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I think one way you can single out true NPD from all the narcissistic "types" out there is by looking for withdrawal. When a person with NPD has their supply cut off (supply is usually a person who reflects something flattering back to themselves, for example, the underling I spoke about), they...

Right about issues. As for whether they intended it or not, there's a loooong and very strange story there, and I can't rule out some sort of ill intent on their part. She already knows that I am quite literate.

@Mytime, that's a really good idea. Thanks. I'm not really familiar with audiobooks. They don't go too fast to keep up with?

I get this, but I won't be in town for long, so I want to pack as much damage control into my visit as possible. What's driving me is more a sense of guilt at having been MIA for so many years, honestly. It's not, "Hey, the thought of you embarrasses me." It's more, "Hey, I didn't forget you...

I haven't seen her for years, so I honestly can't really answer.

Thanks, @Esterio, but a program at the library is just the sort of thing I'd label "embarrassing." I'd like it to be more private and natural, something she can do at home by herself. I certainly assume she does, lol. I was hoping to find some online lessons or a workbook, something that doesn't...

I wanted to post this in anonymous, but was very upset to find that forum has disappeared. :-( I hope it is resurrected soon. I have a sibling who has very poor literacy due to our parents' neglect (if not downright deliberate evil). I want to broach the subject with her, and get her on the...

This conflicts with other things I've read. For instance, I've read that narcs are in fact extremely insecure, and this is what drives their selfish use of others. Also, if they already know they look better, why do they need narcissistic supply in the first place? Well, the spouse would be the...

This is what I'm talking about, I think. Like, the person is a mirror for them. "You look bad, so therefore I look better." That sounds like narcissism to me.

I mean beneath them in some social status-y type of way. You know how a very beautiful girl will hand select her one "ugly friend," because she can't bear anyone taking the spotlight off her? That's kind of what I have in mind, but on a much more severe/deranged scale.

So someone who deliberately seeks out the company of those who are markedly beneath them -- is that narcissism or sadism? Maybe both?

I totally agree with this. However, I can't help but want to understand the disorder Just knowledge for knowledge's sake, I guess. I totally agree that armchair diagnoses are way out of proportion to the real thing. True NPD is like a hard drug addiction, I think. The narc will actually destroy...

But what if they simply didn't give their children any of that attention and energy they need? What if they purposely held them down and made them into sad, pathetic people so that they could feel superior to them? Like if the child accomplishes something or they "shine" in any way, the parent...

I've heard of molesters having children for the sole purpose of sexually abusing them, as horrifying as that sounds. Do narcissist parents sometimes have children so they can "groom" them to be narcissistic suppliers to them? For instance, they might oppress them and put them in humiliating...

Thanks for that information, Friday. I'm not so worried about PIs as just average Joes able to go online and find those things out. I'm hoping I can opt myself out somehow......

I just looked up a relative online and found all these sites like Spokeo and Reverse Phone Lookup that have me listed as a relative. How the hell do they know that? I'm not on social, and my mobile number isn't even in my name. They have my old name and new name listed, past addresses, etc. If...

Yep, every night when I'm by myself lately. I saw a a book about suicide with "urge to die" in the title. I thought, that's odd. I don't have any urge to die. I have diminishing tolerance for the torture I'm put through everyday, and I'm feeling like suicide is my worst option except for all the...

Does anyone know of any health insurance that cuts around the ACA? I'm on Medicaid now, and the mental health coverage is really shitty. I just applied for ACA, and did not qualify for the tax credit, because I've been too despondent/bed ridden to manage things like filing taxes every quarter...

Caveat: I only read through the first page of replies. Does PTSD last forever? If something horrible happened to you and you feel horrible when you remember it, is that necessarily PTSD? Don't people without PTSD react much the same way when ugly memories come up? Does the fact that more such...

Long story short, I've been doing some hard processing work, and I had a very calm, pleasant day yesterday. I felt different -- present in my body and grounded, much better than I had felt for some time. Then today, shortly after my usual morning meditation, a hideous memory came up. It...

Or..... If anyone has opinions on Prolonged Exposure therapists vs. regular therapists in terms of how they conduct themselves...?

It quite likely does, from what I understand about therapy. I've been having similar experiences in the past couple of weeks -- waking several times during the night. There may a memory or just some fact about myself or my life accompanied by a sense of catastrophe (oh no, oh no, this can't...

I have been in a prolonged exposure treatment program for a few months. It was supposed to last 12 weeks, but due to my lack of progress, we extended it. I still feel horrible most of the time. The therapist has decided that we should switch modalities from PE to more traditional talk therapy...

I don't think he was implying that it was cowardly. Like I said, I have not read his works. He is thought to be the father of the study of suicide and a founder of suicide prevention organization(s). He is no longer living. I am pretty sure that he meant that it starts with some type of...

Edwin Shneidman, a psychologist who spent his career studying suicide, said, "Suicide is murder in the 180th degree." I haven't had time to dig deeper into his work. Is he saying that suppressed aggression leads to suicidal urges? Does thwarted aggression cause me to hate myself? I feel that...