Recent content by Starfire

Going thru the same thing. My T cut way back on clients. He told me he was considering retirement in the future, no plans.then I noticed a change to the decor of his office. When I mentioned it, he said he was now sharing his office. But no change in appointments. We did start alternating in...

Found that the structured life you spoke of where lines were clear and there was a special comrideriery, works best for me also. I just can’t do it for myself. Lay it all out. Then there comes either my new reality or convince myself tomorrow will be a better day to start. Promise myself I...

It sounds to me, based on experience and my counseling, not any medical specialty, that your husband dealt with it in his way those 15 years. So he didn’t have an issue or problem with it. Has something significant changed? I’m an army brat, so I have some concept of the attention and effort...

Yes I can Was just facing this. Moved into an apartment for the first time. People are polite and friendly. Thought we could be ourselves in our apartment and ‘behave’ ourselves out in the complex. Picked one that had lots of nature and few apartment buildings. Love the view from our apartment...

My experience is guilt about everything. Why can’t I be normal? I should be able to do a,b,c. And most likely all at the same time, You are taking the bull by the horns and doing what is best for yourself. congratulations!

Thanks for posting this. Have been recently trying to find events/feeling leading up to that conclusion. This is a big help. Thanks again. Hope it helps you as well

Of course it's the royal we! Or if my pet is around, I laughingly say we talk everything over. But most people don't notice conversational details like that or in these times, they don't mention it. You can also develop a look that says "what are you talking about? "

My T and I are just exploring this so can't swear by it. But it has helped me. It has to do with the vagus nerve. It runs thru the entire body. I put a cold pack on my chest on the nerve and lay down. Still exploring if it only works at the early onset or if it would work if it was a full blown...

Well, have a dog. Say I talk everything (or that) over with my dog and we agree! Or somethings say it's the royal we. There is always the me, myself and I excuse. All done with a laugh. Personally find it rude to point it out. So have been known to make an unpleasant face and say 'did you...

I've read your response several times. Thanks. Helped to read and realize it would take time. Kept coming back and evaluating progress. Still a little numbness but mostly that was slowly replaced by anger. Wanted to go tell him how dumb his action was and why. But that wouldn't benefit either of...

Yeah. Whoever decided How this world should be run Made A cruddy decision. Look around And if you can't find anything You don't want to give up Then I think It's time To go find something. Don't let The abusers Win. They ruined enough of your life. Perhaps It's time To Show them Who is the...

It happened again. Haven't had a PTSD episode in awhile for which I'm grateful. Then a couple Sundays ago, a person in a similar position of my abuser, also don't know him well, came up behind me and gave me a hug. Immediate!y PTSD event with dissociation and then became completely numb. Went to...

It happened again. Haven't had a PTSD episode in awhile for which I'm grateful. Then a couple Sundays ago, a person in a similar position of my abuser, also don't know him well, came up behind me and gave me a hug. Immediate!y PTSD event with dissociation and then became completely numb. Went to...

I had a friend tell me once that I should just follow the words of the Prophet Nike. (Just do it) Doesn't have to feel good. Can make me cry, feel angry whatever. Just do it.

Your T is suppose to be in a charge of leading your session to your benefit. Doesn't seem she was capable of doing that. To be crass, she couldn't do the job you paid her to do. At the very least she should have cancelled the session for medical reasons or just plain not feeling well...