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This is fantastic! I am so happy for you! :)

First of all @Nate24 , I am sorry you are struggling but glad you are in therapy. I don't believe your feelings are invalid, not saying you have anything to worry about but saying everything is fine to your wife isn't fair to either of you. I think you can share your feelings without giving her...

It is very common, which to me is a tragedy. Especially when the abuse starts in childhood. I am comforted though that there are more resources, services and opportunities for victims of trauma, then there was 30-40 years ago. We still have a long way to go. I believe every voice matters and...

Isolation is definitely not good and I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time, especially when you have someone you care about make you feel badly about youself. I can understand wanting to avoid your abusers but not seeing any of your family should be your decision. Is there any way to...

Is there anyway you could stay with a friend, take a break? Your environment sounds very toxic and you certainly don't deserve to be treated this way. You are not a mistake and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

I am a wife and know I can be irrational at times myself. With that being said, we make a practice to not text each other during work, unless it is something very important. Neither he or I need that added stress while trying to focus and keep our jobs. When my husband is in a mood, so to speak...

You are not a loser by any means. You are strong and are fighting to reclaim your life, not allowing your attacker to dictate or take away anymore. This isn't going to be easy but it willl be so worth it. I think you are very brave and send you hugs and prayers. :hug:

Hello @Belle Reve , you very much belong here and are welcomed. What I love about this sight, there is no judgement, only encouragement. I was raped when I was 19, both the act and the violence traumatized me. I felt my life was over, no man would evet want me and I wish he had killed me...

I sincerely hope you find the support and encouragement you need in this forum. Unlike many friends and family, having peers who honestly do understand what you are facing, can share much more compassion and insight to help. Your feelings are valid and important. My motto is don't let the way...

It does get better. I couldn't leave my dorm room without having a panic attack, self medicated with large amounts of alcohol and couldn't hold a relationship. Therapy was both helpful through the trauma but helped empower me with taking back my life. You are very brave in both recognizing your...

Yes, although not quite in the same way. Major self esteem issuesand body image, strong need to control and intimacy issues. I am so sorry you had to endure such ugliness but am so happy you have found a therapist that is comforting and helpful.

I agree, it's ridiculous to blame the victim, as if we are responsible for being attacked. As if we want to relive the nightmare over and over, have trust issues and panic attacks. Rape is about power and control, not how one dresses to tempt another. It's an excuse rather than hold the...

I work in the system as a victim advocate and havibg been a victim myself, please kniw and exercise your rights as a victim. It varies state to state but I believe the more you know and what to expect, tge less scary it all is. Court hearings often drag on but it is very empowering to be there...

Vulnerability can be very scary, as is bringing up memories that we want to suppress. Sharing your feelings with a therapist can be a safe place, just go at your own pace. It does get more difficult before it can get better but I speak from experience that it is so worth it. It takes a lot of...

He does remember but may be putting up a front as if nothing happened. The nightmare inside him will eventually break through his glass house, God help his family. But you, you are so much stronger, you are a survivor and he doesn't deserve one more moment of your precious time. You don't...

I have been feeling extraordinarily overwhelmed lately and have done my best to act as if I'm in control.....truth is I'm a complete mess. I broke down sobbing this morning and admitted to myself that I have no control. I actually feel better. I don't know if this will help, but I'm finally at...

You are not selfish but I can tell you from experience, unfortunately people will let you down. I'm not excusing your teacher's actions and I'm not aware of the whole situation. Just know your voice does matter and someone else's behavior does not dictate your self worth. You have absolutely...

Welcome and I agree with the others recommendation to seek a therapist. None of what you shared sounds right for a father's behavior towards his child and I'm so sorry that you had to endure this. Every child should grow up feeling safe in their home. Please know whatever may come, you did...

I don't have a current therapist but agree that I may need to start up with one again. And yes, I think the fear of letting everyone down causes much stress, which helps fuel the migraines. It's a vicious cycle, one I am trying to overcome. Your kindness and suggestions do help, thank you @Yvy :)

I don't know what it is about this place, but I feel safer sharing here than with anyone in my life. Perhaps it's fear of judgment or that I won't be who I try so hard to be for those I love. I have been suffering from bad migraines since October (they just started 3 years ago) and was...

Hello there. Talking about your pain is very scary and overwhelming but it can be very empowering too, the first step in reclaiming your life. I know sleepless nights, which makes everything so much more difficult to handle. You should be proud of yourself in taking these steps towards help...

Hello @Gaara . I will not insult you by saying I understand how you are feeling but as a rape victim, I feared pregnancy and would probably have considered abortion for a moment. With that being said, as a mother, I believe every child is a gift, no matter the circumstances. You are not a...

Hello there, I just love your post. I've been in a cloud, depressed and frustration from constant, painful migraines, terrified of losing my job. This morning my daughter climbed in to bed with me and told me how happy she was that I was her Mom, because I watch over her, take care of her and...

I think it takes a lot of courage to share as you did @Mariah and you have nothing to be ashamed of nor did you deserve any of it. I was intoxicated when I was raped at 19 and felt such guilt but through therapy and good friends, I learned to stop beating myself up. You can learn to trust...

I don't have PTSD but I am known to be a fiercely protective mama bear. I think there aren't enough parents that are willing to advocate and stand up for their children so I support your motherly instinct 100%. With that being said, my daughter was evaluated for autism when she was little and I...