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Huh, never thought about that before. Probably because self-nurturing is something I'm especially terrible at. ;) Not sure what that would even be. But it's definitely something to think about.

@Nessa7 All of my dreams are fictional, in general, but use elements of my history, such as places I lived. Often, the elements of my history are cloaked in ways that obfuscate what they actually are. I had a dream, last night, that involved a house... after thinking through it, I realized...

I was considering starting a thread about this topic to corroborate whether others were doing a lot of processing via dreams, and then I saw this thread. :) When I first started trauma therapy, I was having the micro-flashbacks typical of CPTSD during the day. Gradually, though, after 2-3...

I get flashbacks during the day of dreams I had the night before. Sometimes, I don't remember the dreams for most of the day. Then, late in the day, I start getting little flashbacks of what my dreams were. Often, but not always, I'll remember more of the dreams as the evening goes on. But...

I don't think the monitors would allow me to post the exact wording of my thoughts regarding your FORMER dentist. "Prick" is the kindest word that comes to mind. :/ That is a huge change to have your daughter leaving. Might be good for you, though -- providing some space for your healing. :)

Bi-polar?! Do you have significant manic moments akin in intensity to the down moments? Like staying-up for three days working through a story idea? ;) There's a lot of similarity in many psych conditions, and there's likely a relationship between all of the serotonin-based diagnoses. They...

I've had this happen as well, before, primarily with the endocrinology stuff, but also with stuff related to Asperger's for my kids. It actually sucks when this happens -- you're expecting that there's someone out there who's an expert with solutions, only to find-out that there isn't, and that...

That's a brilliant definition. :) Why not? It's whatever holds the most sentimental value or strongest memories for you. I get emotionally triggered by the oddest, smallest things, sometimes.

Isn't there an old saying like, "Aim for victory, or die trying"? I think trauma recovery is a lot like that, truthfully. No guarantee that we'll fully recover, but the alternative to fighting is to give-in -- which means an almost 0% chance of recovery, and a life of hopelessness and misery...

The doctors are used to talking to people who don't know much about this stuff. They are definitely not accustomed to someone like you, who already knows a lot and has both the curiosity and extreme capability to pursue this in detail. :) Partially because Insurance practices are antiquated...

I like this analogy. :D It is much like this. You might be surprised at what the drug is doing. I went-off an SSRI, a few years back, and it was a bad decision. I wasn't ready. My situation was different from yours, though. I'd been on the drug for 13 years, at that point, and had no...

This is the bane of the super-creative person. A person who is not just creative in one realm, but many. Which means that, when you have an idea in one realm, you start correlating them to existing or new ideas in the other realms. It's like a super-fast cascade of creativity. The one thing...

Thanks to everyone that's replied, thus far. It's so helpful to get the perspective of others here. :) This is how I feel. I think it also has to do with how the issue is approached. Being told to break ties or else is not a very collaborative approach. ;) I'm trying to break the behavior...

I have been in a relationship with a woman the past few months. It's been pretty rocky, and it may now be over. One issue, among many, that seems to be a real problem for her is that I, as a male, have a friend of the opposite-sex. I don't see or talk to her very often -- she has a steady...

Interesting to be getting replies on this after so many years. :) Part of the reason for doing this survey was because we saw a potential correlation in those with ADHD symptoms and/or diagnosis with NPD parenting and were curious as to whether the ADHD symptoms were actually caused by trauma...

From the 20th century onward, changes to our world, and humanity itself have been accelerating exponentially. Even though the old definitions of gender, sexuality, etc. have held for tens of thousands of years, they are suddenly inadequate to describe the much more complex options humans now...

Wow, this is one of the biggest things I always feel -- I'm never doing the right thing at the right time. Amazing that you have this as well. :/ A lot of the remainder of this post resonated with me as well. Perhaps, someday, we'll get to a point where we can relax and be at peace with...

There are so many emotional levels and variations -- it can be very difficult to draw the line between "difficult, but maybe improving" and "abusive". It could be multiple things. Only after a period of time, after thinking through all of the patterns of behavior, various events, etc. can you...

While a number of items on your list are appealing, I think this one would be number one for me. I have two issues with doing this, though: 1) I don't really have the room for a drum kit (which is what I'm really interested in). 2) I don't really need another solitary activity; I already have...

Nope -- you ARE a decent human being. Much more than that. :) This is important. As I currently struggle with the end of a relationship, my parts are all over the place, desperately looking for why, how to possibly salvage things, how this simply reinforces all of the trauma-derived beliefs...

Don't be so hard on yourself, @Whispering_Truth. :) It may not be all, or even any, about your issues. It may be the other person with the significant issues. Like others have mentioned, I have been prone to getting into bad relationships. Before treatment, I would simply subsume myself into...

Agree with this. Not that this is top on your mind right now, but this should be added as part of the settlement that you will receive from the insurance of the person who hit your daughter. Did you get the insurance information from that person? The insurance company may try to low-ball...

You are magnificent. Given everything that you're going through, right now, and how heavily this could have sent you over and beyond the edge -- and, yet, you have handled it, and are handling it. Pretty damned amazing. :)

You are being courageous about this. You pursued it, arranged it, and you're going. "Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." -- Mark Twain You're doing great! :)

It is. The therapist takes the place of the parent, for a while, helping to remodel that role away from the crappy model we received as kids, which we then adapted to managing ourselves. Over time, similar to what happens in adolescence, as the patient's identity becomes more solid and he/she...