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"I never know if to let people in, I should let them know me by knowing about my life. I think, who would want a person who's not perfect and has been broken. " I am damaged, everyone is damaged. If someone seems perfect, it is a facade. With or without PTSD, most people worry about how much to...

"Can I ask, do you think it would have been difficult to know the details of the trauma, or to see him in that vulnerable place? " Obviously I can only talk in terms of my ex, whom I loved very much. And it two-fold to be honest, there was childhood abuse AND Desert Storm for him. I would not...

I have no real advise or experience to relate. I just wanted you to know I care and my heart goes out to you. I wish I could help in some way.

I'm an ex- supporter and I think I would have understood his PTSD better if he'd been more willing to talk about it. I'm not sure details were needed, but the few things he did mention were very non-emotional, out of the blue comments. So, like I would ask why were you working at such a young...

I am not a sufferer, but I have read a lot about vaping. Unless you are allergic to a component, it is much better for you. If you are a pretty heavy smoker, 2.1 won't do it. I've known quite a few people who have quit with vaping. However, first they started with a high nic level (18 or 16)...

I went to my sufferer after 2 months silence and I believe my idea of fighting for him was his idea of an ambush. And although he said he wasn't done with me and I left, I now haven't heard from him in 8 months. Be careful how you choose. When someone with PTSD wants space, they want space. He...

I was a supporter to a man with PTSD and this was an issue I had with him as well. If I tried to hold it in completely, it usually boiled over. He did better if we calmly discussed an issue a few days after the fact. However, he had a tendency still shut down some afterwards. I tried very hard...

"It doesn't matter why someone breaks up with us, only that every moment we spend trying to figure out why is wasted rumination that keeps us from going forward with our lives." So very true BlomminWinter!!! So very true.

Take care of yourself. And, with the mother, everyone grieves differently. Some grieve in a not very healthy way. They need to find control or a target in the chaos of loss. It hurts less to focus on control or feel anger or resentment than to mourn. Some people get lost in the grief. I hope...

My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry for your pain. Although too brief, what a wonderful person to get to have in your life.

Emotions sometimes blind us. We fall for someone and our emotions override our intelligence. At least that's how I feel. You are better off without him, he's obviously weak and very immature. You deserve better. Things will get better for you.

I am so sorry for your pain. I am not sufferer, but I was with someone with PTSD for almost 3 years and I would have given anything if he would have tried even just a small fraction of what you tried to make your relationship work. My sufferer just walked away, I did not leave him over his...

I know that nothing I can say will help. It hurts so much when we are devalued. And the pain increases the more we valued them. You are worth more. You matter. You have value. I'm so sorry for your pain.

It's hard, that deep fear that he must hate me. That bothers me a lot. I wish he wanted to my friend. I told him first and foremost we were friends and I meant that. I told him that again in a letter after he had isolated a few months, but ... Anyways, I'm not sure I could handle just being his...

That is it, exactly. I feel disposable and as if I was nothing to him. I still love him and I miss him so much. We were together almost 3 years and I considered him my best friend. I trusted him more than I've trusted anyone in a very long time. I tried very hard not to take his PTSD issues...

I wasn't clear. I say I ceased to exsist for him because that's how it feels. He won't answer my calls, respond to my text mssgs, or letters. He lives 3 hours away. I never got an explanation. I tried early on to get an answer by going to his house. He would only say he'd had a rrough few weeks...

Closure is good. My sufferer just went away, no explanation, no actual break-up. I just ceased to exsist to him. It hurts not to have closure. Being stuck in Limbo isn't fair or respectful. The words are needed, whether we realize it or not.

Being a supporter is emotionally very hard, especially if you have trust or abandonment issues. We all have our breaking points, as much as that hurts. I found the nonchalance very hard to take sometimes. It left me very insecure. I became defensive emotionally. Loving someone who sometimes...

Supporters do tend to compromise more that sufferers. It just is. We tend to have a great deal of compassion for our sufferers because of what they are dealing with -- PTSD. But, we must also have compassion for ourselves. Our needs, our health, and our desires. I think you need to decide what...

I can only tell you that in my situation, my ex-sufferer told me that when he was like that he was numb and had ttrouble feeling compassion at all. But that was him, everyone is different. And, yes, sometimes even communication, telling him how it affects or hurts you, doesn't even work...

I truly hope this won't come across as harsh, but in my experience, isolation will not just stop. Is he in therapy? With PTSD isolation is like a coping mechanism. You shouldn't take it personally even though it hurts dreadfully. You can try to set boundaries, but whether he can follow them will...

I agree, unfortunately HR reps are also sometimes poorly trained. That's why I really believe you need a witness to a formal meeting with documentation, to protect yourself. And formal meetings scare HR which makes them pay more attention. Luckily you have a union rep who should look out for you...

You do not have to disclose your PTSD to your immediate superior. It's good you notified your HR dept tho. You do not need to deal with being yelled at or talked to in a demeaning manor by someone who does not know how to supervise or coach people. I think you should see your HR dept again. Is...

A lot of people don't understand how I was with a man for over 2.5 years who never said he loved. The above was familiar. He always tried to show it in little ways. And I knew he loved me, but it didn't keep me from being afraid when he isolated. Now he's been gone almost 8 months and it's taken...

An "I'm sorry" would have meant the world to me. I'm sure a lot of others in similar situations would feel the same. It would be a validation that we also have value and deserve respect. Just my opinion.