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I would second that. I have huge problems coping with reminders of combat, alarm bells etc.

Marcey, This is progress. I can't help feeling that it shows that he wants to be with you and that he loves you. Maybe he's beating himself up because he knows how hard it must be for you. Others will have wiser words than me on this but I try to look on the positive and this definitely looks...

So am I. So am I. I think I just need hugs too!

Sheila, I have asked, suggested and begged with no success. She says that all feelings within the marriage have gone but wants us to remain friends and that she will always be there for me (on the phone!). She feels that marriage councelling would do no good and that she'd only end up feeling...

Hi Marcey, Firstly, welcome to the forum. You've come to the right place to search for answers. I also have combat PTSD which I've had for many years now although it's got worse in the last few. He sounds very confused and disoriented. If he's recently back from Afghan then he will be...

Today I'm feeling unbearably sad. I saw a text from my wife to her mother which said "I'm breaking his heart and it's making me feel really shitty". Her mother's reply?..............."Stay strong!". I don't know what to make of this. Those of you who have been reading my posts will know that...

Today I helped an old friend clear some space in one of his barns so I can store my stuff when the house gets sold. An unhappy day today.

There are some really wise words here. I like the thought of exit strategies. I have issues in crowds and prefer my quiet country life. I remember going to a shopping mall and seeing everyone bustling about and it just looked weird. I could not see the point of thousands of people wandering...

Today there is a builder finishing off various jobs around the house so it can be sold. He's fitting a shower I'll never use and fixing things I can do myself but my wife wants the house on the market asap so she can leave. She's screwing me for every penny she can get and doesn't seem to give...

I would like this twice if I could. Definitely look for another job

Walking down country lanes and kicking the leaves.

Hi Isis, welcome to the forum. What kind of work to you do? Is it a big company, small one, specialized job etc. From what you say it almost seems like you've jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire. People are just not allowed to treat an employee like that. The guy sounds like a thug...

I so envy you all. I dread Christmas. I love the day, the idea of it, presents, watching the kids and Christmas lunch but just the feeling I get at Christmas puts me on edge and leaves me feeling very isolated and alone. For me there are too many sad times to mention and the memories of...

It most definitely is okay to have a good day. The trick is to hang on to that day and remember it when you have a bad one. Some days I feel and act as if I didn't have PTSD then out of the blue something will happen and I'm emotional and just want to shut myself away. I find that the...

That rings so true for me also. I always put it down to being a Libra! I've made a stand when I shouldn't and have gone with the flow when I actually had an opinion I should have raised. It's hard to get it right and something I am battling with.

Curtains.

Hi Margo, Your mother sounds like the last person on earth that should be allowed near children. I'm not surprised her being in town is acting as a trigger. Everyone on here is suffering for a different reason. It is our experiences that got us here and yours certainly seem to be major...

I'm feeling extremely anxious today. I'm worried about the future and not seeing my kids grow up and that is making me very tearful. I don't understand what's going on.

Lesson for the week: Instead of reacting I have to try and remember that I need to say "Give me a while to think that over". I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to keep it up.

Today I'm feeling confused. My wife still wants a divorce and just seems to want me out of her life. However, I've done the maths and it looks like I might be better off financially on my own. Work that one out!! Hence the confusion.

Today I had a visit from Veterans UK to register a claim for a war pension for my PTSD!! It could take months but it gets backdated to today so that's a positive. I didn't even know I was entitled to one.!

Good advice Bubzie, I have done most of that but I think I've left it too late. At least I'm getting help now. She says that all feeling within the marriage has gone and I'm just a friend but who knows.

Jeez, what next. First she's taking the kids and moving up north and so I have to start planning my future to cope with that despite pleading that she stays somewhere where I can still be a dad. Now I get "it's not set in stone" about the move north so plans up in the air again. I'm confused...

It make me sad too. Unfortunately, my wife says that she's had enough. She says she's been telling me for years to get help and she just can't take any more even though if you read through my other posts you'll see what I've achieved in the past couple of weeks. She's currently planning a...

Unfortunately in my case I also had an alcoholic mother and my brother died when I was 8 (I'm now 50) so my issues are compounded by a defense mechanism that was developed at an early age and then honed in the Forces. I have never been able to engage in empathy as my defense response is...