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-Empathy (harder to find than expected) -Trauma knowledge and experience in that field And the therapist should be able to convey a feeling of safety in a sense that he/she isn't intimidated by dangerous people. I think even just these three points are nearly impossible to find in one therapist.

I thought trauma memory is emotional or sensory because of how it is stored in the brain, so it doesn't make sense to me that I had this sentence in my mind after I was triggered. The trigger lead to a stressful and overwhelming state and then my brain made something up, like that sentence, to...

Propranolol is a completly underestimated drug in some countries. It baffles me that doctors rather prescribe Benzodiazepines here. I think it is best used preventive if you know that there will be a stressful event like a therapy session. However this is a drug patients need to get educated...

This happens all the time. People need to feel safe in their made up world and if something bad that happened is close and too much they devalue it/the person or keep distance so they don't have to question their assumptions regarding their little world. This is the first part of the problem...

I know that memories can get fragmented. However I never read anything about someone suddenly having a sentence "pop up". When I was triggered there suddenly was a sentence, something I would not think of myself. It was clear that it was early childhood related and it was unrelated to that...

In my first comment I thought I better hold back but that feels wrong now. When I read about how someone gives money to a child to twist and manipulate it even more it makes me so furious. As an adult you hear about a person like that and know it is a true piece of shit, a weak pathetic mind. I...

These feelings are normal in your situation. It is important that you have compassion for yourself, you can learn that. You were in an unsafe situation and survival can also mean to play along, it was no conscious decision. It is your choice how much and when you will tell something in therapy...

I had a bad dream I can't tell anybody about so I write it down here. The therapist let me down, I was on my own. Then the name that triggered me came into the room, I was in massive danger. I felt like a child and screamed for my mother but nobody came. When I woke up it felt real and I was...

@RainbowSearchParty Yes, bad therapy is definetly worse than no therapy. I already experienced that in my life. But I still fear that I find no therapist at all for a very long time and I am suffering. Started pregabalin and I hope it helps. SSRI or neuroleptics don't work for me and Propranolol...

I hate CBT. I was in therapy several times and CBT was the least helpful. When I was younger I did therapy mostly for social anxiety (the cause for it were bad experiences because of selective mutism in childhood) and it always came down to the therapists pushing me to do things I didn't want or...

Thanks for the answers. It is really hard for me because I am usually too understanding and my needs come second. I am still not 100% sure but most probably I will not go to that therapist again. She talked about that I need trauma therapy, a stationary trauma therapy etc. but for the most...

This might be an issue but I still need to find out if she is the right therapist. I forgot half of the stuff writing this, to summarize it: Her professional opinion and messages are one thing and I can understand how she came to the conclusions but on the personal level it was horrible. I felt...

I need therapy since 3-4 years. It is hard to find or even get on a waiting list for a therapy where I live. I have exactly one therapist I am waiting for to start therapy, I am waiting since a year and it still will take like 6 months. She is experienced and offers EMDR. After the first...

Last night was one of my worst. Took valerian 2g and could not sleep, additionally I took paracetamol 500mg for an awful sinusitis. I don't know if it was the meds but I experienced awful emotions. I could not keep my eyes open and I breathed through my mouth like I was sleeping but I wasn't and...

I had sleep paralysis frequently when I was younger, I thought I die if I can't move and wake up. What I noticed after many years is that it happened mostly when I was sleeping on my back. There is a form of apnea that mostly occurs when lying on the back. Since I only sleep on my side I...

Did you try promethazine? It might just alleviate symptoms but it is better than nothing. You don't need to take it daily.

I don't know why. I suddenly have strong anxiety in the evening. The day can be great, I go to bed everything still is great and then I turn around to try to sleep and the anxiety hits. I never had it like that before. Yesterday was the worst, I could not close my eyes despite being tired as...

I lived alone with my mother, my parents separated when I was 2-3 years old. My mother struggles to control her emotions (maybe because of ADHD and/or childhood trauma), because of that I wasn't safe. She screamed at me very often and over and over, it never stopped like after a minute but took...

Usually a response to people that help too much is that they are doing it for their self esteem, out of egoistical reasons etc. I wish I would not need to help people around me, it would be so relaxing to know that everyone is able to solve their own problems. I feel like I am doing it to keep...

@Movingforward10 Music helps, people can help too but that is also a problem because I am the one who helps others, nobody I know is really stable enough to help me. I really don't know what else could help me but I will think about it. I will try speaking it out loud but this is a hard one. I...

I think I need to wait until therapy finally starts to really understand what is happening. @arfie This really helped me, they keyword is to observe and I will try to do that without overthinking. I have very mild ADHD and since yesterday I take a very low dose of extended-release...

I don't really know where to start because I am under stress since years. I need therapy since 3 years and I am still on a waiting list. The therapist assumed a trauma-related disorder with recommendation for trauma therapy and EMDR and I didn't even tell her everything. Some stuff is easier to...