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My main concern here is that a partner should want to support you through what is a stressful time for you. You may be tired and snippy, but a dedicated partner would want to ease your burdens a little so you aren't so tired and snippy. School is exhausting, especially if you also work or have...

My dad's family pretty much stopped speaking to me after I cut him off. I made it very clear I was willing to have a relationship with them, but they passively ignore any mention I make of coming to town. We're friends on facebook, but I think that's mostly just symbolic at this point. For me...

My opinion is that yes, you should definitely be less emotional and more straightforward. Short, simple, to the point, and with only the necessary information.

Be careful that it doesn't sounds like you're cutting people off because of an infestation. When I explained to my extended family that I wouldn't be coming to holiday things because I didn't want to be around my dad, it was a hard thing to do. My mother's advice has always been to write...

I agree that staying with a friend for a while is the best thing. Also, think about your kids and what is best for them--and this is not a plug for staying with your husband. If the marriage is unsalvageable, don't stay because of the kids, because that's worse for them. If both of you truly...

Agreed. As with any bad behavior, consequences are the only way to make it stop. He keeps doing it because he knows he can get away with it. The thing about children is that we can't cut them out of our lives as a consequence, at least not until they're grown, but we can still enforce...

Allow yourself some hope on this matter. Even though you ran, you disclosed something deeply personal and terrifying to a potential partner. That is a hard and scary thing to do. And even though it might not feel like progress right now, you made progress in getting as far as you did. Be gentle...

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It feels good to know I'm not alone, at any rate. I normally have problems with just the jukebox and the fans.

At work today one of my managers was testing the sound system for tonight (Karaoke night, huzzah I don't work), and it was super loud, and the regular jukebox music was still on, and the fans were humming, and the people were chatting, and the plates were clanking, and I thought my head was...

That's my point. You can't know.

You are not responsible for what happened to you as a child, but you are responsible for seeking your own therapy and healing. My heart hurts for you.

It is often best to meet people where they're at. If she's having a hard time of it, just be patient and polite.

I have a dry sense of humor, so no worries. I find that describing my emotions in bleak and sarcastic ways often makes people laugh, and laughter is good for the soul.

@lostforgottensoul --yeah, I have experienced this emotional blockade around children before, too, tons with my little brother, who is much younger than me. It's why people think I'm good in a crisis. Even my coworkers ask me sometimes why nothing ever seems to bother me. "How are you so damn...

Does every man have bouts of toxic rage, or do I just know how to pick them? This morning seriously blindsided me. I got out of work at one in the morning (in a bar), so the plan was for me to sleep in. I wake up at seven thirty to him screaming at our puppy because he had diarrhea on the...

You are not required to attend her funeral. Funerals are social functions, and the only person who decides if you have to go is you. You are not obligated to attend just because of your biological relationship to her. In response to your previous comment, no one can predict your regret. But, I...

My boss asked me the other day when fathers' day was and I said, "I don't give a shit, I don't speak to my dad." Then I realized that I probably should start knowing when father's day is, because my partner has three kids and I care about him, and it's hard for him to be away from his kids on...

That's good that you found a place to gain insight. I hope that you can find it and that this works out in a way that is healthy for both of you. I don't know the details of your particular story, so my comments are based on my own general experience and that of people I've spoken to about life...

Sounds like you're more worried about what you want than what she wants or needs. :/

I cannot speak for your friend, but for me, sometimes I would wish people didn't know. I've had friends who are perfect supporters, but mostly I've had friends who want to be supportive and don't know how. It's hard when you're dealing with the immediate aftermath, the shame and stigma, it's...

Thank you, thank you. I found out today that my name isn't actually in the lease, which concerns me as I'll have no proof of residence for my new driver's license. ...have I mentioned I have a black-belt in worrying? ;) But sincerely, thank you. This forum is wonderful and I appreciate you...

Keep this friend forever, she is awesome! I'm so glad it worked out for you. :tup: :tup: :tup:

I understand your situation. It sucks to feel like you're letting a friend down, but it's important to maintain your health. Like you, I have problems with sensory overload, but I find that I handle those situations better with certain people that I really trust or feel incredibly close to (if...

Update: Finally nailed down housing! Now I can pour all my energy into....everything else :O_o: Seriously though, it's such a relief. I have something positive to think about now, like how we'll decorate. It makes thinking about everything else slightly less awful.