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Anonymous, I just wanted to drop in with some reassurance for you that what you are experiencing, though upsetting and uncomfortable and confusing, sounds as though it is very normal and healthy, particularly given your ability and willingness to discuss it with your therapist and to hence use...

Love your post Zef. Not only are you spot on about all of it, but what you wrote, particularly your final point about the sufferer currently working harder than anyone at the office will ever know, was really validating to me. As someone who has recently become aware of some general sentiment...

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Hanging in there with you Blackbird, I really am. In a bad space right now and have very few words. Your T's reaction does not sound helpful, I'm sorry. Will try to come back later with a more coherent response, but please know you are never alone with this. Maddog

Utterly unbearable here right now. No words.

Yep, I've bought and downloaded it. Also just ffinishing something else and hope to get started in the next couple of days. Maddog

Thanks for the description Katye, it sounds like a very useful and well-run group and I'm glad you are finding it beneficial. Maddog

My apologies. For some reason my screenreader isn't seeing this. Hope I don't get logged out...

StrongerNow, just wanted to send you some gentle validation for what you are experiencing, including all of the perceived fragmenting and confusion of what you are explaining. Actually I haven't found your explanations to be fragmented at all, or at least not beyond the fact that this is a very...

I apologise in advance if I've missed this somewhere, or if it's somehow obvious to everyone else, but I am also curious about log-in procedures and how or if they are managed under the new site. If I somehow get logged out, or use another computer etc, how doI go about logging in? Maddog

Abstract, I am slowly, deeply reluctantly, coming to believe that together with toxic shame, learned helplessness is a core issue for me. Together, they are the epicentre of my disorder, and most of who I am and how I behave and what I think and feel is symptomatic of these two separate, though...

Oh Abstract, your words always always always carry such eerie truths for me, I could quote your entire posts and claim them as my own (if the quoting feature didn't fry my own divorced brain so much that I can't face the prospect of trying). I often bore myself, let alone how others must feel...

I haven't responded to date, out of a bit of cowardice really, given that I seem to be something of an outlier. For me, the diagnosis really didn't mean much to me at all, beyond a label that, in some instances, allowed me to have to use less words to explain what was wrong with me, on the rare...

Ug, putting your feelings out there into what feels like an empty void is never a comfortable or satisfying feeling is it. Sadly, I guess this was always a possibility, and as you say, you may never know the reason for the silence unless she chooses to share at some point, or it becomes self...

Sometimes I almost wish I didn't look forward to going. Maybe then I wouldn't hate myself so much for my dependence on him. I know it's worst when I'm struggling, and... I'm struggling, but it's still a horrible, shameful, frightening feeling, no matter how hard I tell myself it shouldn't be...

I love exercising, but also tend to be very triggered by it when my heartrate increases beyond a certain rate as you mention, or when other physiological markers of extreme exertion kick in. I also tend to become obsessive and self-punishing in my use of strenuous exercise, and so it is an...

I think I need a new book to start, and this one sounds good. Think I'll take the plunge if it's on kindle... Maddog

Sounds really interesting, especially as I've read the book and have found it to be extremely helpful and validating. I was wondering if you could share a little more about how the groups run? What is their general structure and content (without breaching confidentiality of course)? Is it a...

Hi Strongernow. For what it's worth, I think that dissociating, or becoming otherwise highly anxious and/or distressed, in the context of shopping centres or malls, is really really common. I certainly never thought so and naively assumed it was some strange little personal torture, but...

Sounds like you're well on the road to processing your trauma and to enhancing your own coping and resilience strategies at the same time. Whatever words are used, it sounds like a great and positive thing, so well done to you. Don't ever underestimate the significance of every step you take...

Gosh, certainly feeling overwhelmed, but not due to anyone here or anything that anyone has said. It's just that even trying to think or articulate about this issue seems to kick it into action and I feel the wordless numbness and paralysis closing in around me like some sort of wet blanket of...

Hi KVal. I wanted to chime in, albeit belatedly, firstly to commend you, with all sincerity, for the care and concern you are showing to your employee. I have seen and inferred nothing in any of your posts that would make me think that your interest is anything other than genuine, appropriate...

Oh Blackbird, "liking" your post a hundred times. Whether or not you click over into the diagnosable ED category is only a drop in the ocean of whether or not you struggle with disordered eating and all of its related difficulties. I agree. Sometimes I almost wish I could just have one or...

Sorry I was slow to come back here to respond Philippa, but for what it's worth, I think that if the letter brought you a sense of empowerment (God, I hate that word, but you know what I mean...) and felt like the right thing to do for *you*, then it's a good thing that you wrote and sent it...

Thank you all so much for your responses and thoughts and experiences, they are really validating and helpful to me and I'm afraid that I can't do justice to replying to them all right now, though can hopefully do a better job later. As a starting point: Hashi, your comparison to issues of...