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Im 18, I am from an environment that alternate between restricting and neglecting, and I have no friends and effective coping mechanism whatsoever. As you can see, Im not really sane, so..... You dont need to read the below. It is just me going crazy. I know this is more of a vent post but this...

I know this manipulation well. The manipulator thinks if they aren't having fun, no one else should. And they will do whatever they can to make you fell bad about it. Are you saying it's hard to forgive? If so, that's ok. I know this well. It takes a lot of time and effort to change this...

I just saw that you are a male, sry about that i got confused

Are you female ? Look like we are in a similar situation regarding attraction just reversed genders(plus unfortunately you say you also were abused by both parents) if you are female . Really well said i felt that : we were given "purpose" when our caretakers crossed boundaries , false...

Thank you. I have gone no contact with him and mother before. I got an ex parte order against him in 2018. Two actually successfully. He will not change. So I am The mistake I made again was thinking this type of behavior would not occur again. He is at the end of his life. Alone. Live to...

Oh my gosh, Alex, this is absolutely beautiful to read! I'm so genuinely happy for you right now. 💛 The fact that your dad has done that deep work—actually *seen* the impact of his past actions and genuinely regretted them—that's huge. Like, that takes real courage and humility. And for him to...

Like your comment about forgiveness. I got to that point with my first deceased husband. Am close with my father. He is 89. His life is closing. Not there with my mom. She died in November 2021. Myself? Continual work in progress

...have others deny the harm that you experienced. It's working through that anger to get to a place of acceptance. Some people move to forgiveness (I'm not one of those people). But distraction is good. Awareness that you are getting angry. And then deciding to do something different...

You forgive yourself. It's possible to do. Because you have genuine remorse. You now understand yourself better. Sometimes closure comes from inside, rather than other people. A lot of us on here have done things earlier in our lives, when we were running away from our traumas, that we...

I have been working on it. Some of my issues are tied to the trauma I am feeling from the state of the US. Collective trauma. Hard boundaries with people. Dealing with the cognitive dissonance and loss of shared reality..Dealing with trauma usually involves confronting how you got there and...

I found this website by accident while trying to look up if I was valid or not for thinking I might have PTSD over something that (I perceive) is not PTSD-worthy. I'm not necessarily looking for a diagnosis by posting this. I think I'm just afraid to bring this up to my therapist because I don't...

Another day in America. Today, did we: *Bomb another country in "surprise"? *Kidnap the leader of another foreign country? *Have masked law enforcement gangs shoot and kill citizens and teachers in our communities and label them terrorists and refuse to investigate? *Insult and degrade out...

...whole lot of trouble forgiving people who engaged in willful ignorance black and white thinking my way or the highway. I am working on the issue of forgiveness for myself. I will not allow the people with these traits back in my life or if I have to interact there will be boundaries including...

I should like to think that one could read and reread your words. Perhaps 22 times or more for starters. Until it starts to sink in. It's positive. It's what we need. So true! We need to learn to make better decisions and then also to learn to trust and forgive ourselves. We are little...

Update, Still going great with us and been proving it to me. I see him changed big time in the right direction and getting close to forgive him. Found out mom has forgiven him already.

Yes Ariel is right. Pros - good ones- will journey with you as you discover why what happened to did. In my case dysfunctional family dynamics raised by conservative Christians never told I could say no. Bullied as a young child. Maternal aunt adopted 2 children whose parents had alcoholism and...

Hello Mimi000 CPTSD has stages, and your in the dissociation stage that you can manage. Techniques that have helped me are: senses: engage all senses can you move your left hand fingers and then right hand fingers, and then walk and touch different parts of self or if needed focus on a tree or...

Bio dad and I are talking again and this started on Friday. He put me through a lot as a kid forcing me to be someone I wasn't calling me offensive words which he has regretted. It was with the abuse he put my mom through too. He did drink a lot at the time and is now 31 years sober, did get...

I understand. I was the scapegoat who is now free. Not much left of my family. My father my brother basically. I try everyday - live to forgive

...Sometimes I think how I want my parents to suffer the same pain, not dying from it, but living in it day by day, until they beg for my forgiveness. But I know it won't happen. I know even that most likely I'd feel more pain and empathy than satisfaction of revenge if I ever do this. But if...

Thanks for that @White Rose. Following is the document itself found in the Epstein Files. https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Jeffrey_Epstein_wikipediahack.jpg Following si the link to a narrated and more robust version and what I was originally trying to post. Start at around 4:50 in...

...tenor of it's howl or it's feet and teeth on the hunt. The sun does not apologize for leaving us every night, the moon does not ask for forgiveness to reflect. The stars do not thank us for looking at them. The planets do not love us for our orientation. Nature is, without analysis. This is...

It was a very long post and Yeah I feel you. It's because in many ways we are very good for each other, but that obviously has come with risks. I don't form relationships very easily and from my limited experience, don't want to let them go, that is something I need to work on. I geuss...

I forgive myself for being the only one in my family who remembers. As Gandhi said, "even if you are in a minority of one, the truth is still the truth." I forgive myself for the distance I've had to take from those who would rather not remember.

Thank you so so much for this. I’ve not forgiven my mother or brother for what they did to me, but there is so much literature that says we must forgive to move forward (but I dont agree). Your post helps with what im working through