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This is just such a helpful reply and I am reading it again and again. I am of course sorry to hear of your challenges too. Cheating is such a strong word but sadly you are right and I feel terrible. I never set out to hurt anyone. It was just so nice to get the attention from a rather clever...

You are You are quite right sadly xxxxx :(

This reply really struck a chord thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my message. I would love to make things work - however I say the same thing time and time again and it never changes. I am lingering out of habit and never saw it like that - I have spend so long with him - and...

My husband says he has to to turn off his emotions just to cope - but its not fair on us.... we have been together for 30 years and he never used to be like this - I dont even like who he has become.... :(

Are you living in my house Stressed Husband????????!!!!!!!!! Sounds like you are!! :(

Dear likeminded friends This group has always been such a rock even though I haven't posted in quite sometime. I have done something stupid - however for the first time in 10 years I felt some happiness. I felt that I turned someone on and made them laugh. Someone was thinking about me.... I...

I try... but sometimes its not worth it... he must see me rushing around and at breaking point.... he does do somethings sometimes... he has to work from home too.... I will ask more... sometimes I may say "Can you do xxxx" and he doesnt or he does it begrudgingly and this just upsets me more... :(

Thanks Sweetpea... we need to look at boundaries - at the moment it isn't do good as he seems to have lost his memory but I am exhausted.... I have got my son off to school, worked all day in my office before 8am.... worked non stop until 3.45 went food shopping, picked my son up, made...

Bless you Zoogal... Triggers..... me :( and our son .. although this isn't so much anymore.... Other triggers.... now I dont know.... just really bad dreams and flashbacks out of the blue... He did go to A and E when is happened badly last time.... he sort of came round after several hours/...

I feel terrible and feel that I have this.... :( I am struggling to care and I feel horrible saying it....:( I feel evil :( He has even said this to me "you dont care anymore" But its just so tough :(

Just time... but it hasn't been this long before........ and it hasn't happened for several years.... this really was out of the blue when we thought things were going OK :( xxxx

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My self management is to not be around my PTSD sufferer husband. The minute he walks out of the door I feel a weight off of my shoulders.... I hate saying this. I want us to go out, smile, have fun..... I have a double life..... I am on the stage, meeting cool people and celebs.... the...

He was hazy for several hours and then fell asleep for the afternoon - from about 1pm/2pm until 6pm ish. He then ate with us. He didnt let on with our son gave him a hug and said hello. My husband was very quiet, watched some TV and then I put my son to bed at 9pm. My husband said he was...

So sorry to read this... PTSD is just evil in my opinion ... sending hugs xxx

Thanks Zoogal - its hard :( xx

Sadly you may be right - but he doesnt want to go through more CBT etc... it made him worse... for years he tried all sorts - even a shamen :( it was horrendous :( x

Thank you so much for your honesty and advice - this has helped a great deal and maybe something we can aim for... thank you Whispering Unicorn .... With love Sunshine xxx

Wow thanks as always... what incredible people on this forum..... I hope this thread may help others too.... I am scared as its been so long now and I dont know if I have feelings for him... he is so cold.... I would love to try something like the above too - but we always seem to be working...

I haven't posted for 3 years and posted yesterday.... and now hubby walked in through the door.... he had been out working... and took our son to school... I said "Hi babes did you get Callum to school OK?" and he said "Who?" My heart flipped over.... it hasn't happened for at least a...

I agree and have said how much I would like for us to go out, hold hands, just look in my eyes.... but it just never happens.... I have tried a few things but get rejected... or ignored... then I am left feeling gutted.... and rejected.... too scared to try anything ... maybe just sitting on his...

Thanks so much for your reply - very interesting xxx

It's been 3 years since I posted lovely people.... I am not sure where time flies to..... Since finding a good new career things have improved for my PTSD suffering hubbie.... however our personal life is nonexistent... no laughter, no going out, no intimacy, maybe twice/ 3 times a year he...

Hi Fruitlo0pie I have posted for a very long time and thought I would check in today - I wondered how your hubbie was doing with the EMDR - this is something my husband is going to start hopefully very soon. Sending you positive wishes - Sunshine

Thank you so much everyone - I haven't been on here for a little while - just juggling as always. Things seemed to be OK and yesterday went downhill. This illness is so mean. Things were OK & we went to the shops for a few hours - then hubby just changed. Walking off and expecting us to follow...