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Nobody here can answer these questions. Only she can. Ask her. In general, it's not about what you can do....its about what she does to make herself more comfortable in these situations. Her feeling unsafe isn't because you're unsafe....its because of her perspective of safeness. You can't...

Like others have said....same line as with anybody else. When you are at your most angry, what do you do with that feeling? My boyfriend is angry all the time. I have never once been yelled at or called a name or threatened. He might close drawers harder than usual....but nothing is ever...

That was great! I have heard some of these thoughts directly from my vet and the rest I suspect and fit the bill. Thanks for sharing @Freida !

I think it was your husband who identified with the Christopher Robin movie? I take it this happens with other movies too? This has happened with my boyfriend and I was confused as well. I gave him specifics and was able to narrow it down. I started with stuff that I knew wasn't the case like...

Something to consider during your muddling. Your sufferer may not be able to answer your questions or may confuse you with seemingly contradictory answers. Things change constantly and so they could give you 2 different answers to the same question....and both are the truth in the time and...

Me: *physical touch if allowed* Do you want to talk about it? Him: No Me: If you change your mind, I'm here anytime. *more physical touch if allowed* Him: *may or may not say anything, anything said isn't much*

Overall, to me, his response sounds like a very straightforward way of cutting you loose. To me it reads as if he is trying to be as clear as possible that he is not interested in a relationship with you. To me, it sounds like he is coming from a loving place because he wants you to move forward...

Yes....it certainly is. It is in my interest to eat healthy, exercise everyday, and get 8 hours of sleep at night. I don't do that. I make excuses because its not important enough to me and humans in general are terrible at doing what's in their interest. In fact, you yourself have admitted...

My nephew is in town so I ducked out for the weekend. Made an appearance at home last night and it was all bad. Same this morning. Very glad I'm gone for a few more days while he rides out the rest of this.

@alanwp Its been another week. How's it going? Seems its been confusing about where everyone stands since the breakup. As I read your words throughout this thread....oh man could I hear myself from around this time last year. Just wanted to invite you to read my diary Dead Link Removed if you...

I like being complimented or praised for anything. It means more and is less awkward when it comes from someone close to me. I like it because its satisfying to learn that someone else recognizes the effort I am putting into something and I can share my sense of accomplishment with them. My...

Yes. It totally sucks watching the one you love with crap like this going on. I think that this turns into a cycle. The initial constipation may have been from eating junk....but then once he's hurting the only thing that sounds good is more junk which then makes the constipation worse. I am...

Lots of good suggestions here. I wanted to piggyback off what @Friday said. First thing I thought when I read your post was the 5 love languages. My boyfriend is a gift-giver and that is at the bottom for me. It was really hard to decipher this at the beginning and I felt very uncomfortable...

This is not on you. Make plans as you ordinarily would. If he doesn't show up that was his decision not because you didn't ask the correct way. I understand not wanting him to disappear because you like to hang out with him but you have no control over his actions. Using certain words or tones...

You just made me cry. Thanks for directing your appreciation to us! I hope you also told your personal supporters! Hugs!

At the point that you feel taken advantage of. Boundaries or they break up. YES! The adhering is the biggest aspect. Right now he knows that you've stuck around for 3 weeks with little or no contact. So he knows he can get away with that and may even push that limit further. This puts you in a...

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What are you looking for from us? It sounds like you don't know if he has PTSD or not?

@Freida has a great perspective on this as usual. From the supporter perspective, in my 5-7 years of experience this doesn't change. Its hard to conceptualize as a supporter but if you spend more time on here and see what sufferers say it starts to make sense when you really put yourself in...

If you continue dating him just keep in mind that this is a thing that happens. I never make plans for "us". I make plans for me that he can join in on. If he wants to go on vacation he picks when and where and ill plan the rest with refundable everything and activities I can do with him or...

I generally don't talk about it unless he brings it up first (rare) or if an aspect of it is affecting our relationship that needs to be addressed. Otherwise I do normal check ins like I would with anybody else, "how was your day?" "Yeah, that sounds hard. Want to talk about it more?" "Is there...

Yes. All of this. Perfectly articulated @Friday

Yup. The reason we haven't had kids and may never have them.

Not sure how long you've been together but yes its weird at first but you'll get used to it with more time when you understand it more. Harder in some ways when you don't live together and can't see the other changes. Easier in other ways because isolation while in the same house is pretty...

He has every right to be upset if you shared something he hadnt yet.... but not if you were under the impression the counselor knew everything because that's what he told you. And then to leave you there, that far from home because of a mistake you made solely because of the information he gave...