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The way you wrote this initial thread, came across to me, that if he has told you, you may have forgotten and that you have hinted. So, neither of those are withholding scenarios. Try direct communication on the topic. Have you diagnosed me, if so what is your assessment of me and what...

I hear you. Mine renovated a building he purchased And moved out of the building I had seen him in for two years. It’s been close to two years since he did that and a long slow adjustment to it. There isn’t anything I did to speed it up. It was what it was. At first I hated it. Everything was...

You may not be able to move out but I would as well as making a safe room for yourself in the house also find your outs. Make a list if you can of daily outings, list of people you could meet up with even if it is. Only one person on that list. I also have a high stress household because my...

I feel for you. I’ve had mine for 6 years and for the first time he is going on an extended leave. One thing I know is he is my second good one. The first did two years then left and it took many years to find him. I hope she has people to introduce you to as a next step.

I don’t know. If this person is close for 20 years, it seems good to let her go. I have a 20year friend who understands and respects me on many levels. If he did have concern he would come check on me long before he would call police. But that being the case is because he knows what to do based...

Even if doctors can’t figure it out, it still sounds more medical than somatic. Took me a long time to figure out that me being cold is a sign I need to eat. It’s how my body works. My friend complains of one foot being cold as you say and not much warms it. His comes from neuropathy or diabetes...

I can relate. I too can relate to the feedback you are getting from others. Like any drug that brings peaceful calm it is temporary as you know. It took me a lot of practice to build a tool kit of calming strategies for a variety of situations. Learning to breathe correctly and finding an app...

I have extensive abuse from home that was religious and was removed and put into care at 12. The foster dad in the foster home I lived in was a leader in his church too . He groomed me in many ways based on having read my file and knowing my history and began sexually abusing me. One thing that...

This is called unpacking. You have quite a lot here. When we unpack something we take it out piece by piece, lay in on the bed, think of unpacking a suitcase. So here is all this stuff. You put some away because it’s still clean, or you have a souvenir tucked in there that you pause at and...

I never thought I was angry at God. But one day there was a worship song on and it was about God loving us or something. anyway I just couldn’t sing along or believe along. I was like, nope, God does not protect. I talked to another Christian, trained to counsel people like me. The abused...

When that happens my psychologist suggests tapping both sides of the body. So for me I just tap both legs, alternate rhythm. A lot of the time only one hand responds, but with practice, concentration the other hand will join in and once I get the tapping going, I come back together again. I do...

That is the best place to start is with intuition. Go for it, see what they say.adhd and panic often go hand in hand, but ptsd often looks like adhd because it is akin to undiagnosed trauma. So those are great places to start as well.

This is really revealing and helpful read for me as I will get very obsessive about food intake, restriction and go through aversion based on smell. Like everything food related will smell unappealing and I end up restricting and not eating very much, then of course the whole digestion system...

You’ll find out soon enough and slow enough for it to begin to make sense. Long term ra does not come back all at once because it will simply overwhelm us. Build a team of supports , not all of them should be survivor supports, but good decent people who can take you as you are and even give you...

You have to go slow. Do one aspect to start. So I literally just listened to my t’s recording of the relaxation technique on his website. He has tons of meditation on his site. The ones that start with a tone, set me off so I don’t listen. I liked the body scan one, but again since I started...

No I think I have the compulsion to not eat. I get really upset if I eat something and my daughter says anything, like I thought you said you didnt want any, then I put it back. The reaction is really strong. Same goes if she asks for something I’m eating then I give her the whole thing and dont...

I tend to under eat and have many food avoidances. But to me in what I’m doing I recognize my sense of control over food. It is the one thing I control, what goes into the body. For me that is really telling how I feel about being forced to comply with things that were in the past aversive. Now...

No you’re not unreasonable. Tell police and social services that the lawyer will be told. Both should give you good safety measures. If they don’t, then outright ask them.

You have a really good sense of where you are heading, which takes thought, which bypasses impulsive behavior. So if you can step back and recognize the difference between impulsive texting and acted upon your feelings texting, you will be able to reduce it. Keep telling yourself, I don’t need...

That would freak me out. But I’m glad to get the distance and read your journey. My t is away for 4 weeks and I’m starting to feel in pain.

It took me a long time to get to a place where he can go and I have issues with it but also larger amounts of acceptance. He once said that he comes back refreshed, ready to go again and that helped me a lot. He is very invested in me so I can see that now and recognize that I’d rather he be...

You need to try to be able to judge that for yourself, but what a wonderful offer the T has given you. It is best to give it a go before trying to know if it will work because the reality is if you are close to the t in person and get to link via teleconference or video with the same t it is by...

Basically start talking to the little girls and explain you are an adult and will do things with them but you need to be an adult. The more you look after the young parts the less they create chaos. Get a coloring book that you all can share and enjoy. Listen to what colors they want to color...

They are young enough to learn basic rules that are just the norm. Telling me where you will be and with whom. Arrange play dates at your house, exchange phone numbers, host a barbecue. Teach your children to be good neighbors, eat at home, use your own washroom, share, learn names. Decide the...