compassionate...

Thank you, your perspective really helps.

Hi everybody, I'm new here. So thank you for your generosity in reading this. I've had a brutal couple of weeks. I've been very sick (physically ill and in a lot of physical pain) with a new, debilitating illness. The children's home where I've been volunteering for over a decade shut its...