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sounds conflicting, be gentle with yourself. how would you treat another little girl that had your experiences, feel that emotion as it is for you. (assuming its kindness and empathy or protectiveness)

re - really early sadness, fear I'm dying, feelings of non-existence, probably abandonment stuff - This made me feel very sad to picture you feeling this way as a young child, and reminded me of my own lost self. I think the sadness comes both sometimes as the endless pit, which you need to...

Apparently this is good for recovered memories that cause repeated flashback problems. Not unprocessed memories. They need to be overtly discussed. But have decided to re-implement my own eye movement therapy that helped in the past for now and some hypnosis too as well as some guided...

I have parts of me that feel this way, remember we are more than just the feelings of one set of experiences. Joy can be found today here in the now. Pet an animal or look at a tree or listen to a bird. I find nature calming and grounding in the here and now of today. You Will need to develop...

Just realised your name, Jigsaw Puzzle... so get that! Thanks for your kind words, I have to slow down I think on forcing myself to find stuff that my mind won't let me reach. Also need to find more happiness in just everyday living and to be honest probably do need a break from Therapy that...

EMDR now that's interesting! In my own journey I also have read the complete works of Milton Erickson, discovered self hyponosis and followed some of the chaps that trained with him, and the 2 chappies that termed "NLP" from observing his methods... Listening to one course online (with the...

Wise advice.. I need to contemplate seriously as this is good advice

Lol your comments made part of my giggle I liked your description of him lol.

Lol. Yes I have had 20 years of it so far. I Get irritated about the missing pieces doubt myself but also getting a lot stronger too. The stuff I'm doing now is probably the toughest which is why I get so messy in it all. But hell I have a beautiful daughter that I have adored and loved from the...

DOG Appeals to my playful view of the world and my strong connection with dogs and nature. The purity of love and the living in the "now" of a dogs essence. Their deep connection and companionship without judgement, without the ability to totally pervert my sanity, dogs just are better! It helps...

I used Dog instead of God and then I felt calm. The patriarchal authoritarian language of their male, human like God pissed me off constantly, it brought the worst rage and rebellion out in me. But when I swapped it for Dog, I felt calm.

Yep I listen to the Dalai Lama. The reincarnation and karma isn't my thing but the rest Is all rather beautiful and makes sense. Best of all is the duty to your own happiness. I remember when I first heard it I was shocked, as duty to be happy had never dawned on me as a spiritual quest and the...

Yes I "refuse to subscribe to the f*cked up.channel!" That was my biological parents together...... bad news! I ain't no scapegoat anymore, no patsy, no saviour, no martyr, no thanks. I am very sensitive to people trying to ever put me in that position. I will simply not be bullied anymore. I...

Wow, if there was one here i'd go. Have you seen the you tube skit on Ricky Jervis "the bible "... good fun. He also had the nice experience of Sunday school I did and decided it was all a crock when he grew up. He studied philosophy and didn't actually get anywhere in comedy until he was 40...

Love to me is all about actions, has someone got your best interests at heart. Specifically what actions do they take to demonstrate that. For me "saying I love you" is one thing, if that's not congruent with actions in my best interests then words aren't love for me. My father said he loved me...

profound your experiences are so opposite yet we found common ground in the end. I just can't deal with the dogma either. As a child my parents were definately athiests (my father was a mathematician and a computer scientist doing his PHD on Alan Turing's thinking machine, (living in Manchest...

GOD is DOG backwards, I mantra that to myself to try and hear what people are saying without just getting pissed off .

Awesome descriptions though! Yes intensity of emotion is my challenge these days too.

Labels can be so destructive. I only accept PTSD as a lable because it gives me something more concrete and definable to enable me to take the time I need to process the trauma emotions and "unjangle" the puzzle of me, separate from the very bizzare puzzles that were parents when I was growing...

Sad for you about your dog. Can you get another one? I experience great joy and connection with my dogs. Comraderie yes... that's what I think I Will eventually seek.. friendship that adds to each person. Not nice to hear your life was threatened that early on, I could really relate to the...

Is that your dog... gorgeous!

The effect trauma has on how I feel is the challenge for me. Some parts are working well in my life and some aren't. I avoid lots of things today as rage is not a pleasant experience anymore and hasn't been for a long time. I seek feelings of love and connection from nature and my daughter and...

I guess it's pretty crap story of woe that I need to leave behind me now. Was hurt no comments but has been my life experience that we never I tried to tell my story people would say nothing and look away, and I felt shit even more. Time to move on and grab my life with both hands again. Can't...

I believe you have the right to.be anyway you need as long as you aren't harming others or yourself. Emotions happen anyway so don't worry you don't have to force anything. Safety first and your happiness and safety comes first. I completely understand if all you want is calm and you have the...

It's too dangerous to date for me. My peace of mind is more precious to me. When I find someone that doesn't rattle my serenity and they are positive towards my daughter and grandkids then I would consider after a long period of friendship first. But I ain't looking :). I have lost too much...