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That sounds like a horrible time. How are you doing now?

Just to clarify, I am not planning to move to another country. I want to have the option, though. I don't like feeling trapped. Also, we've been invited on a trip in May. We might have our expenses paid by our friends. (We can't afford it otherwise). I don't know if we'd accept that offer, or...

Fair enough, I know some people enjoy politics. It may be your communication style that makes it seem like you are black/white thinking. You tend to speak in absolutes and fairly strong descriptive language. For example, I believe I've seen you say a couple of times, that Americans identify...

I am going to leave politics to the side and point out that I hear a lot of black/white thinking happening. Americans.... <statement>. Dems ... <statement>. Those are both vasts groups of people with a lot of variation. As this is @anthony diary, he is welcome to talk about whatever he wants. I...

Thanks. Tat and I have talked about most of what is going on. The only thing we haven't talked through fully is the worst case, get out of the country any way we can, scenario. I have tried to have a serious talk, instead just cracking jokes that he's let pass as jokes. He's had a lot going on...

I appreciate all the replies. I have read them and appreciate them. And send support to anyone who is also struggling. heh, yes. And my brain has churned away at this. I have an idea on getting it done. Obviously we are not at that point, but I think my idea would work. I can't really tell...

I had been doing better at limiting my news intake but the last few days have slipped on that. Brains are dumb. I'm stressed so I look at things that stress me. On a positive side, I've become part of a group which makes me feel less powerless. @Friday your reply was super helpful and has...

I am really happy you got such a positive response. I hope it brings you some healing.

It's not that I didn't see it coming. I knew it was a possibility. It did happen faster than I expected. But I did see it as a distinct possibility. I just kept getting overwhelmed, thinking about doing it. I only obtained my birth certificate a few years ago. When I left home, my parents at...

I am sorry he does that. Have you told your dad it makes you uncomfortable?

First of all, as has already been pointed out, I specifically asked for this not to be about politcs. Next, if you want to have a discussion regarding issues, I'd advise you to ask questions and not use inflammatory language such as "duped" or make assumptions. For your information, I...

I found I'd started a reply to this a few days ago and never finished. I appreciate everyone's replies. @Movingforward10 Thank you, it does feel like you understand. I guess I'm still stuck on some of the comments that were made. I feel like some come with false assumptions. Maybe some of that...

My dad did a lot of bad things but I loved him and still do. That's ok. It's not surprising you don't have a lot of feelings about what's going on. My guess is you are in survival mode and will process emotions more when you get out of the situation. I agree that telling someone is a good idea...

A reminder, this thread is not for political debate. Please don't demonize any side of the political spectrum. All of you who are saying stay away from mainstream media and do my own research, I agree. I appreciate that. I've already done that for decades. I do get the message that I can...

As @Friday outlined, normal is challenging because no two situations are the same. I learned to look at things in terms of the impact it had on me. Was the fact that my dad was always slapping or grabbing at my butt harmful to me. Yes. For many reasons. He would actually laugh when I ran past...

They started that a bit. After the first, intro post, you only get AI response if you go to the section for AI response.

I'm sorry you have been through all that. I have also used the bathroom as a safe space when I was a kid. Except I would get in trouble if I stayed in there too long, so I had to find a balance. A bit of time to have calm. I hope you find the forums helpful. There is a lot of great people and...

Standing by a waterfall in the PNW.

Thanks for all the replies, I haven't had TV for years (decades) so I already don't watch mainstream news. I do get news from the internet but am very picky about my sources. I am feeling resistant to all the suggestions of not checking the news and am trying to check myself on that. To be...

First off- this is *not* a post to debate politics. The current state of politics in the US directly impacts me and people I care about. This is not a distortion. It also looks like things could get a whole lot worse for me and many others I know. Yes, things could get overturned. Yes, things...

I guess I've gone full circle. There was a time where I wished strongly that I was dead. I am not amazed I survived the years of chronic suicide idiation and self-harm. I definitely felt guilt. Mine was more about all the people I know who didn't survive. Here I was not wanting to be alive and...

I agree with what Friday says. Not that there can't be things about the person that you miss, but that's still a very new relationship. It's ok to miss that feeling of being in a relationship. Do you have thoughts on where you go from here?

I understand feeling the shame, but if someone else made this thread how would you judge them? Would you be able to show compassion? If so, try to remember you are the same as all of us. You make mistakes. You struggle. You are worthwhile. You can learn and grow.

I have been there with that length of break and symptoms and for me it wasn't sustainable. I don't really have any good advice but I relate and hope things get easier. Also, I love your name.

Welcome to the forum. I know how hard it can be when life piles on stressor upon stressor. For me, when that happens, I have to narrow my focus to the now. How can I make things better for now. Eventually that leads to building the sustainability to keep going. I am probably saying that poorly.