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Thinking of you. Hope it goes well :)

Great job! You should be proud :) That is such a great accomplishment!

I think it is great that you are able to say that and know it! Thank you for sharing. It makes me so angry that any parent would think that is okay to say to their child, or any child. I can only imagine what it must have been like to hear that when he was calm. Thank you for sharing, too...

I have a homework assignment from my therapist. I have to think of what the worst thing to hear my dad say to me. Most of my memories I know what is happening, or facts about the situation, but don't know what was said. My therapist thinks that if we talk about that, it might ease my fears or...

Thank you for sharing your experience. I had a feeling it was just me freaking out. She has been amazing and seems to understand me and takes me seriously which I am thankful for. Even though I know she understands the emotions/reactions that come with trauma, I am still scared to let lose. It...

Thank you for all the support everyone, it means a lot to me. Thank you for the comfort on this, I will remind myself this when I start thinking about the boy. I would never want someone to feel alone if they were going through that. My dad didn't drink though, at least that I can remember...

I work retail and had this customer call tonight that was a young boy. Probably junior high or high school maybe. It was the most horrible phone call I ever experienced... I am hoping it was some kind of sick joke... Please let it be.. Even though it makes me sick to think that someone would...

I just looked up CBT stuff, and read about someone giving meaning to something that happened. Which is what we talk about, and she tells me to stop putting meaning on things/events/things people say. She's also told me to imagine a stop sign when my head starts giving meaning to things and...

I am nervous to go to therapy tomorrow morning after last week. I wouldn't let myself open up emotionally and did my best to distract or detach from what I was feeling. I feel like my therapist was a bit disappointed in me when she told me I need to try harder next time to look around the room...

I think I failed at quoting.. just looked at my post again, and saw I might have confused what I meant to quote. This quote was concerning childhood trauma and living in an unpredictable environment caused confusion and unpredictability. Not obsessing and analyzing things causing confusion. I...

John Bradshaw

Which book was this? I have done this, too, to help distract myself. Although sometimes I totally zone out and don't even remember what I just watched... That's really interesting. That makes sense, too. I don't remember much, but I know that there was minimizing/denial in my family as...

The start flowing part is super scary though... The "raccoon effect", interesting. I also do the, "I'm fine." It is just easier and you don't have to worry about people not understanding or caring. What do you mean by living in your head? You mean dissociating and not staying in the moment?

I was wondering if others find themselves using this coping skill. I was reading the book Homecoming and when I read about this, I was like, oh my gosh, that is soooooo me! The author was saying how people who grew up in unpredictable environments, that they use the coping skill of "staying in...

That is awesome! :)

I have had a few memories pop up in the last few weeks. One I have been avoiding. I remebered it while I was laying in bed for the night and it drifted across my mind. When I was aware of it, I knew instantly that I remembered it within the past few weeks, but must have pushed it away and didn't...

That's the thing, I hardly remember her, or have any memories of her. But what has been popping up, I would say yes. She is the kind of person that would rather tell me something is wrong or I shouldn't do something instead of discussing it. What I remember the most is trying to steer me clear...

Yea, I have been told before I need to get in the habit of doing this.. It is just hard because I don't know if I get triggered or what because it is hard for me to think clearly when it happens. I have been trying not to feel the emotions or think about it, trying to keep distracted. But I...

I can totally relate. Especially when so many have proved they don't want to handle me or try to understand. I try to remind myself that I deserve someone who will be patient and try to understand where I am coming from. Someone who lets me feel what I am feeling and be okay with it. Not tell me...

This morning I was super irritated. My mum likes to laugh at things. I know there were more than just two, but these were the two I remembered. One was when I was at the ATM at the bank drive thru, I ended up dropping my card. I asked my mum if she could get out so I could climb through. She...

The things I currently do now is go to bed no later than 10:30 and not drink caffiene. I want to keep working on eating healthier and maybe start exercising.

I agree with many people about the difference in how men and women are accepted to express their anger. For guys, it is more sociably acceptable to take it out on other and objects and yelling. Girls are taught to keep it in more. For me, I started self-injuring around 8-9 years old. I remember...

I just had therapy this morning, and this is what my therapist thinks. I don't think she approved that I approached my mum about it. near the end of the appointment, she even said it is just going to push my mum away. Which I responded, I don't care, if she's going to be like that, I don't want...

Tonight I was with my mum and younger brother, older brother and his fiance. We were playing UNO and my younger brother made some comments that my mum found rude and she smacked my little brother in the shoulder/arm. I didn't really see it happen, but the fiance was like, giggling, did she just...

I can relate with the dissociation and therapy. This has been a huge road block for me. When I first started therapy, it was right before sophomore year of high school. I had told my mom, after many, many years of being depressed, that I thought I was depressed. She got me help and throughout...