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Stay strong and find the right therapy! You have got a good sense about it!

I hear you... but for me I don't. .. people see me as bulletproof. Probably what happens to most men. They see me as strong and invincible... I could never go to one of those places because it would mean I was telling myself my victim past defined me and I am too much of a fighter... but I...

I got hypnosis for quitting about 10 years ago... it was hilarious I say in the car smoking 3 cigarettes hating him before going in to concede I was ready to quit. Lol... you know what made me want yo quit.. my dogs didn't like the smell... they have super sensitive noses, plus I needed to be...

I know I want yo be there she's angry with me for an argument we had at the end of a stressful day for her. I need more skills in how to say things so ot doesn't hurt her as she's very sensitive and that's ok.. I know she will forgive me and I want to be there... it needs to be gradual.over the...

Don't beat yourself up about smoking... I say if you smoke do the cigarette. . If you don't smoke enjoy the health and financial benefits! But either way... enjoy it!!

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We also got to do amazing stuff together. Had a month holiday every year. I drove her 4.5 hours to the mountain every weekend when she was a teenager to be in the snowboarding race team on the weekends in winter... even when it meant coming off a 10 hour flight back from Hong Kong ... I visited...

She would want me to live with them look after her boys and be there 24x7 and I feel horribly guilty that I don't want that. I feel she wants that because it was hard it being just me and her and I had a big career so she missed me and got very lonely. .. it breaks my heart looking back. How I...

28 with 2 boys 3years and 4 months old. I just need to be patient and learn some more skills. Just had 30 minute chat with counselor as my heart feels like it's breaking sometimes when I know my daughter's hurting but we need time apart and she doesn't handle it well and threatens to not see me...

In therapy every week myself for years... gaining strength hoping to model beter skills and set limits without making her feel abandoned. Wip

Yes unsuccessfully tried that twice now :(

Have you internalized your abuser. . Can you put them in a snowglobe with thick glass and just see them as unable to reach you now, as you live in the present. So you still need to navigate how to handle the emotions but from a place of safety, here now with the abusers safely blocked under a...

I sense your safe place was hurt (family ) and the key will be to do lots of things to rebuild all of your families feelings of safety again. It will get better, I hope you get to do lots of family things that make you feel warm and safe inside.. and i hope you get t start some new family...

That's trully horrid and I can understand why you suffer. There's nothing more hurtful than when someone actually means you harm. How they justify it is beyond me but they do. To have a daughter in the midst of it can only make you feel powerless. I hear your pain. I am sending comraderie rays...

I can only imagine how annoying.. poor guy... but yes I love alone time! Can you poor a hot bubble bath and escape with scented candles?

Big hugs for you. Warm soft blankets, a soothing bath with crystals, scented candles and creams, hot chocolate and cuddling my dogs, looking at pictures or watching a comedy or a light hearted romance all are things I do to self soothe, sometimes all in one night. You are important. Your...

That makes me so mad!!!! The abuse from siblings often is the hardest and cruelest. I too suffered constant humiliation at the hands of 2 of my siblings who saw me as a symbol of their troubles and an easy scapegoat, luckily the other 2 siblings were amazing people and my best friends growing...

You can do it :)

Awesome advice

Sending lots of positive thought rays out to ya for tomorrow... one step closer to it happening. One foot in front of the other, it will happen.

Glad you found this place, lots of great people in here. including you.

I cried tears of happiness for both Mar Lauries! Yesss! hoooray!!! I am so veyr very glad you made thaty decision too!

wow, I hope you get the best in life to come! that is a terrifying tale and I hope you find really good calm people in your future that bring you peace and happiness.

behind the scenes, I had walked out of my business I had built up in the USA and all the cars and fled with $200 and a baby, I was lucky enough to have a house to stay in until I found work, but the relationship with my mother who owned the house and was overseas... sounds similar to yours...

You Rock ground crew. Never give up on you! Feel what you need to make it all rocket fuel to propel you forward. I believe in you. (Your mum sounds like a nasty piece of work, makes me wish I could have stopped that from happening and comforted you after to say dude... not your fault, she got...