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You are right, don't expect the world from these devices. That's not good to get false information from a device. That would make you more anxious thinking something is wrong, when it's not, I'm actually in IT so I also research everything till it's a dead horse when its comes to technology. I...

Maybe given time, your son will want to reconnect with you. For your own mental health thou start working on building other healthy relationships and finding a purpose beyond the role of mother.

Enjoying the peace and quiet. Really affects your own mental state when someone is actively trying to drag you into a dysfunctional relationship and you're trying at the same time to regain your own autonomy and start over. Amazing how quickly I'm feeling positive when I don't have that...

Mutual respect is something dysfunctional families don't have. Aim for that.

I think it depends on the situation. If he's flipping you the bird from across the street then ignore him. If he's in your face giving you the finger, then that would be the time to be assertive and set your boundaries of behavior you won't tolerate and to set boundaries of your own personal...

Yeah I get you with the "my body" is suffering anxiety but my brain is oh its a lovely sunny day. So it also made sense to me when I learned that about chronic anxiety and sleeping heartrate. It also explains why people with anxiety wake up tired.

Welcome. It gets better. Takes time but it will get better.

I don't know if you mentioned you have a fitness band that tracks your heartrate. When I was having all the same problems, its easy for other people to convince you its all in your head. So I didn't trust my own judgement. I got a fitness tracker and it helped relieve the stress about omg am I...

It could be anxiety. I like to listen to relaxing sounds like thunderstorms or the sound of the ocean when I am going to sleep. It gives my brain something to do instead of thinking, so I can go to sleep. I know some people like to sleep with a tv on or youtube videos playing on their phone...

You'll learn it too. Once you learn the patterns that dysfunctional relationships fall into, the easier it will become to spot them and stay clear of them. Being assertive is not the same thing as being argumentative. Set boundaries and start saying no and mean it. If your son wants to engage in...

Obviously you are having symptoms of something. Doctors telling you its nothing, should just say I don't know. It's wrong to be told we have ruled everything out when there are so many things that can be seemingly unrelated but cause the same symptoms. As an example, I experienced what you...

If you have a smart watch that records your heart rate. You can look at your heart rate when you are sleeping and if it is higher then your lows when you are awake, that's what anxiety looks like apparently. It even gets you in your sleep.

Exactly, the only person who you are in control of how they feel, is you. Part of a dysfunctional family is that confusion between caring and controlling. It's a lot harder for those of us who grew up in dysfunctional families to know the difference. In our own behaviors and in others. If it...

I know you don't want to hear this. Your son does not have his shit together if he's been flipping you the bird for 4 years. He's from a dysfunctional family. This is how dysfunctional families work. A dysfunctional family you were a part of and you inherited from your dysfunctional family...

I absolutely love that saying, "People don't change, but people change you", every time I step away from toxic relationships I realize that its so true, abusive people will never change but the experience of having known them sure changes you and learning to grow and change is the greatest...

Todays been a challenging day. My ex keeps trying to contact me and its the same issues, the mind games. When you can't get a word in because the person absolutely refuses to hear them So this is my list that I want to say but will never be heard. 1) I'm not property and if I want to leave a...

Been there, nothing like the further betrayal by parents who well were never really parents anyways to side with your abuser. Here's how I dealt with it, when you have all the facts and you are still standing by an abuser against your own child, its your choice and doesn't reflect on the child...

Welcome and I always tell people, PTSD is a disease I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Which is worse, the traumatic events or the symptoms of PTSD. Some days I didn't know. When it first started and I was having flashbacks, absolutely awful and the fact its beyond your control is terrifying, I...

I too had this internalizing it. My childhood was also a messy one but I think instinctively you understand as a child that you literally have no power and that everything is controlled by an adult, in one way or another. As an adult it is hard to accept that you are not 100% in control of...

I was diagnosed in 2007, so when covid hit and the world decided to hide, I was in my glory. I loved going out because no one was going out and no one wanted to chit chat with a stranger if they did manage to come out. It was awesome. But I do understand what you are saying about the world. For...

Welcome, I'm also new but I joined as a safety net rather then an initial support for ptsd. Reaching out to people who would understand the symptoms of ptsd was so helpful to me years ago, that I decided to join this site just for that rock for me to lean on. I too found writing what I was...

You are so brave. Reporting him means he is now in the sights of law enforcement. As for confronting them, they are not likely to have the answers you want. Abusers tend to victim blame way more then society. For your own mental health let the police and the courts handle the legalities and...

I was stuck in fawning at one point. I was trying to keep my abuser from becoming angry as anything might upset him, so I was always trying to think ahead and make sure that everything was perfect for him. Our kids never made a sound cause I knew that this would make him angry. I was always on...

Just got out of a 2 year relationship and he keeps trying to suck me back in. Which has been a pattern the whole 2 years. This is bringing up issues of why I stayed and how my healthy radar was clearly off for this person. Just trying to put my thoughts in order to just move on and not let this...

I personally found abusers tend to continue the mind games when you confront them on the past. When I tired to confront my abusers they denied and then did the you are crazy that never happened, It is far far better to go to possibly others who witnesses the abuse (which I have and they...