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What you are saying is interesting to me because I don’t have the negative soft talk either that I see listed in the charts on inner critic self talk, but I did find the ones on shame more applicable to me. Maybe try looking up shame based thinking and see if that is where it stems from?

Not really. It does not make sense to me. Lots of times I’d like to just calm down, now that would be nice. Envision a body that just relaxes not getting all wound up and have to constantly figure out how to calm down, just relax. Ah, that would be nice?

I raised two children. But as I raised them, I grew with them. I knew the areas I was horrible at, such as play. I hated to play. It always made me feel either angry or confused as I didn’t seem to know how to naturally settle down and play. The other thing I did was learn all I could about...

All I can say is you sound so fortunate, you who have said you are getting weekly to twice weekly. I can only see mine every two weeks! And it’s brutal. If it’s available go for it.

When it comes to medication of any sort, of which I’m on quite a bit for an inherited disease, I see myself as being in the drivers seat. Yes my neurologist has prescribed a regime for me to follow, but there are some doses that I cut in half. I know what I would function like if I took it in...

He names it when he sees it and if I can acknowledge with him it helps keep it there because I’m pretty quick to shut it off. I think he says something like is that sadness I see? Or sadness is here do you want to talk about it?

Can you explain a bit the term hold space? I’ve seen it but to really get a sense of it as you seem to have, what is playing out that helps you say, oh this is holding space? It’s not a physical thing right? Just , ug, okay I actually don’t have an understanding of this.

Yes, it has settled down now. Mostly I have had to always coach people, so not doing it now because of age and regardless of what she understands is difficult.

I would love to know what a bond with a therapist looks like? What attachments would look like.

What your saying is helpful. I don’t think I’ve learned it before. I did speak to her yes and in addition spoke to the one who said she didn’t have to follow the rules. Part of the confusion for me is he’s one of a few older youth who call me mom. He’s been on his own for since grade 8. So ya I...

Incredibly tough day for you all and it’s wise to come seek out other aspects of your family. Sending you respect for how you are currently and hugs for the days ahead.

Important message in what you are saying. I feel like this is what I need to learn as I never sure why I do this. I recognize it’s not working out,I do need to put a halt to it before stuff comes out. So yes I need to stop and not be reactive. It’s why I’m asking. I grew up in care, group homes...

I seem to have a pattern of messing up with my daughter. She lives with me. I’m her trustee. She is 22 has autism. Recently she went out to play with a younger group of teenagers. She said where she was going. Later as a group they decided to go parking lot hopping. Something to do with staying...

In time. Take the time to move through it. Pain is never easy. Thinking of you and glad surgery is over, let the healing begin!

To dig out of the hole is to know that we all add our shovel to help you a bit. To be able to look back and see happiness and look forward and not see it helps you to know what is getting unearthed is in the way right now and is temporary. Doesn’t look as if living situation is a good place to...

Well wishes for the best possible outcome of the surgery and for a Speedy recovery.

Ah sorry that happened. Be this honest with your lawyer too.

It took me a long time to understand the phrase it’s understandable you feel that way or it makes sense given xyz took place, both phrases used by my t when I’m pretty certain I’m nuts. Now I can gently say to myself it’s understandable that your feeling this way. He also told me many times...

This is true of me as well. Mid sentence pause, find myself staring off as if trying to find it, but I’m not visual so I don’t see anything , just feel as if it all fell apart. I can describe the word but mostly it comes as, you know or the thing or some sort of trail off. Sometimes I cant even...

It’s almost as if I’m missing the rest of the story. If you break down and cry so be it, he knows what to do. How very kind that he wants to see you. Go see him. Sometimes what we suppose will happen doesn’t so it’s best to just say to yourself wait and see what happens. I hope you will try to...

A couple things come to mind from my experience. One is parts work. It’s when you say, this is not like me, well there is a part maybe just surfacing that thinks this way, so take the part that says, this isn’t like me and say something reassuring such as she tells me she’s not angry so let’s...

Interesting perspective. I tend to feel awkward relating to both those words. Work to do on both sides I guess.

This has been a powerful thread for me. Gives me a sense of recognition of what my t is doing as others write about it. It’s either because it’s standard trauma skills the t should have and use or we have some pretty decent t’s on here. Either way I’m feeling very grateful for mine at the...

I think I shy away from being called a victim too, instead prefer to say victim of......but then that still makes me a victim....alright that didn’t work out very well. It’s not a word I can work with as it comes up in me as, if I say that then I’m asking for sympathy. It’s almost as if it falls...

True, it makes no sense to you, but it did to him. at a persons lowest they can believe many things that range from people would be better off without me to, they will be fine. I befriended someone online last year and we talked a lot. He was in a cpstd forum. One day he didn’t answer, no big...