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Hello there Still... I love your avatar picture :> I feel like that a lot I know how you mean about feeling that at some point your life simply just has to turn around and start working but it never does - Well it did eventually for me but it took its sweet time about it. Here is a support...

Exactly scout, If it turns out that the treatment only buys more time for more torture, then it is time to let nature take its course. And yes, Lucycat - you are right as well - Cancer can come in many forms and there are many treatment options available - From my side, when I get the...

It seems to me that your family is totally thinking they are doing the right thing by being supportive in the best way they know how. And I totally understand your husband needing space to deal with his PTSD. If I were in your situation, maybe when things cooled down a bit emotionally, I would...

Nice job staying present and in the moment and not escalating the situation Rejoicing that you are safe - Laurie

I totally agree with joeylittle - This is your therapy, your time and your money - your life. In order for you to trust her, which I think is most important, it seems you need to find out if she is able to give you what you think is going to be the most beneficial for you or for her to explain...

Hi there I am kind of in the same boat you are - Although I have a pretty good handle on my PTSD these days, I am about to visit an oncologist to find out if I have bone cancer - it appears that there is a pretty good chance I do. If I find out I do, I am thinking of not doing a lot of...

That is also one thing to remember - As painful as things are - they will not last forever - even this horrible time will pass away. And if we can be as kind to ourselves as possible and put one foot in front of the other will find the hope and courage to get past this. Blessings - Laurie

For me what works is to work on staying focused on the present moment. For me fear means I am worried about something that might happen in the future. If I can take one thing at a time and realize that in each moment, there is nothing really there to be scared of. Some times I don't want to...

I like what J_trustno1 said - You are the one who controls your mind. What helped me was that when I thought of the things my father said to me that kept me prisoner and numb, I would get in a quiet place and meditate on those words and envision them like a helium balloon just floating away...

That is great!

All I can say is to follow your intuition and keep your heart in check. I think every once in a while you can test the boundaries to see where they are as long as you are okey dealing with how the other person might react - Just my two cents - Take care - Laurie

I rejoice Manu for your courage and patience to work on getting healed - I too am healing through working on my spiritual practice - so I know it can be done Keep up the good work Take care - Laurie

Hi weremonks - I noticed in my life that negative things used to feel so real - but then someone challenged me to find the real inherent existence in the things were causing my sadness - Is there inherent existence in the things that are making you sad? Or is it something we are choosing to...

Hi Jen - In situations like this, what works for me is to deconstruct things - If I have to go into a room that is a trigger, I think before I get in there - What part of the room is causing me the trauma - is it the walls? The windows? The pictures? The floor? If I really examine all the...

HI Nerdluvin - Welcome - Yep - What you describe sounds pretty normal to me. And it is totally possible to get through it even though now it seems so scary, intense and weird. I have gone through the feelings of suicide and definite dissociation - The great thing that I have learned is...

I liked when you talked about your sense of humor - I have found that now that I have chronic pain that I am developing a sense of humor about it. And work on remembering the momentary nature of all things - even pain. Wishing you luck and peace - Laurie

Hello Radical - I agree with what Joey says. This is a huge thing that happened in your life. You took the first step. That is great. So many people don't even have the courage to do that. I think it was very wise not to push it - you left the door open for the next conversation, when you...

Hi JEK - I rejoice that you made it through even though you are having lots of anxiety around it. Sometimes it helps me to rejoice when I make it through a difficult situation - just give myself a pat on the back. That tends to calm me down a bit. And like you, breathing. And what helps...

What might work is to rejoice - rejoice in yourself for being brave. Rejoice that you are trying to do something that is going to be of benefit of others instead of staying within yourself and your problems. All you can do is try and see what happens. I rejoice for you however it turns out.

Hi - I see what you are saying about your room mate. I know from my experience it is so easy as a PTSD sufferer to give people power over me. It is a fight to remember that this is my life. And all I can do is work on myself to strengthen the positive qualities I know I have and that what...

Hello Sarah - I think every traumatic experience has its own lift span and only you will know when the time is right to be able to open up and talk about it. Part of my trauma deals with the fact that my father was an alcoholic. My friend basically dared me to go to my first Adult Child of...

Hey - For most of my life, I wanted to and almost did several times get a tattoo on my arm that read MISFIT. I was a misfit my whole life. Still am in a way. But even through all the pain and suffering, I knew there was something good in me - I wanted to deny it but I could not - I had seen it...

Hi bekbek - I know some of what you are going through, I think. When I was growing up and my parents would leave at night to go out, I remember always thinking that it might be the last time I never saw them and if they did not come home on time, I would stay awake worrying until they came...

Hi Desiderata - It's easy to find the stuff about ourselves to hate - so much harder to find the good stuff. I know from my own side when all I can see is the negative in me, it is really hard to find the positive anywhere - even when someone is trying to do or say something to help. I...

HI Glad you are here and for now you are all right. Remember no matter what it seems like, you DO NOT have to believe everything you think. You are not your thoughts. They are simply thoughts - they will arise, abide for a while and then fade away. Blessings on you and your family - Laurie