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Yesterday I shared a very big piece of my trauma in therapy. It was the most open I've ever been with anyone. My therapist was very supportive and kind, using a gentle soothing voice while validating my feelings. Ever since then I can't stop thinking about having sex with her. I had a few...

I was an adolescent when I was hospitalized but it was a positive experience. The adults were on a separate wing and we saw them daily. Everyone seemed chill.

This helps my life SO much!

Literally just happened to me today. I held it together long enough to finish the line at my register. That's progress.

Have you looked into local hiking/nature groups? Go with your interests and find ways to meet people. It sounds like you're on the edge of a great adventure. You're free from a previous life of oppression and you already have 5 years of therapy under your belt. That sounds infinitely exciting...

Definitely want to see Hidden Figures!! Also I want to see A Dog's Purpose. That trailer makes me cry.

Haha that thread was legendary. I feel like we're all still recovering from it. Good for you on communicating openly with your T! OP - a good therapist will explore these feelings with you. It's very uncomfortable but it's important to put feelings on the table in a therapeutic relationship...

I wasn't going to read this because I knew it would make me angry but I did and I am angry. People are so horrible and f*cking stupid it hurts.

Could you ask for a referral to another therapist that he professionally trusts? I would recommend continuing therapy. When you find one you're comfortable with, you can sign for them to retrieve your file from your previous therapist. That way you wouldn't be starting from scratch. When I...

That's such a comforting thing to remember.

I am so on the same page! Personally, I'm a lesbian but I've had experience with men. That hatred for men is deep and real. I'm chronically single and celibate and I love it that way. You're absolutely right that you're drawn to them and they're drawn to you. Right now I'm doing some long term...

I love the Myers Briggs! I'm an ENFJ! Fun story, I took it three years ago and was an ESTJ but after I started going to therapy and working through my trauma I experienced a big personality change over the course of a few months. Like my political opinions did a 180 and I woke up one day an...

I often make notes through out the week of things I'd like to bring up but once I get there and pull out my list, all of the topics seem impossible to bring up. I often wind up pushing through it and I feel better when that happens. I don't understand how I feel so drastically different about...

I have so been there! It's such a crushing feeling. Like your last bit of hope has been taken away. Can you call and see if you can be put on her cancellation list? Someone earlier said they make a list of things to talk about, that has helped me as well.

I do that. When someone starts talking and/or complaining about something that reminds me of my abusive past I zone out. Today I was talking to my mother and I kept having to zone out because she's the same person she was back then.

My therapist dumped me because after 6 months I was still very guarded and anxious in sessions. Also she kept getting offended at things I would say. Ultimately I think our personalities clashed. I knew deep down it wasn't a good fit but I had serious transference going on and wasn't willing to...

Ever since joining this site I've been on different levels of confusion when reading posts about dissociation. I've always thought that words referred to a person losing chunks of time and not remembering entire chunks of their day. It appears some people just mean an advanced form of zoning...

Definitely a sign of progress! If I were you, I would start with a good old fashioned apology. Explain that you got caught up in a downward spiral, you've had a moment of clarity, and you're sorry to have pulled him into the throws of it. Explain your epiphany of your abandonment issues. I am...

I'm sorry, frozen oranges?

Therapists are just people. Some of them are unnerved by some situations and personality types. I ask a lot of pointed questions and often say things most people wouldn't (such as "I feel like you don't like me right now. I might not be entirely receptive to what you're saying while I'm in this...

For me it is like I go rigid when my therapist brings up trauma topics. Like "you can't make me crack" kind of sternness. I would like to cry and let go but instinctually I wall off the feelings when they begin to arise.

I'm not promiscuous but I'm in a similar boat as @Fadeaway. I actually just brought this up in therapy very recently. Ive kept that secret bottled up for so long but I knew within minutes of telling my therapist, that I had done the right thing. Our perceptions of sexuality become so distorted...

That's something most of us wind up working through. Currently I'm content without any sexual partners. Hopefully one day I'll work through that part of my trauma but it's too much for me to think about right now. The Courage to Heal has a chapter on reclaiming your sexuality but I'm glad it's...

I'll take "ruined forever" for 1000, Alex.

Therapists expect clients to paint a prettier picture than reality. Especially at first. If she's been in practice for even just a few years, you probably can't surprise her. Some therapists are touchy about suicidal ideation (for liability reasons) but every therapist knows it is par for the...