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Sorry, my comment is not about the thread... but I love your saying, Someday this pain will be useful. I have found that to be true. And in my present pain, I am remembering and trusting that it will also prove true in the future.

Ok I will say that you probably need to read more on here and you will discover that this really is not atypical behavior. A rush to closeness and disclosure is often followed by abrupt distancing and isolating. So please please be forwarned. Even in close friendships this occurs. When the...

It truly could have been just a prank. Let's hope so. I work 3rd shift retail 10-7. We get LOTS of prank calls. I do not have ptsd but I find some of these calls very upsetting. It is hard sometimes to tell if it is a prank or not. The obscene calls are better than the disturbing ones.

That sounds odd to me. From what I have read here many if not most sufferers try to push those they truly love away because they DO love them and feel like they deserve an easier life. Mine does that with close friendships even. Doesn't want to hurt you. Realizes who is superficial and who is...

The title of this thread says five years. Five years of not working, not taking legitimate steps to get in a better place in order to do so, looks like that may be it for life. I have two sufferers in my life and they are both workaholics. Work is predictable, controlled, and a place they can...

I do not pretend to know how all sufferers are. But I will say my sufferer does not sleep well and while she does relatively well at her job, it is her primary focus, personally she just does not do being committed to be or do anything else well. She makes absolutely vital things most of the...

I am a supporter, not a sufferer. But I am a compulsive list maker. The day I realized how bad was when my lead (supervisor) at work started revising my list!! The first time I found my list with a DO THIS FIRST on it at the top I cracked up. I do it at home and at work when I had that job. I...

I find that many amuse me or comfort me. But.... the ones that make me feel bad about my sufferer and ptsd usually pop up on my newsfeed at particularly bad moments. Just because our sufferers cannot say or be those things does not mean they don't care about us. They love how they can with what...

Radise, feel free to send me some incredibly spiritual ones!

Does anyone hate all those sappy internet posts as much as I do? It is so incredibly painful sometimes because of a sufferer's isolation or cutting off someone to read stuff like: "If someone wants you in their life they will make time for you." "If someone doesn't appreciate your presence...

The reason my heart hurts every day.

I believe Solara is right. My husband is like she says. No one had a clue what he could be like. You never know till you live with someone. He has a very very low tolerance for frustration. No skills to cope with anger or frustration. Verbally abusive and physically abusive. This sounds like...

Don't know much about birds. The last bird I knew was named Caspar, was HUGE, white, and EXTREMELY LOUD. Are Macaws loud or "speaking" birds? And yes he is certainly a pretty bird!!

I wish the sufferer in my life had a fraction of the communication skills and concern for the other party that you do!! As everyone else has said, consider very carefully. I am more than willing to adapt to my sufferer but without communication that is impossible. How do you adjust to someone's...

Hmmm, Radise, my sufferer HATES Facebook. Thinks it is just of the devil. A place for people to get themselves in trouble. Too easy to hook up with old flames or the wrong people. Which I say you will do regardless if that is in your heart. But my sufferer thinks is just too easily facilitated...

My sufferer overshares compulsively with acquaintances, everyone around her thinks she is transparent. BUT although she will say she is crazy, she does NOT confide about her ptsd. Whispers it like it is a dirty secret, like if you know you will run, shun her like she said leprosy.

Love the cartoon!! :D

Pretty sad when the only thing I really do want for Christmas is a breadcrumb from my sufferer, anything at all that acknowledges my existence. :sorry: Wish I could make it not matter.

Ummm, I do this and I do not have ptsd or anything. Basically I get in the state you described. But I am thinking about it in my head while I do those other things. Skimming materials along the way. Pretty much when I sit down to write AT THE LAST MINUTE I almost have it all mapped out in my...

Six months today.

I actually am actively looking for ways to take care of me. And ways to turn this into positives for my own life. I am not ready or willing to say goodbye. I promised I would not. But in the normal world it is not normal to isolate from people for prolonged periods. Not seeing people for a...

It just hurts to be the throw away. The one pushed away. The one that is just worth so little that it is easy to leave me behind without the CLOSURE I have literally begged for. What is so hard about saying GOODBYE? When you know leaving someone hanging is hurting them? I know it is probably...

And the "fun" one views me as the nobody third party!! We met the sufferer at the same time, but they were personal friends far longer. I see it as one of my other friends puts it, ''It's a big tent." I have so many friends and acquaintances it is sooo hard for me to understand that attitude of...

Thank you. I know she will never get it. I just feel like I am being judgmental of her and I really don't want to do that. But she really is pretty clueless. I think she sincerely just wants to defend her friend. But defending your friend has never meant you had to be offensive to me. She could...

If this wasn't playing out in my workplace, trust me I would have already done so. The sufferer is no longer there, moved away. But when I texted her something that triggered her, she shared her meltdown with the "fun" one. Who has no clue what is actually going on. It is hard as a Christian...