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Transference, my friend! This is supposed to happen in therapy, to some degree. Grist for the mill.

I had DID and PTSD. It's gone, I'm healed. I tell you to remind you: not only will this state not last forever but healing is quite possible. This feeling will not last forever. My trick is to always make sure I do something I love everyday, and, to hell with rumination. No more...

That's a normal, healthy sign of introversion. Extroverts do exactly the opposite; they look others in the eyes while talking but then turn their eyes away when listening. The difference in practice all has to do with how we process our thoughts while speaking and listening. There is no right...

Yes, I worried too, at first. I was teaching high school at the time and worried someone would come out at work, even while I was lecturing. What I did: Just before entering the classroom, I'd instruct my kid alters (the ones who were coming out most) and say kindly but firmly, "Now, I must...

Does your therapist remind you of someone e!se? Could it be you are experiencing transference? Here's a blurb from Psychology Today about transference: Link Removed

Sounds like an alter of someone who got really hurt, and repeatedly, as a child. She is probably a misguided protector part. Internal communication will help her work through all of this. Help her understand she is a valuable part of you (she really is, she just has a negative way of getting...

Oh, this is so true. The "seizing control" point BlueOrange brought up is especially important. Alters generally only seize the body when they are denied access to 'out time'. Once there is positive communication internally, and the alters understand that they are to be allowed out at safe...

Actually, it doesn't sound weird at all. When overwhelmed like that, it's a lot easier and more comfortable to sit there in a dissociated state. You just gave yourself a time-out from the stress.

I had DID, and this happened to me a lot.

YES! I struggled with severe suicidal ideation for something like thirty years but then 'got over it'. Medication and therapy really didn't help me. What did? Making sure to spend time every single day DOING WHAT I LOVE TO DO and CONTINUALLY making plans to do these things. When I ruminate on...

Sometimes, it can feel emotionally threatening to see the details of one's traumatic past in writing. You are not alone in this. It's hard at first but many survivors - including me - have come to realize that we will never have proof of what happened to us. There comes a point, though...

Yes. Sounds like you you were experiencing a form of dissociation called 'derealization'. When that happened to me in therapy, it meant I was emotionally overwhelmed and just needed some emotional distance.

Exactly. Don't force it down your throat. Read as you feel comfortable. Easy does it. Just take it as it comes.

"I just have to give you a :hug:." Thanks, Pixie!

I did this often when I had DID. I never knew where I was going. I just knew I had to get away, to escape. Never figured out what I was running from. Sometimes, I'd even settle into a motel room (Got weird looks from the clerk because I was so close to home). I felt wonderfully safe in that...

There is no rule that says everything in that book applies to you. Perhaps a positive way to approach all of this is to simply realise that there is something your therapist believes you can learn from this book. Just read and take in whatever works for you.

I wonder if you are confusing flashbacks with dissociation? A flashback is a visual, auditory, or emotional experience that has nothing to do with the present. Examples: 1. I brushed my teeth just before leaving home. About an hour later, the toothpaste aftertaste suddenly tasted like semen...

It could be the flashbacks come hard during therapy sessions because that's where you feel safe enough to experience them. This is not a negative. What better place to have flashbacks? Therapy often feels this way. It doesn't mean you aren't progressing. Well, in a sense, your flashbacks are...

I don't tell people about my diagnoses. None of their business. I am also high-functioning, in grad school (mathmatics). There are many high-functioning - even brilliant - multiples out there.

Sorry to have scared you. DID needn't be scary. Personally, I was shocked when it first all came clear but, as others here have offered, I realized that, no matter, I was still the same person I was prior to diagnosis; nothing had changed. Once I hit that point - and it didn't take long - I...

I used to have both PTSD and DID. Excellent therapy and hard work on my part, followed by EMDR, brought me out from under both diagnoses. I tend to be a bit anxious now but that's a far cry from PTSD and/or DID. You are correct, though, that you will never be quite like you were prior to the...

Suppressed/repressed/dissociated memories sometimes initially pop up in abbreviated fashion. Sometimes it first appears in this fashion to keep the survivor from being overwhelmed by the complete memory. In your case, perhaps the memory is abbreviated and confused because you were so young at...

I'd like to suggest that you might prefer the word 'victim' at this point because the word emphasizes that you were wronged - someone purposefully, knowingly hurt you - and that what happened was not in the least your fault. This is a healing place for you right now. You may eventually come to...

Yes, exactly. It's frightening for a child to admit the truth, for the very reasons you mentioned. In fact, an abused child will almost always choose to remain with the abusive parent rather than risk the unknown foster home. "The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know." I'm...

I've only heard the word 'co-consciousness' used in reference to alters. It is safe to say that, given your therapist's use of the word, she at least considers you to have compartmentalized 'parts'. Your words could have come straight from my mouth during my DID years. I'm not saying you...