Do you think its normal for a dad to always slaps his 10 year old daughters bum

[Anynomusqueen]

Do you think its normal for a dad to always slaps his 10 year old daughters bum

 

[Friday]

Depends on too many qualifiers to even begin to list.

Can it be normal? Sure.
Can it be questionable? Yep.
Can it be abnormal? Of course.
Can it be seriously f*cked up? Damn straight.

Where does this dad & their 10yo fall on the spectrum? No idea.

 

[Movingforward10]

Totally agree with @Friday.

What's making you think it isn't?

 

[TiredLady]

So my friends twin was talking to me earlier on how her and her sister(my friend) were molested growing up. Later on this evening/early morning I was thinking about what she said and realized one thing that happened to me that I never forgot and always questioned. My own dad did that to me growing up. At some point (because I hit puberty early) I became uncomfortable and asked him to stop and his answer was no and basically that I was “his property” because I’m his kid. I went to my mom who seemed mentally and emotionally numb and when it kept happening nothing was done. I used to literally run so he wouldn’t do it and he still caught me sometimes and I hated it. Since realizing this and coming to an understanding, I feel sick to my stomach because I didn’t know it was this serious at times. Part of this contributed to me struggling to set boundaries with boys/men because my own dad didn’t respect mine and called it “disrespect.”

I literally have a wedding to be in, in several hours and I have till then to pull it together and I can’t cry or else I’ll get sleepy…….

 

[Monday]

This same thing has been happening to me for the past 2 years im sorry

 

[Muttly]

As @Friday outlined, normal is challenging because no two situations are the same. I learned to look at things in terms of the impact it had on me. Was the fact that my dad was always slapping or grabbing at my butt harmful to me. Yes. For many reasons. He would actually laugh when I ran past him. Apparently, having a child that upset but his actions was amusing. That was harmful to me. So was the messaging that I was an object and should expect to be treated as such. So was the fact it was normalized by my mom.

I am sorry you have experienced this. Keep talking. It can take time to process but it can get better

 

[Siobhan.Irene51]

My dad has been smacking my butt since i was young. But since i have matured i find it uncomfortable. My ass is sorta big so it you know moves when you smack it. My dad still does it. :(

 

[Muttly]

I am sorry he does that. Have you told your dad it makes you uncomfortable?

 

[CooCoo4CocoaPuffs]

IMO no, it’s not normal.