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I should add maybe, after reading these posts, that I have a Little One too. Me and Little One did not get along at first. She didn't trust me and I thought she was a complete pain in the butt, or worse! I'm pretty sure I used to say that I hated her. But after some intense and very difficult...

Oh my word! I haven't read everyone's responses yet but I feel like I could have written yours almost word for word... really. I'm not sure I have any answers, because like you I am still stuck with it all. I don't know how to connect to this part of me (Teenage One) I don't know how to relate...

Oh yes, build and destroy, I totally get that. For her it probably doesn't seem quite so extreme, though she probably noticed the difficulties, hence the push pull, and honestly, it will probably always need work. I have felt a chasm recently between T and I, and only last session did I manage...

I consider myself extremely fortunate. I pay £30 per hour, but we often go over. I found what I would consider for me, the very best therapist and I am glad that it has been affordable. I needed two sessions a week for a long time, so in reality this journey has cost me well in excess of...

How to feel a supportive connection to my T? Years of work together! It took what seemed like forever to even establish a connection and even longer for me to be able to hold on to the connection outside of session. In the early days we agreed that email outside of session times was ok. This...

Time mainly. Sometimes it's a case of getting up and doing something different if I can muster the... Energy?? Turning the TV or radio off before I even get into that state is my best way forwards, or walking away from conversations. I go into shut down mode otherwise and then just have to kind...

I am right here with you. Not sure what is better at the moment. I think it's like tidying up. Sometimes you have to make a mess to be able to sort things out, reorganise them and put them away properly. I'm hoping it will be better in the long run, for me and for you, if you choose to keep...

It may well be, as you say, completely unrelated, but just a quick thought, are things that involve us, our feelings, thoughts and reactions ever truly unrelated? They are, after all, a part of our complex, tangled web. Things may be more closely related than you could ever imagine right now...

I'm still in the "what do I have to be ashamed of" camp most of the time, though on a cognitive level I fear I maybe ashamed of feeling shame. Thank you. What does processing look like to me? Gosh, I don't know really. I'd like to be able to watch TV shows without being frozen in fear. I would...

Wow! This. Thank you. We just spent the last session talking about this exact same thing, and then I read an article about the affective edge this week too. You put is so eloquently that I won't try to add to this. It's hard, but I'm hoping (trusting) that my T knows what we are doing. She can...

Hello. I was about to walk away without replying, but here goes. Cognitive Vs feeling/emotion. Two very different ball games. I'm not sure how to explain it, but for me, there's no point doing therapy with my head. I need to do it with my heart. It sounds like you have been reading, which is...

Nightmares and vivid dreams coming round again. Had one the other night about being on a ship, in rank file, chanting then suddenly being pushed closer together. Close ranks. Protect against the threat. Protect the whole. Terrorists approaching. I'm on the edge of the group but then I'm not, I...

Love your statement "for some reason it's become acceptable to be angry at what happened to me". I am there with you. Never learnt how to manage anger as a teenage. As a young adult the only way I got by was to stuff it all away, and have continue to do so until the last couple of years. Anger...

Raised voices of any kind terrify me and spark all kinds of feelings, even if they aren't anything to do with me. I hate it. I wish it would roll off me like it seems to with others but it doesn't. It upsets me deeply (not sure if it's a sad upset or some other type of upset). Even children...

Yes!!! I'm right with you. T saying we don't need to have the answers to heal and me feeling like "oh but I do!" I'm hoping she is right and I am wrong because I'm not sure I'll ever remember. Anyway, enough about me.... I kind of want to say good luck! Not sure if that's appropriate though...

I am slightly different in that, whilst my Ground Zero is 8, I think, the part that owns this is the Teenage Part. I didn't understand when I was 8. I didn't get it. The feelings come in later, when I did realise. When I started to see what had happened. I just wanted to say I totally totally...

Personally I am in a less stressful job because it is better for me. Like you said, I don't think about work outside of work. I go in, I do my job and I come home. Then I can get out and enjoy life and I can do the things that I like to do and that I know are good for me. If that is what you...

Little One. I am not sure. Think I should probably make some time for her soon. She has been very patient recently but I don't want her to go back in to hiding. Teenage One. Lost. Off in the deepest depths of nowhere on her own.

I have worked with the sense of touch quite heavily in my therapy, but not based around anger, until very recently. Mine was fear. Very very intense fear. Very early on my T noticed that words weren't going to be enough for me. In therapy I write, or draw, or scribble, or touch rocks, flowers...

Thank you Rubacora. Maybe learning to talk about it here a bit more might help me to learn to talk about it in real life, with people face to face. I don't want it all to be a big secret anymore. I am glad you found somewhere to let it all out a little bit. Thank you. Thanks Mach. SO...

This! Thank you. I need reminding of this sometimes. I saw it with my other 'issues' for sure. Didn't feel like we were getting anywhere at all and then all of a sudden I looked back and thought WOW, we have come a long long way and made so many changes. Thank you Thank you Freddyt: It just...

Thank you so much for your response Ladee, I just needed to reach out to somebody yesterday. I did email my T in the end too, and she replied as normal with a short yet kind and understanding reply. She said to wrap the feelings up warmly, hold their hand as I bring them on Tuesday where she...

I ended up divorcing my husband. I am better for it. I entered therapy five years ago. My ex husband was like a child in the relationship. A lot of what you mention went on, but on top he was useless at helping me to keep the house (we didn't have children thank goodness). My ex's job was very...

Hello Survivor3. Thank you. Yes. It is terrifying. I guess I should give myself some credit for allowing her to know at least, but that was five years ago, and I was very closed off at the time. It was very matter of fact, if that makes sense. Only now (this last year) are we starting to really...

I have been in therapy for five years now but only recently started to really think about starting work around the 'root' of things, as I see it. Not even sure I can write about it, let alone talk about it in session though. It seems like an impossible task. My counsellor does know what happened...