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This is a really tough situation. I’m sorry your needs are not being met. Please set some goals and markers for each day and be so gentle with yourself. Every hour you get through is something to be proud of. Do whatever you have to do to take care of your children and yourself.

You’re not alone. Witnessing. Please hang on. Wishing something will comfort you and help ease your symptoms.

When I was in elementary school, there were a couple of teachers who asked me questions and didn’t like my answers. But they talked to my parents and I can only guess they like the answers my parents gave. I was beaten, as a result, for bringing shame on the family and “lying” to teachers. In...

I was just going to post on my diary about a strange reaction to something that happened the other day. My insurance denied me mental health reimbursement...and instead of feeling panic and despair, i got angry! It was so clear to me that their denial was unjust and unethical. It was also clear...

Oh Freida. I’m so sorry. Sending you love and support.

Maybe abuse and untreated addiction are the only true relationship-killing problems? Because unicorns aren’t real. Whatever problem I’m trying to erase will be replaced at least equally by another problem. We are all fallible and we all make so many mistakes and have so many bad habits and...

Ive been thinking about this thread. What did your therapist say? It occurred to me that I would worry about the impact of a possibly negative experience. I wouldn’t want my husband to leave having a bad feeling and then be worried about my therapy or not have neutral or positive feelings about...

Personally, I think it’s always good to attend funerals if you can...but also remember that the hard work of grieving starts long after the service ends. You already know this. So, you can be a supportive, loving presence for the long haul....whatever you decide about the funeral.

Ah. I see. I’m not ready for that kind of openness either. My husband knows generalities but not specifics. I’m not sure I think it would be any good for him to know details. I would think about including him in therapy only to get tips and insights about dealing with my symptoms.

I am also a survivor of clergy abuse. I’m so sorry this happened to you. It takes time to find a good fit for a therapist but I think it is worth it and necessary. I don’t know what I would do without mine. Hang in there. Glad you are here. You deserve support.

Thank you, Albatross. That’s helpful.

Maybe I’m on the brink of an unhealthy attachment, too. I feel like my therapist is an important anchor in my week and I countdown the days until I see her. Well, for the past couple of months that I’ve been processing trauma, I rarely make it between appointments without needing to email, text...

I’m so sorry you have lost your therapist. I’m not in any kind of position to give advice about attachment or therapy in general. I wonder what will give you the most peace and the greatest healing. You deserve support. I’m terrified of my own attachment to my own therapist...and of talking...

This is challenging. It was never safe for me to get angry. I do get irritable and short...and then I try to put myself in a timeout until I can figure out what to do next. I’ve been indignant...but I don’t know if I’ve ever actually been angry at an appropriate time.

Well, I think you’re wonderful and always enjoy reading your posts. Relationships are hard work. They are necessary. I believe we need other people, fundamentally. I believe we cannot truly thrive alone. People disappoint and hurt us...and people also support and nurture and love and heal us. My...

Wow. I wonder how it would go? It could be really helpful, right? Definitely talk to your t about it and let us know what she says!

Oh, honey. I hear you. It took me years to make friends here after we moved. Years. Any chance you can go with your husband on the trip? What an awful situation. I’m so sorry you don’t have the support you need and deserve.

Something I’m working on is asking myself, what will happen if I end up in the hospital? Who will help me out then? If there are people who would step up in that instance, well then I need to start asking for smaller increments of that kind of help. Because my health is at risk and I am indeed...

Yes, such good points from wise people. What happened after is more important. We all make mistakes and what matters is how we repair them. He’s showing you his capacity and you deserve better.

No...I’ve been married for 18 years and it has never accidentally happened. I was raped anally so maybe that’s why? Maybe my awareness is heightened? I just can’t imagine it happening easily and accidentally. I also can’t believe I’m having this discussion. Maybe I’m experiencing some growth and...

Thank you for this thread. I’ve really been sabotaging myself lately.

I wish I hadn’t read this, but I did and I’m furious for you. My partner has made some accidental mistakes that have set off flashbacks: kissing me a certain way or touching an area of my skin too lightly. Those are truly accidental. Anal sex is not accidental. Please stop chasing this jerk. He...

Is there anyone who can come stay with you and help you?

I’m so sorry you felt invalidated here and elsewhere. So glad you are going to try to stick around and work through. You deserve support! Can I tell you this thread set off some major anxiety for me? I am officially diagnosed...I experienced life-threatening violence and long-term abuse...

I’m so sorry to hear about your primary care doctor and so relieved to hear your therapist is trustworthy and on your side. You deserve support you can count on.