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I validate your feelings are very real. I confess that even though I am so fortunate and have the world's best husband in some ways (of course not all, and he has his flaws) I have become ENRAGED and very triggered at times when he has come up behind me and touched me in any way, even a hug or...

I think Xanax can make dissociation worse if a dissociative disorder is the root of most symptoms and not only the PTSD. I'm sorry I cannot help specifically and would see this as a call the Therapist or Dr back and get help today. Has your T or Tdoc given you the Dissociative Scale tests or...

I've so been there, @Zoogal Even when one of my school children stands behind me and I suddenly notice, I have felt "violated" by being triggered. Worse for you since you feel you 'allowed it.' However, you did not allow yourself to be 'triggered.' That is PTSD's fault, not yours. You are...

I'm glad that your cousin has her daughter in her difficult life now at its end. There is some beauty in this, Muse

Not the boss or employer, per se, but a confidant or coworker. I felt like she meant to just connect with a trusted coworker. She said it's important for several reasons (to have a supporter at work) to reduce stress. My current workplace has triggered me in some unexpected ways, as a teacher...

Can you call your or wife's employers EAP program? You get some free social work expert help, which who knows, can sometimes alert you to some funding or support that might do the trick. You should be entitled to tax refunds for anything you pay for childcare, including a private nanny, and...

Well, it sounds like a kind of compliment from her daughter. It sounds like they have a solid relationship.

First of all, I think that dissociation is not a pathology in itself. Children can do this, and often perceive things that adults have had "shut down" from lack of reinforcement. Essentially, most adults are not feeling rewarded by such things, until they have an epiphany, need/crisis, or...

Your brother is invalidating and victim-blaming. Where is it written in his Bible and why does he think that he's right and you're wrong? Forgiveness to those who sexually abused you is absurd. Have they apologized through broken sobs, written out a total confession, and taken a cyanide pill...

How are you, @recoveringfromptsd I want to validate how important it is to have someone in the family who "gets it" and can validate and corroborate. That's, well, it's the basis of all relationship, having something in common. I'm sorry for this happening both to her and you.

Don't push to remember. Just put yourself first in your growth and surround yourself with only those who love you and listen and help you feel more safe. Safety first, always. If you will benefit from remembering, which you could, then it just happens when you are ready to handle it...

That must feel so good! I'm happy for you, Nessa!

I, too, was treated in a similar way, but at home and church. My dad and his friend also used a camera and tripod. For years, I would have a panic whenever a camera was taken out. My little sister would have terrible flashbacks when our mom took us to have our photo taken. I hate that there...

Rabecca, what has happened to these sadists? Are they dead? In prison? Career criminals? Or religious leaders? I hate that they did this to you. I just hate it. I don't have words other than to validate that what they did was to torture you deliberately.

Rabecca, I haven't read your other posts yet to know, but do you have a Dr. or way to get support right now? I have been there a few times. And I agree that it's part of the traumatic experience flashback and the amount of retraumatization of having those kinds of flashbacks does to you. It...

No, he was using her to make money so he could get more heroine. The hotel was likely a place where he met his "man" to buy his next supply, so it became expedient to suddenly make a bunch of cash to use to make the next buy. She was there. This makes me so angry and sad. I really wish we had...

I completely agree @Friday Why is our system so broken? Rhetorical. You certainly don't have to try to explain it to me.

At the beginning, I seriously doubted myself or the ability to quit because it was so hard and I thought about not tapering each dose (temptation). But by the second and third dose tapers it got easier and easier. I swear by grapefruit juice (pure) or the fruit every morning. For me it does...

You can report her to the FBI: Tips If she does so via daycare or other childcare, you can report that to local law enforcement or the state licensing agency. I'd have a hard time not accidentally running her over. :mad:

I'm so sorry your dad tried to kill you. You're one of the few people I have found on the forum who shares this trauma in common with me. My mom tried to kill my sister, and I think I was her next target, but luckily it didn't go that far because I put a stop to it and survived. I do think...

Not doing something is also doing something. By not being open about the truth, that act has major consequences, too.

One month! That's ridiculous! After 3.5 years! Here's what worked for me and I've been completely off since June 1, 2016 with no desire or need for it. I took 3-4 months. I was on Xanax for 2 years. We went from the extended release 1 g per day to two lower doses that come lower than the...

Usually, when I break why someone is a trigger down, it comes down to one thing about the physical appearance, especially if the appearance suddenly has been altered. Suddenly my boss is wearing a neck tie, was one case. My brain registers a similarity to my attackers that I don't, on a...

Part of his initial reaction is called "victim blaming" and is a type of denial. When I talked to my husband, he reacted okay but in a kinda numb and automatic way. It takes about 24 hours for this level of emotional stuff to settle down into bone. Then, it sort of "drops" into gear and the...

With trauma and it being so sudden, remember that some of it is with crystal accuracy in memory, and some is overwhelming and cannot be recalled without dissociation. It's okay, it's part of trauma and the person is to be listened to with total empathy (to model self-empathy) and total belief...