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Attempting to navigate a relationship with a BPD and have no advice, but wanted to say that I can imagine your situation. Very sad you have had to face these issues again.

Hi IsStranged, welcome. I suffer from childhood trauma and have been at it as long as you. It can be exhausting sometimes. Hope you meet some good people here and learn some additional techniques to deal with the symptoms and get a break. Hope to meet you in live chat sometime.

WoW, not something you can just pick up instantaneously. Everyone has techniques that work best for them and their situation. Easiest and least obvious to others is deep, relaxing, cleansing breaths. Deep lungful, hold for 10 seconds, and slowly decompress through your nose. Does not fix a...

WOW, i get to be the first to greet you and welcome you. Sweet. Skyy, I am also an old timer, suffered for 25 years before the PTSD was coined. It was a lonely and confusing time when we were all alone and confused. Learning there was a name for what we had, and that we were not just crazy was a...

Good morning and welcome to the site. No one presses you here, it is a safe place to explore and interact as you develop your trust. Hope to meet you in open chat sometime soon.

i was not around for the second around for the second incident, but i was in the room for the first. Actually, i thought the Mod handled it pretty well. Someone was spouting off, received several well worded warnings to drop the topic, didn't and got the boot. The only thing I might have done...

Just recently happened to me, like 2 weeks ago. Walked into an waterpark with my kids and wife and it hit me like a truck. Barely got to a chair without passing out. Took 90 minutes to get my feet under me and back under control. Most of that time I felt like my plugged it the wall, distracted...

Welcome Bluestar, glad you are here.

Welcome Unknownrgt. Also have childhood trauma, also self medicated with drugs and alcohol, also now clean and dry. Look forward to hearing more from you and/or seeing you in the chatroom. Glad you are here, it is a solid positive step.

I can totally hear myself telling myself this over the years. And, it is true that I germinated, fertilized, and nurtured all kids of self blame for the problems and symptoms I had, I finally decided that others had a big part in it too. I wasn't an out of control masochist They planted the...

Hi and welcome. I am pretty new too, but learning alot already. Hope to catch you in the chat room sometime.

i totally get your point, and believe me I shared your view for a long time. I called myself a wimp, and thought about how the medical intervention saved my life, and why am I hurting so and not grateful, and on and on. But by the time I was old enough to use logic to try understand, i had spent...

A lot of children had surgeries w/o anesthesia, but a much smaller subset have preverbal memories strong enough to have effected their growth and development. We grew up with a intense sense of horror, like living in an Edgar Allen Poe story. We had no understanding what happened or why we felt...

my PTSD symptoms started around 5 y/o, of course at the time I had no idea what was going on, but I thought i knew the source. I started replaying the trauma almost from the start to try and decipher what the details were and discover why it scared me so. So i replayed to explore and learn at...

Saddly i have had some personal experience, i am married to a Bpd, and the last 15 years have been............interesting?

Is this your first encounter with a Borderline Personality Disorder? If so, you ought to know that they are some of the most difficult, usually impossible people to deal with. Although they want to you to take the blame for everything that goes/went wrong; they usually set up the Catch-22 and...

YES, if for only one outcome. Explaining to him/her you NEED to exercise some control over the situation/proceedures...to be allowed to make some of the the decisions, set the pace of the exams, step away for a few minutes if you need to without explanation, or to request all male or all female...

Took many years starting at 5 or 6. Spent 20 years pondering why I was like I was. This was way before PTSD was considered an DX.

The secrecy was a HUGE feature for me, and still is to a degree. It took 35 years of severe symptoms before I spoke a word about it to anyone. Never figured out why hiding was so important. Did you?

1) Which medical illness/accident/medical prosedures did you have? Was diagnosed with Pyloric Stenosis after a week of inability to digest any milk or formula. Required upper abdominal surgery to repair. Was operated on without anesthesia or any pain meds, was only given a paralytic and a...

I came very close to catatonia several times, but had to learn quick how to NOT show any external response to triggers as it would open the door to questions and focus on me. I ALWAYS hid and flew under the radar. Never let anyone know what extreme symptoms I was living through. Was 30 years old...

Wondering if there are many others out here who had surgeries as an infant or toddler prior to the 1980s. It was NOT routine to give a baby anesthesia or any kind of pain relief in the US before 1984 or so. The children were paralyzed, but awake, alert and feeling everything being done to them...