Noëlle Ang
New Here
Need advice:
My mother and father (late 50s) are still legally married. No longer physically living together.
However, recent years it was exposed that my father had been leading an extreme double life and had beed manipulating and abusing a girl in her early 20s.
My father is of Asian descent and looks much younger than his western friends/colleagues. He was in part able to lead a double life since my mother kicked him out of the house some years ago
due to his serial cheating and pathological lying.
It has been exposed that my father has been manipulating, gaslighting, future faking an engagement, even impregnating his victims. Even physically having beaten up one former victim who had confronted him on things not adding up in his life.
He claims to regret having abused his most recent victim, causing her immense trauma and ptsd due to emotional and physical abuse. She had found out his true identity and reported him to the police. My father now claims he wants to change, however I am weary of his words.
Do you think my father could really want to change and regrets abusing his victim, or does he only regret being caught and exposed? My father has always been a great financial provider to me and my sister, however he has cheated on my mother numerous times, and I have heard stories that my grandfather also had a secret much younger second wife in Asia. Also, my father's side of the family has links to a criminal past in Amsterdam, and are active in the casino industry.
I am starting to think, the men in our family are all high performing narcissists who deceive, cheat, lie and abuse - as long as they can get away with it.
My mother and father (late 50s) are still legally married. No longer physically living together.
However, recent years it was exposed that my father had been leading an extreme double life and had beed manipulating and abusing a girl in her early 20s.
My father is of Asian descent and looks much younger than his western friends/colleagues. He was in part able to lead a double life since my mother kicked him out of the house some years ago
due to his serial cheating and pathological lying.
It has been exposed that my father has been manipulating, gaslighting, future faking an engagement, even impregnating his victims. Even physically having beaten up one former victim who had confronted him on things not adding up in his life.
He claims to regret having abused his most recent victim, causing her immense trauma and ptsd due to emotional and physical abuse. She had found out his true identity and reported him to the police. My father now claims he wants to change, however I am weary of his words.
Do you think my father could really want to change and regrets abusing his victim, or does he only regret being caught and exposed? My father has always been a great financial provider to me and my sister, however he has cheated on my mother numerous times, and I have heard stories that my grandfather also had a secret much younger second wife in Asia. Also, my father's side of the family has links to a criminal past in Amsterdam, and are active in the casino industry.
I am starting to think, the men in our family are all high performing narcissists who deceive, cheat, lie and abuse - as long as they can get away with it.
