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I agree wholeheartedly about setting boundaries to protect yourself. I understand the notion of respect for your elders but agree it must be earned, even by parents. As a mom, it is important to me that I lead a life full of integrity, humility and honesty so my children can truly respect and...

You never know what the future holds dear @Santa_Laurie . Your love is with your beloved children and that won't go away no matter how much time passes. There is always hope for the future. Hugs to you if accepted. :hug:

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for what you have endured and the betrayal of trust. I commend you on reporting and standing up for yourself! I hope you can find a T you can trust to work through all of this.

It makes sense to me. All these feelings and memories coming make me feel vulnerable and I hate it. My pride has been an issue for me and I use to see reaching out for help as a weakness. I really didn't have anyone I could count on growing up so I learned to rely on me and put up huge walls. I...

I've experienced major anxiety with this too. I suggest listening to music, talking to the dr beforehand and I've had the nurse hold my hand. My doctor is really good about explaining everything step by step and distracting in conversation too. It is really important and for me the fear of the...

Hello @joyfulgirl . I don't know if I have words of wisdom but I recently was removed from my management position due to many absences. At first I was devestated and felt that I let everyone down, including myself. It's been several weeks and my stress level is way down so I now am realizing it...

I commend you on doing this for your son. As the hostess, I would keep myself busy with food and such so you can minimize social interaction. I would also suggest a time limit on the party. Do you have any close friends or family coming that you trust? If so, I would come up with a code word...

Thank you @shimmerz for sharing this. I've educated my kids on this but still foubf my step daughter was chatting with someone online who she thought was her age. We nipped it in the bud immediately. Predators often pretend to be peers. The kids are only allowed to use the computer in our...

I wish all of that for you too. It's not too late though. You deserve to be respected and you are worthy of love. Don't let others define your self worth. You can share your feeings here with no judgement and know you are not alone.

Just like @FridayJones said, your wife has her victory in you and your children, your life together. I never thought I would have any of this and I do, so he didn't win, I DID! Reclaiming your life is powerful and brings great strength and determination. I understand your anger but don't...

I am so sorry you and your daughter are hurting so badly. I lost someone I loved to suicide. Our last conversation was a fight and he died a few hours later. I now know it was not my fault nor is it yours or your daughter's. I know that doesn't take away the pain but feeling responsible is so...

Hello @Mammo . Your reaction is not abnormal in the least given the incident you described. Whether you realize it or not, you may have been more affected by this. I had the same reaction for years and still struggle with it at times. Therapy helped me tremendously. If you haven't met with a...

Hello there @J_trustno1 . I have had serious trust issues and self esteem as well. I have also been married now for almost 15 years to a wonderful man who loves me for me, flaws and all. We are a team, working together to raise our children and take care of our home. I can honestly say though I...

I can absolutely relate. Not coping well at all this week but not giving in to feeling hopeless so I guess that is something, right?!?

I am a Christian too but forgiveness is your choice, period and shouldn't be forced on you as well as praying for him. I am sure she meant well but you are not responsible for him. Forgiveness is not the same as condoning. I did forgive both my attackers but it was for me, not them. I needed to...

What I have learned over the past several years is that my self worth is not dictated by another's opinion of me. I know to those who truly love me, my children and hubby, I am irreplaceable and priceless. Who I am is constantly changing and growing but at the core, I am kind, compassionate...

I am so very sorry for you loss. Wishing you comfort in this most difficult time.

Having dealt with a narcissist in the family, I can recognize the behavior and witnessed first hand the damage. Thank you for sharing your story. You words are both eloquent and powerful.

Thank you all for sharing. Hope is so importan! I too am a Christian and have been suffering from daily, debilitating migraines for 6 months now. Lately, I have been constantly worried about losing my job, not being a good enough wife and mother and begged God to help me not lose my hope. He...

I don't know that there can ever be justice, whether the offender is sent to prison or not. It doesn't take away the act or the harm to the victim. As a parent, I know I would lay down my life to protect my children and they know it. This Dad was doing just that and was justified. No parent...

I am so sorry for what you endured but you are right, you survived, are seeking help and that takes great strength . You are so incredibly brave.

Doesn't sound like you were selfish at all. Dealing with family and funerals in the best of circumstances is difficult and it sounds like you handled things extremely well. It's really good you recognize your needs and made an apt for therapy this week too. I honestly think you should be proud...

When I'm stressed, I blast music and clean. Somehow straightening up brings me peace, like I can control some of the chaos in my life, even if it's just one room one corner or even a drawer. A trip to the library is helpful for me too, brief trip out and can pick several types of books to...

Comedies work best for me. I don't think there is anything wrong with avoiding shows that trigger. For me, I think why put myself through it if not necessary?

It's funny, I always wore makeup in my 20s but when going on my first date with ny husband, I purposely didn't wear any, determined that he would like me for me or he wasn't worth it. To this day, he still tells me I'm beautiful without any makeup on. Wear it or don't, as long as it's about...