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This was the crux of my OCD treatment as well. I have REOCD so the big issue for me is obsessing about shit that I've done (which makes me bad, even though I am not all bad, is the good enough to cancel out the bad??? blah blah Blah. How do I exist having done bad shit??? am I obligated to tell...

I don't particularly "look forward" to days, and this is probably one of the reasons why. My instinct is to push it down, as "waiting for it isn't helpful" (and I might be disappointed if it doesn't go well). Kind of the whole mentality behind my existence, I think. If I don't feel anything...

He was manipulative to her. There's a difference. He leveraged emotional support in order to guilt her into providing material for his sexual fantasies. That isn't kindness, it's manipulation.

My dad hits all the diagnostic criteria for ASPD and once opportunistically abused me while high on crack. I didn't meet him until I was 18, and didn't grow up with him, though I then lived with him from 19-24. I don't really view it as being any different from being abused by anyone else, as...

The risk factors of doing so are something I mentioned in my post. There are plenty of self-stop titration schedules you can use. For antipsychotics, the withdrawals are not life-threatening on their own, but like I said, it obviously isn't risk-free. The risk isn't of imminent harm from a...

It's even more challenging when

Is there a reason why you can't just stop taking them? I mean, I don't advocate for this, because tbqh we haven't even proven that there are no environmental factors for bipolar. Just because you have trauma doesn't mean you also don't have bipolar. Most of these serious mental illnesses are...

It depends on what it is. I don't take pride in jobs, ever. I don't have the qualifications to get a job that I would be proud of, and the nature of how work is organized in our civilization itself repulses me deeply. While I don't feel the sensation of pride, I've begun practicing noticing...

They may or may not. My assessment is based on what you have shared, and based on my own experiences both internally and with people who behave in similar ways. It isn't intended to be definitive, but rather to offer insight into some potential construction around her behavior. If you disagree...

I expect that there is probably confusion here that is being misinterpreted as complexity within the relationship, because most people don't understand how (or even believe it is possible to) someone could totally fake emotional responses to where they appear completely genuine. I have had whole...

He doesn't care about changing. He's over 50 years old, he knows his behavior is harmful. If he wanted to change he would have tried to change much earlier. He might have some regrets inside but we have no way of knowing this and it's irrelevant since he's spent decades engaging in harmful...

Intergenerational trauma is a tough one. My great-grandfather escaped Poland before the Holocaust and died in the 70s, after losing all of his extended family who did not manage to do the same. He was the town drunk, abused my grandmother, who developed NPD. She abused my mom, who developed...

Keeping you both in my thoughts. I've known ITL for years on here as well, and she has been an invaluable friend to many people. Feel free to pop by my diary if you would ever like someone to chat with about it all as well. 🫂🐤

A good majority of people will just tell you to your face what type of person they are. My policy in life is to believe them. Our culture particularly in North America has this wedge of toxic positivity where when someone tells you their flaws, we are encouraged to be like "oh you're not really...

There is something known as the hedonic treadmill which contributes to this, as well as studies which show negative emotions have a more prolonged impact and can usurp positive ones. The hedonic treadmill is basically that our 'standard' is essentially neutral and no matter how happy we get we...

It doesn't matter. He makes you uncomfortable, so stop interacting with him. It isn't court and you don't need a lawyer. People are allowed to dislike others for any reason at all. Even if he isn't a sociopath or didn't actually do anything inappropriate, you are still uncomfortable with how...

8. Virginity itself is a ridiculous social construct that is centered around shame and blame. It is frankly a harmful and dangerous metric to base an opinion on. It is used to perpetuate both deep misogyny (historically women were 'checked' for virginity, sex was intended to be painful and...

I didn't think anyone said that, I was just expressing my experiences. Yes, I was just expressing my experiences and my needs. The reason why I did this is because the thread is about therapists and how therapists should respond to patients. Some patients have different needs, so the therapist...

The difference is that the people who just want you to listen, manage their own emotions. This guy expects you to emotionally regulate him, which is not reasonable to ask of a friend. Some people just like to vent, but make it clear that they are just venting to be heard and don't actually need...

I used to be the exact opposite. I would actually engage with these people and hold full f*cking conversations with them where they were lunatics and I was like oh yeah mm hm that's so valid and interesting you were a lobster fisherman????? wowwww. It's a fawn response which is common to people...

"The light in the darkness" lmao.

There is no such thing as being rude to someone who is harassing you or assaulting you. The last time a guy got in my face bad I broke his pinky. There were like a dozen witnesses who all stood up for me including a mom and her kid. He followed me across three buses and was planning on following...

I agree with all that's been said so far particularly @LunaticOnTheFritz and @Friday but this in particular stood out to me. I talk about this a lot so bear with me lol. But I have trauma from human trafficking and I have RAD which morphed into schizoid. Because of how severe it is most people...

Our society is broken in a lot of ways. When my basic needs aren't met I get resentful as well. My last diary entries were mostly me raging out like this so I am not one to even talk. Mostly because our climate is irreparably damaged and our world will be inhospitable to future generations and...

I finished the Persona series (and Soul Hackers 2) and now onto Whitestone which is like an Elden Ring/Persona Mashup set on an airship. Super good so far.