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This is actually a thread in the "chit chat" section, but is very, very long with many responses. So I thought I would be better off sharing my reaction to that in a separate thread of my own. It just really brought something to focus for me, and I am wondering if any one else experiences...

OK, wow, Anthony, is all I have to say, because I had no idea running a site like this was so complicated. Thank you for everything you do, this is an excellent site (and I have been on a number of them over the years). Even things like letting people "like" someone's post, or have a trauma...

Oh, I do. My situation was different than yours, but I was also brought up in an abusive family where I was turned into surrogate spouse for both my parents (in different ways, and a very different way from you). It was that that brought me to this forum, though I am not able to post about it...

I kind of hesitate to post this here, because I don't want to seem like I am minimizing someone else's pain... But I found that someone else's post really affected me. I think because I relate so much, even though our issues are different. It made me grateful to be alive, but to be honest...

Oh, JD, my heart just breaks for you. It is a sad world, where people cannot understand that losing a child is not something you just "get over" and move on with life. You are right, most likely most of those people just couldn't understand and as a result they couldn't cope with it, and...

Eleanor, before I posted this last post, I had not read your response to my post. I want to say how very much that means to me, and I really appreciate it :) :) :) very much. And, LOL, you are too funny, I love your sense of humour. Thank you, Phoenix_Rising

Eleanor, I think your last post, just above mine, pretty much hits the nail on the head where all this is concerned. (And if you really are a dr., lol, I have no issues with that or you, only ones who were in my life long ago. I find your posts very insightful.)

This, and some similar things Srain said, are exactly the crux of the damage it did to me. I was not old enough, nor did I have the information, to understand that all this did not mean that I was bad, this was not my fault, and I was not crazy. Or to filter out that attitude when it was...

Hi, I still freeze. I even freeze with my partner, who doesn't hurt me. He is usually very aware of me so he notices most of the time. But there are times when suddenly something sets me off and I don't want this any more and I just freeze and can't say anything. Yes, it is just an...

Re: Anthony - "Then the trauma was real to you. When you think you are going to die, the result is the same in your brain, regardless of the type of trauma you endure." I cannot express how right about this Anthony is. Your brain, during the trauma, does not differentiate between perceived...

Actually, Maddog, (and thank you :) ) you make a very good point. I was also set off by the weather, the light, the change of the season. It was whenever it stopped being "summer" type weather, and began to behave in any manner like winter. That could be the type of weather, lack of light...

LOL Eleanor I agree, they are not ALL bad. I know there exist a great many who are very good, and that is the same in any profession, there are some that are really, really bad and some are really, really good, and a lot of them are in the middle. Just in my case I have been unlucky enough to...

While I can't pin point the exact cause for you, any and all of that is enough to cause PTSD. You've had a dysfunctional family, substance abusing household, been raped multiple times, had your life threatened, literally, at least twice, been in a long term abusive relationship. Your family...

Just continuing on with a new thought I just had reading this over... PTSD is very paradoxical, because having it actually INSTILLS the characteristics of the "good wolf" in a person. What do you gain from recovery that "regular" people don't have? Empathy, compassion, kindness, truth, and...

That reminds me of this old Cherokee Legend: An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. One evening he told his grandson about the battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. One is evil -- it is anger, envy, jealousy...

I completely agree. If a professional is not competent enough to figure out that you have both PTSD AND a dissociative disorder, then they really should not be treating a person with those diagnoses in the first place. Therefore, it really should not affect the treatment protocol.

I don't know how helpful this is going to be for you (lol) it is more just me saying you are not alone, and it will get better. One of my major traumas occurred the day after Christmas. For well over a decade (keep in mind here this was not my only trauma, I am not saying this will happen to...

Hi, I can only post so much for this, because the whole being labeled thing is a major trauma for me in and of itself. Suffice to say, yes it can be incredibly damaging. Personally, I find it helpful to know what I know I have, not what someone else labels me as. I know more than most...

I haven't experienced this my self, I have a 13 year old, but as soon as I saw the title of your post I had to answer you. I am so, so, so , so very sorry for your loss. I know that probably does not help you much but my heart just aches for you, I cannot begin to imagine what that must be...

Hi, I understand your predicament, since I have been abused by both my parents and have to live with both of them. Worse, after the horrific way my dad abused me and left me nearly crazy, the "snuck" him into living with us again a couple of years ago, not telling (or asking) me, because they...

I can't have orgasms. I wouldn't believe it was even possible for me physically, except in the almost 7 year relationship with my partner, it has happened 1-2 times. That is the only time it has ever happened in my entire life with a partner. And, I had bad flashbacks for the first year we...

KP & Maddog, Thank you for the much-needed support and reassurance, I really appreciate it, especially right now because I am feeling very alone in this. And quite fearful of how people are going to react to what I am going through, it seems to have made me feel more vulnerable than I have in...

Hi, I too, can relate. I have a lot of physical abnormalities, mostly congenital. One such thing is Bertolotti's Syndrome, which more or less means that my sacrum and lower vertebrae are fused together, causing a joint that is not supposed to be there. As a result, I have excruciating...

Lucycat, Sounds to me like you have one of the very few and far between GOOD psychiatrists out there. I completely agree with both of his views. While I've heard of people who have no traumatic background at all still having severe personality disorders--in that case, maybe the diagnosis...

Thank you both :) Anthony, I love your Avatar, that bird is *so* cute. Phoenix_Rising