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Feeling pretty down tonight. I've been doing pretty well before this, but the culmination of discovering a new trigger and a new memory looming and I'm feeling so terrible. Also went on a trip for the weekend and ran into my old, first, therapist who provokes a great deal of anxiety within me...

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I'm not great at it also but I'm slowly learning. It's been suggested to me to try using as many senses as possible. Touch, I find a pretty good one - when I touch something I try to look for something with a different texture, and preferably something that doesn't link to my...

Hahaha! I like that @FridayJones . Reminds me of an episode of Southpark with the Underpants Gnomes, with their 3 step plan for making money. Step 1 - Collect underpants.... Step 3 - Profit. I feel this author may have planned their writing in a similar way.

I find the mindfulness really helps. I first learnt about it through the books by Dr Russ Harris - The Happiness Trap. I am currently reading The Confidence Gap, which has a lot of the same ideas but is also good. It's one of those things I have to revise every now and then though, otherwise...

My parents never said it. Occasionally as a very little kid I would say it to my mum and then she would say it back (although it wasn't really believable!) They were also never physically affectionate - no hugging etc. With my son - I tell him I love him several times or more a day and I hug...

Really? Do tell! Not overly simplistic at all!! :P

I understand how you are feeling @Casey_03 . I have been in this situation. I have been pregnant and had 1 child, but have also believed (or wanted to believe) I was pregnant before. I felt sick and attributed it to pregnancy, even had an aversion to certain foods. I was pretty convinced...

Yes! That's exactly it! Exactly how I feel too! I'm the same, as I can often have no memory to follow up with the horrible feelings either - then some other times I do... if I actually sit down and start writing about how I feel it seems to integrate me more somehow so that bits and pieces...

So, I've been feeling pretty crappy and in a greatly heightened state of anxiety for a couple of weeks now. I just realised the other day that I think a new flashback/memory has been triggered, but I'm blocking it, so I'm getting the emotion and anxiety but not the actual memory. Does anyone...

I totally agree. It took me quite a long time to actually understand why this was so. I kept thinking to myself, 'why can't I handle this? Why am I getting much more stressed than others?' Then a psychologist explained to me that there is a scale of anxiety, 1 being crazily relaxed and 5...

@imok - it is a scary realisation. Dissociation can be really freaky, however, as you get to understand it, it at least gives you some explanation as to what you are experiencing. I remember times when I could hear myself talking in another voice, as child's voice, but I couldn't stop it no...

Thank you so much for your kind words. It really helps and is forcing me to put things much more in perspective. I've often thought in a job like teaching you're better to take time off if things are really getting to you, because it makes you a better teacher and you deal with children...

Hang in there @Green pastures. Every day is hard. You're doing a good job just taking each day as it comes and trying to get through it all. Keep trying to work through it and I personally think the fact that you're big enough to say you made a mistake, means you're someone who learns well...

So, here's what's happening in my life. I'm a teacher. I've been moving house, have been teaching 2 very traumatised, high behaviour students who have been making work life very stressful, I have had a meeting at work in which my trauma was mentioned by my boss without my permission and made me...

It sucks when you get like that. I get like it sometimes. All I want to do is lie in bed and watch things on TV and not move. The longer I stay there, the harder I find it is to get up. It's cyclic. I think that's the key, but of course it's much easier thought and said, than done. The...

I have been there and am healing but am still separated at times. It is hard, I can assure you. The best advice I could give you, which I had to learn the hard way, is try not to fight these other sides to you. It is so scary to come to terms with, but try not to get in control of them, but...

It only makes sense really that one with developmental trauma would likely relate better to another with developmental trauma. The brain changes if you experience trauma young. That has to have some similar impacts on patterns of behaviour, how we think and how we feel. For example, as a...

Most people in my life can't understand why I still go to therapy after 5 or so years, either. I've even had some doctors tell me that it should be a thing that has a limit. They don't quite understand that it enables me to keep living effetively and running my life. People think it's like...

Same. My clear memories don't really start until the teen years - from about fourteen. Most of my childhood and even a fair bit of early adolescence has been blanked out.

Yeah, I know the feeling. I always used to think with my first therapist that I wanted him to like me and it made me very conscious of what I said. In the end though, maybe it might help to think - she can't not like you. She can't judge you - she's paid not to!! :D

I wasn't born sickly, but was never attached to my mother or anyone else from birth as my mother had had post-natal depression and I was also abused by my father pretty much from the day I was born. My mother blamed me for the abuse, claiming to me as I grew, that I was a slut and it was my...

I know - it's terribly hard. I remember just sitting in silence for so much of so many sessions. But every little bit you say, no matter how small, is progress. For me, just turning up to the appointments was enough work in itself and a victory! I don't know if it would help, but one thing...

I guess there's a couple of things to think about here. The first is, and I highly recommend it, seeking some help for yourself such as therapy. It sounds silly, but I find that talking to a therapist can help to relieve some of the burden on your relationship - it did for me, because I didn't...

I was in therapy, 'working my ass off', as you put it, for 5 years prior to even finding this site. People that use this site understand that it is a healthy way to deal with difficult times and issues and talk to someone who understands. Myself? I have made amazing gains since I began...