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I have thought of this too @RussH and appreciate your candor. I don't think there would be any anger, only concern of privacy and anonymity. I'm not concerned and the benefits outweighs any to me.

Oh thank God! So happy for this wonderful news!!!!!:happy:

Here comes the Sun by the Beatles Good Enough by Sarah Mclachlan In My Life by John Lennon By your side by 10th Avenue North

Thank you @GWhizz and I can relate to the need for some normalcy too. :happy:

@Sabrina0712 , I am sorry you are hurting and yes, you have made some bad choices in the past but who hasn't? I had a relationship with a man in my early 20s who was a user, played games and was great at manipulating me. It took several times for me to say no more, I deserve better than this...

Thank you @UniversalBeing for sharing and your suggestions. I like the phrases idea and hope it helps you too. The reminder that I'm not alone in this really helps. :)

Wow @rightkindofme , serious epiphany here. I really like and appreciate your perspective, have never thought of it that way. Big hugs if that is okay. :hug:

Thank you @hope4 and @Lewa . I do deserve and need this, difficult and a bit scrary to admit but hopeful too. ;)

I agree @Solara and he's actually not controlling. I do have Facebook but don't put any pics out there of him and kids, all generic to public. He knows this and has never told me not to, just doesn't want his pic out there which I respect. Maybe it's my own fear of how he might react or maybe...

@FridayJones yes, I agree with your interpretation and honesty and respect are crucial to me in all my relationships. My husband is in law enforcement so any social media he has concerns sharing anything, for the safety and protection of our family. If asked, I would tell him. I did tell him I...

Excellent point @moonbeam and you are right @desiderata310 . Thank you so much for advice and support. Ferling a little scared to try new therapist but worth it!

I have honestly never been diagnosed with PTSD but have been in and out of therapy for years. A few times with Victim Services therapist and a general psychologist. Last time was probably at least 2 years ago. When my assault in college took place, I was in bad shape. Couldn't function, panic...

Thank you both. Growing up, I had no self esteem or thought of myself much at all. It is difficult for me to this day. I tend to always put everyone else before me but I'm working on it.

I am sitting here wondering is not telling the same as lying? My husband is aware of my sexual abuse as a child and being raped in college, but I don't think he understands how 20 years later I am still affected by it. So I have not told him about this place, where I feel free to share my...

I too can relate, not wanting to end my life but feeling overwhelmed and without hope, tired of fighting everything, the pain, the feelings the pure exhaustion of sometimes getting out of bed. When I feel this way, I try to distract myself with things that bring me joy, even little things like...

Continuing to pray for Luke and your family.

I will pray for your cousin, for you and your extended family. I cannot imagine. Do you mind sharing his name or initial so I may pray more intently?

Glad to hear you are dealing with it @SurvivingWarrior . It is never too late and I often go back and forth in therapy because of triggers that bring all of it flooding back. Don't know if you're a Tom Petty fan but his song "Won't back down" is kind of my mantra. ;)

I used to wear that badge. It became very tattered and worn. I had family and friends who didn't understan, who blamed me but I also had friends and family that stood by me. Their encouragement and compassion helped me to see myself again, not broken, shameful and destroyed but stronger, braver...

I understand what you mean. Words aren't always just words. Certain words can cut deep, shake us to our core and bring feelings that overwhelm. I don't know that the R word will ever be released from my lips without anxiety and nausea but I refuse to allow it to diminish me.

Sounds to me that a little part of you does know that you are worthy of so much more, refusing to have sex without love. It is so healthy to set standards and boundaries for yourself. We do not pick our family, our childhood or how others treat us. You can choose what you will put up with now...

Being a Christian, I understand the need or want for forgiveness, but I don't believe that means we condone another person's actions, especially when they use their free will to hurt another......and neither does God. I do make my choices based upon my faith but I know that God is first and...

Good for you! You are so strong and setting a wonderful example for your daughter. :tup:

Hello @WildMermaid . I am full of piss and vinegar at the moment myself and I too struggle with migraines which has a lovely way of making everything worse. I love my husband but he too has expressed to me to get over it or just don't think about it. It's extremely hurtful to have your feelings...

Sounds like he needs to "get over" himself, acting ridiculously manipulative and selfish. You and your foster daughter definitely deserve better. I would change the locks next time he walks out the door and get an attorney or at least a consultation with one.